I was having a fascinating conversation with my ISFJ mother this evening... sometimes Si and intuition can intersect in a really interesting way.
We were talking about my lifelong expanding bubble, and what causes people in general to either shrink or expand their boundaries?
For instance, my mother was taught as a child to shrink herself down out of the way to avoid "being a nuisance"... so even though she's pretty introverted, she doesn't react when people encroach on her space.
Note: This goes beyond physical space and into mental space as well, including the sharing of thoughts and feelings.
On the other hand, I was originally given a lot of personal space and freedom as a child, followed by a traumatic few years where there simply wasn't such a thing as privacy or non-participation. Where nothing was mine and others had the right to interfere.
One particular incident occurred when I was 15, reading a book in a rare moment of solitude... and a lady came over to bug me. "What are you reading?" she asked, and I, being super engrossed and therefore annoyed, uttered one of the few sarcastic comments of my entire teenager-hood, saying "A book".
Cue the dramatics! I later received a dressing down from the boss lady, who also yelled at my mom, for making the lady cry from my "meanness". LOL
Once this oppressive phase of my life was over, around the age of 17, my requirements for personal space just exploded. Suddenly I wanted maximum distance in public places, and to have more & more time alone (above normal introversion), just so I could keep the things and experiences that were mine, my own.
It's odd to compare this to my mom who remained more accepting throughout her whole life, despite the emotional abuse she had suffered.
So this left us wondering... what factors influence the way a person responds to personal bubble invasions, as well as other boundaries, besides E/I?
Is there perhaps an age range where certain experiences are more impactful?
Do you think people ever grow out of needing... I want to call it "therapy space"?
What circumstances have affected you and the way you monitor / control / accept others in your "space", and what do you consider your space to be? Does it go beyond the physical?