I would love to have discussions, and get to know other people who are into DYT, and if you have never heard of it, I encourage you to check it out, because I really do recommend it. I'd like to share my story, because it was really life changing for me.
I just discovered it not that long ago - I downloaded her free e-book and did her free course and watched all her videos on youtube. She classifies people into 4 different types, based on their "energy type" and their personalities, body language, even the sound of their voices and physical appearances. She believes that when you dress true to your energy type, you not only look better, but you will improve your life in many ways, you will have increased confidence, and your relationships with others will be better as a result of you being authentic to yourself and appearing true to your inner nature.
I took it all with a grain of salt at first, but the more I studied it, the more I realized there was actually something to this, so I began to take it very seriously and applied it to my life. I was at a place in my life where I was unsure of who I was, and looking for some kind of direction, and because I wasn't sure of who I was truly, I was unsure of what I wanted to dress like, or simple things like how I wanted to style my hair. So I didn't do it to look better, I did it because she claimed that doing this would help me be more authentic to myself and find my true nature.
When doing the facial profiling and reading up on the personality traits, I was stuck between thinking I was a Type 2 and Type 4 for many days. I obsessed and over analyzed it for hours without even eating (and was still confused about what type I was even though she clearly stated many times that Type 4's are the only ones who get so obsessive and analytical about it lol) and then I watched her video where she explained that sometimes we need to let go of preconceived ideas of ourselves, or past hurts, that made us pretend to be something we were not and she led this tapping exercise that let you release those judgements of self, and it was very powerful for me. After doing that, I was able to see my truth. That profound self realization hit me, and changed my life forever.
The reason I couldn't see myself clearly at first was because I didn't want to. I was afraid to accept it.
I am a Type 4. It's not just the fact that I have the facial features and body language of Type 4's, it's also that every SINGLE thing she wrote in her book about Type 4's resonated with me so strongly that I felt like it had been written about me. The thing is, I wanted to be a Type 2.
I strongly believe that my body was hanging onto fat and water retention due to psychological reasons. I had anxiety and ptsd from a past of sexual abuse and literally felt like I didn't want to look beautiful anymore, so I started to purposely dress down and no longer wear makeup and no longer care for my appearance etc. I find it interesting that I began to take on some Type 2 appearances (I think some of them look like they have water retention, which makes sense since they are connected to watery and fluidy elements and are very sensitive). I also think Type 2 is probably my secondary Type. (You can have secondary types).
I won't get all into the emotional mess I was in when reading this, but it really spoke to me, because I realized that I had been so ashamed of my Type 4 personality traits, and I wanted to be Type 2. And when she said, those are natural personality traits that I can't change, and that they are in fact, gifts, I was at first really upset about that, because I wanted to change myself, but then after giving it some time, I started to love myself and began to see those things as gifts. For the first time in my entire life.
You don't know how big that is for me. I struggled with low self esteem, anorexia and body image issues. I always felt ashamed about my "bold" personality, always thought I was a bad person. My boldness got me hurt many times. When I recovered from anorexia and my addictions, I tried so hard to be something I was not, and I've always felt miserable and like I'm just not being true to myself, but I could never figure out who I was.
I'm not exaggerating, like it's only been a couple days since I've started to dress my truth, and accept who I am, and I feel so amazing. I feel confident. I have never felt confident in my entire life. I didn't realize literally how important it is to wear these colours, these textures and types of fabrics. They literally effect my mood and make me feel "true to myself" in a way I don't think makes any logical sense, but what it is doing to me is completely out of this world. I feel good about myself now.
Not only that, but when I look at myself, I look so different, in a good way. She said, that when a Type 4 is dressing their truth, their skin clears up and looks phenomenal. Well, it's true, my skin looks super amazing all of a sudden. Wearing the colours I used to wear, my skin looked horrible. I even look very skinny wearing Type 4 clothes, and I'm really not lol. I guess the other colours make me look very frumpy.
She said, that when Type 4's aren't dressing their truth, it causes conflicts in relationships with others because other people can sense when you're not being authentic, and that causes a lot of issues in the way you are perceived by others and treated by others. More specifically for a Type 4, because they have such bold energy, when they dress down, their bold energy still leaks through and it catches people by surprise, which they don't like. But when you do dress in the bold type 4 colours and style, people will know what to expect because your energy matches the way you look, and this somehow makes people treat you better.
I resonate with that a lot. I was worried, just like she says in her book, that if I was to dress more bold, that people would be even more hostile towards me, but the opposite is happening now, people are friendly to me. They are intimidated, but very respectful, and when I initiate conversation with them they are very pleasant towards me.
Whereas before, people were constantly abusive, hostile and angry towards me. 9 times out of 10, they would become that way out of nowhere, but usually insisting I was being "aggressive" to them, and I was always never doing anything (in my opinion lol). Most times I wouldn't even say anything and people were getting angry at me, which was making my ptsd and social anxiety much worse every day, because this happened so often.
So, I literally thought dressing down to appear more gentle and friendly, and pretending that I was a gentle, laid back, easy going person, was going to help my relationships with other people in my life.
But the truth is I am NOT a gentle or easy going person. I'm just not. I wanted to be, but I'm not. And I think, it's true, that when I was pretending to be laid back, people were not buying it.
I have even had complete strangers act very shocked and tell me they could feel my energy and that it felt really intense for them and they had never experienced anything like that before. So I really do understand what Carol Tuttle was talking about in her book in regards to the energy! As weird and new agey as it sounds, I get it!
And just like she promised, now that I am dressing true to myself, people are treating me differently, they are treating me kinder. They ARE intimidated by me, just like she said they would be, but the attention I do receive is all respectful now. And it's not like I'm dressing incredibly formal, I mean I was wearing a bold fluorescent pink with blacks today. It's true I don't think many people can pull of wearing fluorescent colours. But it looks really good on me lol. It's only been 2 days, but I've been around people in public all day yesterday and today and my social interactions are amazing, and to me that's probably the best thing about this, because I no longer have to suffer from social anxiety, which was pretty crippling before this.
It's not just about the colours though. We have to wear certain shapes too, that best suit our personalities. And she said that when it comes to clothing, Type 4's mainly care about the fit of a garment, and also clothes that don't create any movement, are very rigid and structured, just like our personalities.
I didn't know that about myself yet because I had never tried to wear clothes in that description before. But when I did try it, I was like, omg this is definitely what I love.
When I began to pay more attention to my shopping habits, and the clothes that sat in my closet and were never worn, I realized I am extremely picky when it comes to fit. It's actually a real struggle to find clothes I like because of that, but I just didn't realize the "fit" was the reason I didn't like most clothes until she mentioned it. I was never really that self aware about things like that.
To be honest, I fell into the category of Type 4's who discard fashion completely and just wear what they have to wear. I was like a minimalist I guess, but couldn't figure out what I loved to wear, because I pretty much hated everything and nothing felt "comfortable" or "right" to me.
I had never thought to try her suggestions before, and her suggestions are SO accurate for me.
Another thing I felt was interesting was, back in the day, I started dressing in Type 4 colours for awhile and I was looking back at pictures of that, and realized I looked really good in those pictures but not so great in pictures where I was wearing other colours. I feel like during that time of my life, I was more connected with what I enjoyed when it came to style, and expressing my personality through style. But I ended up ditching all fashion and style when I recovered from anorexia, with the false belief that I could no longer care about vanity (I took that belief to extremes, which is also common for type 4's to do).
But obviously, not caring about my appearance at all, was a huge factor in why my confidence was lacking so much.
I just literally can't say enough good things about her program. It has changed my life so much, in a good way. And it's interesting, that now that I know my weaknesses (for example my black or white thinking) I can start to make choices to find a better balance like she recommends. So it's not like I'm ditching my entire wardrobe. I have a few things, especially my beige coloured winter coats with fur that I just love, I'm not going to stop wearing those just because those colours don't suit my personality. I might just find a balance, and wear some other things that do suit my personality along with those. I don't see why I can't mix and match sometimes, because if Carol believes that we all have each Type in our personalities, but that we are dominant with one type, and that it is important to find a balance, then I don't see why I can't incorporate some other styles into my wardrobe in small amounts, just as long as I continue to be true to myself. Because, I do have some elements of Type 2 in my features and personality. I don't see any evidence of other types in my physical appearance or body language, but apparently we all have bits of each type in us.
Anyways, sorry that's so long. I would love to hear about your experiences with it and meet some people who are into it. They won't let me join their facebook groups for some reason, I've sent a million requests.