Hi, I'm a 30 years old guy. I recently found out about MBTI and got the INFJ results. It has been a journey of self discovery for this last few weeks. I also found out that my father is an ISTP. No wonder we have such different views of the world. For 30 years I've been living my life trying so hard to learn from him and felt wrong. I felt my father's way is not the right fit for me. He has this clear picture of how a man should fit in this world. He says I have to earn a lot of money, also how a man should be strong and ignore weak feelings, etc. Since I was a kid, my father had already planning to leave me his factory and continue his work, earn lots of money, etc. He said I have to learn about the machines, production, business, management, electronic stuff, etc. I also went to a university and learn about Engineering.
As you know famous people like Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, etc are INFJs as well. Can you imagine them learning about engineering and operate machines? haha.. It was so late in my 20's that I found out how to live in this world. Just be my best version of myself.
Oh yeah, my mom is an ESFJ. Sometimes she also felt depressed not having a lot of friends and can't let her feelings out easily. Both my mom and I, are living life not to the fullest because of my father's "perfect family" rules and standards. I love both my parents, but my caring and weird nature sometimes made me too afraid to sound my opinions. I know they just lack the knowledge as parents. But years ago, my father ignored me when I clearly asked for a therapist when I was a teenager. That was me "crying" for self discovery. He said that I don't need therapists, I should just motivate myself and also to save money.
So, my question is, how to change a traditional and clueless ISTP father's mindset so that I can finally reach my full potential and have my own place in this world? Thank You..