I know of an artsy ISFP couple who are loving parents but struggle with setting boundaries for their children. They're both very laid-back people and it translates into their parenting. There is very little structure in their home. The children are under 10 years old and basically run the household - and the parents (being the easy-going type) are not setting any kind of discipline, but instead bend over to cater to their children's wishes (e.g running to McDonalds at 7 am on a schoolday to buy them hamburgers for breakfast, because they refuse to eat what was prepared) The children are growing up to be spoiled, lazy, and with little sense of responsibility/discipline, from what I see.
My husband knows of another couple -ISTP male and ISFP female - who also struggle with parenting and household organization. Their children are 4 and 2 years old, and they have no bedtime (e.g go to sleep whenever, sometimes at 11 pm on weekdays). Their house is always a mess. This couple also has major financial issues related to the 'sloppy' way in which they run their business - which has potential, but is being very mismanaged at the moment.
I can't help thinking that all of this disorganization has a lot of to with their perceiving traits - hence leading to them being very relaxed, easy-going, and not very structured when it comes to parenting, managing household duties, and running their business. Of course, I know all perceiver individuals are not like this. I think, though, that if each 'P' in the relationship was paired with a J, that there would be someone to bring balance... . to set a schedule for the children, pay the business bills on time, wash the dishes every 2 days etc etc., and that this would be a good thing. I definitely think my iSFP friend (in the first couple) could've benefited from being with an ISTJ, for example, instead of an ISFP. She's always been very-laid back. If she were married to an ISTJ, he would help to counteract her 'unstructuredness'. She could also maybe complement the ISTJ with her gentle, laid-back and free-flowing nature - maybe encouraging him to relax a bit and be spontaneous at times.
Anyway, those examples are related mostly to parenting and marriage, but it got me thinking. What do you think is best in a relationship? Two 'P's? Two 'J's? or a P and J combo?
Do 'P's have more fun together than they would with a J? Do two J's usually fight for control?