I have this 2 friends. One girl and one guy. Lets just say their name is Anna and Andy.
Anna is a very beautiful girl and she has many admirer. One day she involved with 5 guys who likes her. I told her to pick one, but she refused. She said she fall in love with ALL of them. So those guys finally found out that she's involved with all of them. One by one left her and dates another girl. I saw how Anna got hurt and broken hearted every time she finds out that one of those guys is dating another girl. And things kept repeating. Currently she is having relationship with 3 guys. And like always, she refused to choose one because she said she love them ALL. Plus, she always said that she's still in love with her exes. Each one of them.
Andy had this relationship with one girl. Then the girl broke up with him. Now Andy has another girlfriend. But he still keep in touch with his ex. Now his ex wanted to come back, and Andy told me he was confused because he loves BOTH of his ex and his current gf. He doesn't want to choose.
Personally, I couldn't understand how someone can love more than a person, romantically, at the same time. When I'm romantically in love with a person, there's no other room in my heart for another person. When I said I'm romantically in love with you, you can be sure that I'm only saying that to you.
Also, when I broke up with my ex, my love for him will gradually disappear. When I have a crush on a guy and then I find out he's in a relationship with someone else, my feelings for him will also gone. Short to say, I just can't love what I can't have.
So, if I'm Andy, I will choose my current gf and I will have no more romantic feelings for my ex, even if I still care about her. If I'm Anna, I'll choose one bf at a time.
SJs, what about you? Can you romantically in love with more than one person? Can you love a person which you can't have (i.e someone whose already married or in a relationship with another person)? Can you love a person who said he/she is romantically in love with you, but also in love with another person(s)?