Again and again on PerC I see NTs say things that seem to suggest profound cluelessness about how emotions work. It's usually some variation of "that emotion is stupid/a waste of time," "people shouldn't feel this way," or "I just decide not to feel that."
Do human beings generally have enough control over their emotions to make any of these sensible? Emotional reactions happen fast and are largely automatic, instinctive. We can decide how to deal with them or whatever triggered them after they've occurred, but we can't really stop them immediately or prevent feeling them spontaneously in the future.
I wonder whether people confuse distracting themselves (such that they are no longer consciously aware of their emotions) with actually ceasing to feel the emotion.
Emotions are information about how things affect us, information about attitudes of which we aren't necessarily consciously aware, attitudes that we may (wrongly) try to ignore. So they are useful, not "stupid," and outside of serious psychological problems and trauma, they don't usually take up the whole day or the whole consciousness, so they aren't a "waste of time." Perhaps instead of telling, I should ask: are your emotions typically so distracting that they prevent you from doing other things? Are you psychologically equipped to stop yourself from feeling anything beyond minor annoyance on the spot?
And saying that people shouldn't feel a certain way—such a pointless and judgey statement. Why shouldn't they? What harm does it cause? I guess it makes sense to someone who believes that people can just shut emotions off at will.