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How do you deal with trust?

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  • I trust everyone all the time.

    5 2.30%
  • I trust everyone until I'm betrayed.

    45 20.74%
  • Trust is earned.

    62 28.57%
  • Trust is a privelege.

    17 7.83%
  • Trust is rare; only given to a few

    55 25.35%
  • I sleep with one eye open.

    20 9.22%
  • I do not trust anyone at all.

    13 5.99%
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This is a discussion on How do you deal with trust? within the Polls forums, part of the Announcements category; Originally Posted by Irulan But then, what do we mean by trust? I think you make a good point here. ...

  1. #11

    Quote Originally Posted by Irulan View Post
    But then, what do we mean by trust?
    I think you make a good point here. What do we mean by trust?

    Me personally, I define trust as in what I will allow myself to do with/around another person, or what I will allow another person to do with/around me. I'm not sure if this makes sense though. An example would be an ex of mine who asked me to marry him; well, for one I never trusted him. We weren't together long enough for me to trust him. He asked me three times, and each time I said no, that I didn't trust it; that relationship didn't last much longer.

    Talking about myself...there are quite a few things about my life that I honestly don't mind talking about. I will gladly talk to people about my family, past, present, etc., if they ask. It's when we start getting into emotional, or very personal talking, that I don't feel right talking to just anyone about it.
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  2. #12

    i have never met anyone i trust 100%
    even with the people i trust a little bit, part of me is still unsure.

  3. #13

    Quote Originally Posted by Aerorobyn View Post
    Talking about myself...there are quite a few things about my life that I honestly don't mind talking about. I will gladly talk to people about my family, past, present, etc., if they ask. It's when we start getting into emotional, or very personal talking, that I don't feel right talking to just anyone about it.
    This is where my confusion about the question lies.

    I don't talk about personal things to anyone. (Well, that is currently beginning to change. But for most of my life I haven't, and I certainly only barely do to two people right now.)

    To me, this does not mean that I don't trust most people. I believe that they are decent people and they won't betray my trust, but I am just a very personal person and I prefer to be left alone. (Oh, gosh... Maybe I am self preservation. The horror!!!) So I generally get a trustworthy "vibe" from most people, I just don't act in a way that is excercising trust of them. Does this make sense? I suppose it would be accurate to say that I am generally on the naive side with other people. If someone is seriously creepy I will notice and avoid them, but that's about it. People who are that creepy only come around once or twice a year so it's not a very common thing. It generally takes some sort of betrayal for me to lose trust in most people.

    I think I may be overthinking this. My first answer was correct.

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  5. #14

    I do not trust anyone at all.

  6. #15

    Trust is earned.

    That sums it up pretty well.

  7. #16

    I trust everyone until I'm betrayed.

    Innocent until proven guilty, why hould it be otherwise. I have gut feelings about people all the time but that's no rational criteria.

  8. #17

    Quote Originally Posted by Alchemical Romance View Post
    I trust everyone until I'm betrayed.

    Innocent until proven guilty, why hould it be otherwise. I have gut feelings about people all the time but that's no rational criteria.
    I once held this view. I rejected my knowledge through gut instinct in favor of having emperical evidence. I hope for your sake that you never have to experience what I did in order to learn to trust your instincts. Those experiences will stay with me for the rest of my life.
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  9. #18

    I think I pretty much trust everyone all of the time, because Ideally they would be trustworthy, and I would not want to be mistrusted. Then again, a bold enough betrayal that sabotages my sense of emotional security with someone can be hard to overcome, like when someone I depend on to comfort me and care how I feel decides to accuse me or shame me instead of being helpful, I might not ever feel comfortable being fully open and vulnerable with that person again. This is not a matter of mistrust, necessarily. It is more about resetting what areas of trust exist. For example, right now, I would trust my boyfriend not to steal from me, not to physically hurt me, etc, but I would hesitate to tell him when I was feeling damaged by interpersonal situations because he once made things worse when I came to him for help balancing my feelings. I would trust one of my ex-roommates to care about my feelings, but would lock away anything I didn't want him to steal. In this sense, I give everyone a certain level of trust, but only according to what that person has proven he or she can manage without harming or disappointing me. Areas of damaged trust can be healed over time, but it will take several counterexamples to establish a pattern of consistently not messing up. Even an occasional mistake will make me afraid that it could happen at any time, making it impossible for me to feel completely safe with someone. I didn't used to be like this. I used to continue trusting people indefinitely regardless of their actions, because it was how I wanted to be treated. It's just too hard to maintain.




  10. #19

    Quote Originally Posted by aubrey View Post
    I once held this view. I rejected my knowledge through gut instinct in favor of having emperical evidence. I hope for your sake that you never have to experience what I did in order to learn to trust your instincts. Those experiences will stay with me for the rest of my life.
    Yes thank you for the advice, you're not the first that gave it to me, and I have had instances in my life when "gut instict" proved to be correct and other instances when it didn't. This gut thing is helpful to a certain degree but in no way I am prepared to make generalizations. For example a friend of mine had some bad relationships, ugly ones at that, nasty women, he's like a magnet for bitches. Now his gut tells him that all women are bad because it affected his psyche in that dirrection. Intuition is indeed a marvelous function when it proves to be correct, i find it extracool to be right before any reason can be applied but it's a double edged sword really for one can never be sure, personal experience may bias..maybe in a good direction, maybe in a bad one. I trust my instincts and I am proud of them, act on them on many ocasions that cannot be damaging to a person... but when it comes to interaction with other people I wait for further evidence because I may harm that person unknowingly. What if the justice system was based arround "guilty until proven innocent". Alsi I am sorry to hear about your bad experiances, it's good to learn from your mistakes but that doesn't mean they will happen again, sure it's probbable, but then again almost everithing is.

  11. #20

    I usually ignore my intuitive feelings about people too, because of times when I have been wrong and would have missed out on having wonderful, meaningful friendships if I had paid attention to them. On the other hand, I understand why some people place safety above justice. There have been times when I could have avoided harmful situations by taking my intuitive feelings more seriously. I, too, have experienced permanent damage from failing to trust myself more than others. I still place fairness first, but if I get a bad enough feeling, I am more watchful, just in case.



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