Is my ENFJ boyfriend manipulating my emotions?
Hello! This is my first post and I was really hoping I could get some advice for my relationship. I feel uncomfortable talking about this with people I know personally. (Also Iím sorry for my crappy writing skills lol)
So my boyfriend is an ENFJ and weíve been dating for about a year and a half. I really love him and he has a lot of great qualities but Iíve been really concerned about our relationship. He has put a lot of pressure on me to do things I donít believe in. I know I have a lot of convictions but he makes me sacrifice them all the time.
In the past, if he thought I was going to break up with him (which I wasnít) he would become suicidal. After that, it got to the point where he would act suicidal purely because I was upset about something he did. I then began to realize it was most likely a manipulative tactic. I have a sore spot for someone playing suicidal for personal gain because of my past depression. I began to see that it was like he was putting on an act. Is that a sign of an unhealthy ENFJ?
I would really love boundaries in our relationship but he just doesnít take no as an answer. Like how I didnít want him to physically touch me in a certain way but he would freak out at me and tell me that other girls would do it. I always give in to his demands. He seems to care mostly about sensual gratification rather than my feelings.
His jealousy also really concerns me. He used to get mad if a guy just made small talk with me. He pushed me away from having friends. I had friends that were girls but he got really upset that I spent any time with them which wasnít very much to begin with. I really want to be with him but sometimes i feel so trapped and unhappy. I would really love To know if heís an unhealthy ENFJ or something else?