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Do you need to love your career to be happy in life?

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  • I need to love what I do to be fulfilled.

    535 47.98%
  • I need to like it, but I work to pay bills and do cool stuff.

    427 38.30%
  • In the end, I work for money, alone.

    44 3.95%
  • Who cares? Life is meaningless and we're all gonna die...

    109 9.78%
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  1. #101

    I was born with a few gifts or talents and felt a call, a natural pull or direction. The talents supported the call, and were instrumental in getting certain positions. I cared little about the money as long as I was doing what I liked. That the work ended up paying rather well was an aside. I think I did what I was meant to do, and worked where I was supposed to work.

    That said, ample funds are better than the poverty that can accompany a person’s dreams. But the dream is important. We should dare to dream and not underestimate ourselves. Living the dream is a rewarding personal experience.

  2. #102

    I naturally gravitate to things that I like to do. That which I like becomes a focus until I achieve expert-level mastery. That workmanship stands out, and I find that paths open up that allow me choose to take on new roles and responsibilities that better fit my interests, etc.

    So, even if I'm doing a job that wouldn't normally be very fulfilling, I look for those situations where the methodology above can be put into practice. It usually doesn't take more than a few weeks or months and I find myself being shuffled into areas where I'm more fulfilled and better utilized.

    My first job out of school was with a small company that was very poorly run. I started out making $26K a year. Within months, I was getting raises, $2k here, $4k there...and in the first two years I was approaching $40k. After 10 years, I had topped out at $60k and things weren't getting better. Around that time, I found out how much the C-level players were paying themselves (family-run business where all the top brass were siblings), and insisted that they pay me $80k. The answer was, "Of course! We're surprised you didn't come to us and demand this sooner."

    What a stupid thing to say to someone. At that point, I was sure I was still woefully underpaid for what I was doing and the value I brought to that company, but I didn't have enough experience with other companies, plus I was laboring under the fallacy that "If I just work hard, they'll recognize that and pay me what I'm worth!" Sometimes that's true. Often it is not.

    After another 5 years, I realized I was in a total dead-end situation and it was never going to improve where I was. I left that company and negotiated a deal with a different company for $103.5k. This was like a magical new level of life experience. We could finally afford to live at the lifestyle level we wanted without worrying about making ends meet. Our savings account was actually accruing some value, etc.

    At this point I had 17 years in my industry and was well-known. The biggest player in that particular market reached out and poached me away with a larger offering. THIS company does recognize talent and pay for it. There are yearly bonuses that are based on profit, but are still very generous. Great benefits, and regular performance-based raises.

    I have done all of this coming from abject poverty, mentally unstable, abusive, and drug/alcohol-addicted parents. (Ever ask your dad for $20 for gas for the car? My dad would ask me for $20 for smokes and a 6-pack.) My highest degree is a 2-year associates degree from a now-defunct technical school in an engineering field that is only tangentially related to what I do. I am primarily self-educated, because government schools are mostly garbage and have been for over 40 years.

    Whenever I hear people lament how hard or unfair life is, I usually just put on an impassive mask and try to move away from them as quickly as possible. So many people have so many advantages and squander them. They spend their entire lives blaming someone else - their parents, society, their boss, their spouse, or "circumstances". People like that will ALWAYS find themselves in a miserable and "unfair" situation, because they carry it around with them everywhere they go.

    YOU are the biggest problem in your life. The sooner you can come to grips with that, accept responsibility, and determine to make the change, the sooner your life will begin to change. But most people aren't capable of such a self-directed life-changing experience. And the longer you wait to make this conscious decision, the less likely you are to ever be capable of doing it.

    The human brain is still forming until about your 30th birthday. After the age of 30, the neural pathways inside your brain are set. Physically unchanging and unchangeable. This is why older people rarely change their political orientation after 30. They can't. Their method of reasoning - how they take information in, how they process it, and how they apply it to themselves - is fixed forever.

    If you're young, you still have a chance. Don't squander it.

  3. #103

    I'm having a major mid life crisis that's at least partly about hating my career. I used to really love it when I was younger, but those days are far gone now, and I don't see them returning (I loved my work because of things that either don't apply anymore or that I don't care about anymore). I'm happy-ish in my life otherwise, but it does take a lot out of me to hate my job this much.

    I feel too old to try to build another career (I would need to go study something completely different first and start from nothing, with people half my age competing for those entry level positions), so now I fantasize about downsizing and having a simple no-stress job that just pays the bills. But I doubt that I'll ever have the courage to do it.
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  5. #104

    I need to at least like/tolerate it; I couldn't spend 8 hours a day Monday through Friday being miserable. Money is still the main reason I work though.
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  6. #105

    I'm a dishwasher. My boss asked me if I took pride in my work. I told him I just work. He seemed confused by my answer. The real reward comes from learning about different egos, how they were constructed, and how to deconstruct them. I also get to learn about myself and adjust accordingly. I went through a couple of years as a psych major. In retrospect, the professors were totally unaware of what it means to rescue someone.

  7. #106

    It depends. If you have a financial safety net thanks to a supportive family as well as access to diverse education/training opportunities--and you live somewhere where different job opportunities are available, then you can take the time to find out what career makes you feel fulfilled. If you're not lucky enough to be in this position, then all you can do is make the best of your circumstances and available opportunities. Some people find fulfillment outside of work.

  8. #107

    Careers is the least place from where I would expect happiness. I always was original, I mean, I have never put too much in a career. If I got a promotion it was because I naturally stood out for that, never much effort. World needs original ideas, no exaggeration, true feelings, authenticity, and with all that an overwhelming desire of never quitting.
    Mick Travis thanked this post.

  9. #108

    Working is one of th things that I put for my importance to anything else.

  10. #109

    I think you should... to a minimum at least mildly like it. It has to generate at least some minimal amount of pleasure. If you're neutral or negative towards your job, you will feel it is a chore and doing a daily chore for X hours per day... It's not a good way to live a happy life.
    Mick Travis thanked this post.

  11. #110

    Quote Originally Posted by Strelnikov View Post
    If you're neutral or negative towards your job, you will feel it is a chore and doing a daily chore for X hours per day... It's not a good way to live a happy life.
    I think the whole economic system is backwards.

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