[BlueBlack]

INTJ vs INFJ vs INTP

All you guys out there, hello.
Im trying to find my type, I'm not an intp but id like to know too. I seem to be going back and forth between intj and infj. In a cognitive function test i did, i got NI, Ti, Ne Te, Fe, Fi, Si, Se. I don't usually display my emotions, but I'm aware of them. I have a high EQ so its weird. They drive me insane at times. I don't put my emotions before me, Its inconsistent. I feel empty when i ignore them but feel scattered when i try to acknowledge them. I rationalise and analyse my emotions, but when I'm stressed out, i tend to react impulsively and my emotions overthrow me.

How do you deal with your emotions? How do your emotions affect your decisions and how do they manifest in you?

[westlose]

Most of the time, I try to use both thinking and feeling while making a decision. But there's no doubt that my personal feelings will always be more important to me than profit. In a sense, I prefer to be poor and happy than rich and sad.
I think that the best way to be efficient, is to do what we like.

Emotions? In fact I'm not very expressive, since I'm detached from reality. But I do not have trouble expressing them if it's appropriate to do so. Most of the time I try to be serious, but I like having fun too. Good mood enhance productivity and efficiency.

I think that I have a good emotional intelligence, since I understand easily others emotions, and can put myself in their shoes. I can also control my emotions pretty well (anger, joy, and sadness, but not fear).

There's no doubt that our emotions our important and we should learn to understand them. If you have a good control of them, they will be useful. Otherwise, they will just explode and makes you act impulsively, and not really wisely.

[Morn]

Emotions are selfish and irrational. I do not trust them, I do not make decisions based on them.

The question to ask when you're deciding to do something, how much value do you give to how it will make you feel as opposed to the benefits and results of the outcome. Do you care more about being impartial and objective or care more about how it will make people feel?

[PPM]

I think my actions are influenced by my emotions way way more than I am consciously aware. But that probably has more to do with enneagram and factors like my fear of being incompetent, or just me being impulsive. On a conscious level I dislike my thoughts/analysis being clouded by my personal values. When I feel strong emotions I tend to wallow in them and have no clue how to deal with them, so I just withdraw from the world until I calm down.

If you are undecided between INTJ and INFJ, I would suggest trying to figure out if you relate more to Fe or Fi. As an INTP I have no qualms about 'faking' an emotion externally to smooth out a situation. My ability to do so is pretty poor but I would assume that people with Fi would be less comfortable with the notion of externalizing an emotion they don't actually feel (not to say that they can't).

[The Nameless Composer]

I'm not sure if I can adequately describe it. Depends how strong the emotions are. How do they affect my decisions? Hmmm...trying to think of an example. Well if curiosity and wanderlust could be called an 'emotion' it makes me more spontaneous. I guess I deal with my emotions by sometimes rationalising them, but just accepting them. I find feeling bad about having emotions is counterproductive.

[Hexcoder]

INTJ vs INFJ vs INTP

All you guys out there, hello.
Im trying to find my type, I'm not an intp but id like to know too. I seem to be going back and forth between intj and infj. In a cognitive function test i did, i got NI, Ti, Ne Te, Fe, Fi, Si, Se. I don't usually display my emotions, but I'm aware of them. I have a high EQ so its weird. They drive me insane at times. I don't put my emotions before me, Its inconsistent. I feel empty when i ignore them but feel scattered when i try to acknowledge them. I rationalise and analyse my emotions, but when I'm stressed out, i tend to react impulsively and my emotions overthrow me.

How do you deal with your emotions? How do your emotions affect your decisions and how do they manifest in you?

In short:
SHARING helps INFJs get their emotions under control so that they can either find solutions or let it go. Sometimes they "get it out" then move on, avoiding conflict, which means they *often never find a solution at all.* They just "deal with it."

SOLUTIONS ease the INTJs emotions so they can move on, while sharing makes INTJs feel uncontrolled, weak, and vulnerable; if nothing else, at very least, it's awkward or pointless. Without confronting problems, they either struggle to move on or they move on from the entire person, solving the problem the only way left that they can instead.



In Depth:
MBTI is a personality test, but it honestly has more to do with your strengths and weaknesses, and how you process information and cope with the outer world and your own inner world. Take a look at your coping methods.

In order to understand, we have to break down the functional stacks.

INTJ INFJ
Ni Ni
>>Te<< >>Fe<<
>>Fi<< >>Ti<<
Se Se

The INFJ's Fe / Ti will cause them to cope with emotions via release; they need to express their emotions, they need to get things off their chest, in order to feel better. They feel the need to share things, often times not even looking for a solution. They want emotional comfort / release of some sort. Sometimes this release of emotion is sufficient enough for them to move on. If they do search out a solution, it's usually after they've released it all and cleared their heads. Usually though, they just move on or bottle, preferring to avoid the conflict.


On the other hand, INTJ's Auxiliary is Te and Tertiary Fi, which will make it so that the INTJ will primarily seek solutions, and actually even use the solutions themselves to ease their emotions. They will set their personal feelings aside in order to efficiently deal with things. (Note: anything BUT this method seems entirely ridiculous to INTJs and this is why they see emotionally expressive people as emotionally weak. The INTJs see someone having a meltdown and, if it's something that can be fixed, basically think the people need to get a hold of themselves, stop losing emotional control, and just fix it.) If there is no solution, things get a little different...but for the most part INTJ emotions are honestly pretty basic, and comparable to a chess board (think of the the king piece as their emotions, and the rest of the pieces as their Te logic, intelligence, strategy, planning, foresight, forethought, etc.)

A lot of INTx's mistake themselves for F's because they get very intense emotions that they don't always know how to deal with. Key difference is, when you feel those intense emotions, if you first try to use your head to reason it out, you're an NT. INTJs emotionally struggle with problems that have no solutions. If you first have to get it out of your system, and don't always have to reason it out, you're an NF.

Unlike the inFj, to an inTj, not confronting and solving the conflict is just a repeat waiting to happen. They can't just "let things go." Asking them to do this is like asking them to leave their king in check; unless the problem is gone, it's only a matter of time until checkmate. Imagine how uneasy of a feeling it is to have your king in check during an important chess game, that is how uneasy INTJs feel when a problem is left unresolved. They see confrontation as a means to an end, and they know that without facing problems you cannot fix them. Mature INTJs know the difference between confrontation and conflict, and the only time they avoid that confrontation is if they deem something / someone as not being worth their time or energy, or if (since still introverted) they don't have the social energy for it.


In personal relationships, the INTJ will often "cut people out of their life" if the people refuse to face and therefore solve problems, and other types who are more prone to avoidance of conflict, may see this as the INTJ "enjoying conflict" or "needing to argue" or "having to have things their way or the highway." This also is a GRAVE misunderstanding that couldn't be further from the truth. In reality, INTJ knows you cannot solve any problem you do not face, so by NOT confronting, you're essentially robbing the INTJ of their equivalent of how most people "get it all out" via crying. Logical solutions are their emotional consolation. They need their "emotional release" and the longer they go without it, the easier it is for their emotions to overthrow them.

[Hexcoder]

Emotions are selfish and irrational. I do not trust them, I do not make decisions based on them.

The question to ask when you're deciding to do something, how much value do you give to how it will make you feel as opposed to the benefits and results of the outcome. Do you care more about being impartial and objective or care more about how it will make people feel?

Mature INTJs can be very deeply considerate of peoples' feelings, and tactful, as they grow to see it as a more effective way to get the results they want. A lot of times this also comes when they have children, or get into a serious relationship, etc. as well. Whether or not you're considerate of peoples' feelings has nothing to do with T/F; just because someone has a well developed Fe doesn't mean their Te/Fi isn't stronger.

[Wartime Consigliere]

Mature INTJs can be very deeply considerate of peoples' feelings, and tactful, as they grow to see it as a more effective way to get the results they want. A lot of times this also comes when they have children, or get into a serious relationship, etc. as well. Whether or not you're considerate of peoples' feelings has nothing to do with T/F; just because someone has a well developed Fe doesn't mean their Te/Fi isn't stronger.

100x this.

To me at least, seeing someone who's too quick to unnecessarily insult or marginalize someone else when there's a more beneficial path of action available is cringe-worthy. I've always found it strange that PR strategies aren't celebrated online more among Te-types, since being socially naive can easily waste the opportunities you're presented with. And chances are, if you have ambitious goals in mind, you'll need the help of other people to achieve your goals to a greater extent.

[peter pettishrooms]

Mature INTJs can be very deeply considerate of peoples' feelings, and tactful, as they grow to see it as a more effective way to get the results they want. A lot of times this also comes when they have children, or get into a serious relationship, etc. as well. Whether or not you're considerate of peoples' feelings has nothing to do with T/F; just because someone has a well developed Fe doesn't mean their Te/Fi isn't stronger.

Yes. Because I've been a victim of abuse, this applies to me. The catch is though that I feel like I need to relate to your conflict in order to empathize with you or have a close relationship with me.

[Hexcoder]

Yes. Because I've been a victim of abuse, this applies to me. The catch is though that I feel like I need to relate to your conflict in order to empathize with you or have a close relationship with me.

To be honest, I can't say I've ever experienced that. I'm not sure. I know I don't empathize with how others feel very well unless I've felt it before too and know what it's like firsthand, if that's what you mean.

As for feeling like I have a close relationship with someone though...as long as we can work through our issues effectively--aka they know the difference between confrontation and conflict, and don't run while calling me an aggressor when I gently try to fix things--I can eventually feel connected with just about anyone, really.

Empathy and all that comes over time, through gaining insight and understanding. It takes a lot of time for me to really understand someone's emotions from an emotional perspective, and usually I don't actually understand unless I experience it firsthand (I just keep trying to use my head to empathize which just results in an objective comprehension instead), but I can understand them from a logical and problem-solving stance right off the bat. In other words, even if I can't understand exactly what it is they're feeling, I generally know exactly how they can "fix it" or stop feeling it.