Do either or both ring bells?
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Do either or both ring bells?
I do feel that your ENFJ boyfriend is emotionally manipulating you. It is better for you that you get out of the relationship and keep away from him. Try to avoid toxic people in your life. You should try avoid being very close with him. Donít depend only on him for your happiness. You will be fine without him, donít worry. You do deserve to be happy. There is nothing wrong in being single. It is better to be single than being with the wrong person. You will find the right guy in the future donít worry. I really do encourage using the suicide hotline number or calling 911. Seek professional counseling in this situation.
Don't walk. Run. Like, yesterday.
I'm 36 years old and an INFP. I have both used these same tactics on others (when I was much younger and, thankfully, to a less dramatic degree) and I've had these tactics used on me. Your intuition is not wrong. I know you're worried that it is wrong, but it's not.
Im an ENFJ and...I think he's really VERY unhealthy. The best you can do for you and him is to leave him and protect yourself. Don't talk to him better. Make sure to take him out of your life for good. Despite his personality, all personality types can have personality disorders. He seems to be having one now and seems it can get even worse for you both. Im so sorry u.u
Some of his behavior sounds like my INFJ friend's first boyfriend who was an unhealthy INTP. It could be unhealthy inferior or tertiary Fe too (xSTP's and xNTP's). Generally, I do associate Fe more with emotional manipulation like that but in reality, any type can be emotionally manipulative - especially if they're narcissistic or whatever else.
More importantly, I agree with the others' comments in that he sounds like a total asshole and I think you should leave him. I can't imagine any redeeming qualities that you see he has making his abusive behavior towards you okay. It doesn't sound like a healthy dynamic by any means. If you can't bring yourself to leave him for you, then think of it this way - you're only enabling his abusive behavior by staying with him which in the grand scheme of things hurts not only you but him as well.
The behavior you are describing could be unhealthy behavior in any type. They always say isolating someone is the first step to physical abuse. Since he talks suicide whenever you need something changed, you are already being emotionally abused. Get out of there, please.
Leave him and never go back! He's insecure, and selfish, and very much bad news!
"Is my ENFJ boyfriend emotionally manipulating me?"
I agree that he is manipulating you! Don't let this behaviour continue. I see some major major red flags of a purely unhealthy individual. Forget typology, he is just plain and simple unhealthy. It's going hurt you in the long run. He needs professional help to explore some deeper issues. I know you want to help & be a the kind person you are, but you don't deserve to be treated this way.