Is it possible for SLI's to have a complete trusting relationship void of any secrets

Is it possible for SLI's to have a complete trusting relationship void of any secrets

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This is a discussion on Is it possible for SLI's to have a complete trusting relationship void of any secrets within the Socionics Forum forums, part of the Personality Type Forums category; From what I've read online and from the real life examples I personally know, it seems like SLI's enjoy their ...

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    Is it possible for SLI's to have a complete trusting relationship void of any secrets

    From what I've read online and from the real life examples I personally know, it seems like SLI's enjoy their secrets and getting away with things that even their partner "knows nothing about". Isn't that lonely? wouldn't you want to have someone you can share everything with? or does that take away from the "excitement"?



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    For me (can't speak for others), I think everyone has something they do not share for whatever reason and it is too much to ask for a relationship void of any secrets, realistically speaking. Maybe others can maintain a happy relationship as such but I don't think I can even if I want to.

    Would much prefer that I am able to do whatever I want without full disclosure or worrying too much about the reactions from my partner before I do it since I will do it anyway if the situation demands it or when the urge strikes me, unless that's something important I know will totally screw up. You know most of these things are just little things your partner wouldn't approve or mad at. The honesty is simply not worth it. What if my partner prefers I never tell her that?

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    There are big secrets and little secrets.
    Little secrets I do keep back a bit on purpose. In relationships its easy to feel a bit trapped, and keeping things back is a way to feel more independant. But little secrets aren't much, they just keep a bit of mystery (and excitement I guess) and often when I feel more invested I do let the other person know more about me, my hobbies, friends etc.

    Big secrets like past traumatic experiences, medical issues and the like I didn't consider anybody's business except my own. I didn't even consider sharing. Seemed like a huge risk with no reward. But recently I did share with someone special and it felt really good. Like a load off my back. Sharing isn't really a goal or something I usually consider, but if the other person is trustworthy and persuasive then I can open up on the bigger stuff as well.

    I think its probably described okay with hidden agenda Fi. SLI's won't feel its their job to get closer through sharing, and are a bit hit or miss with feeling that closeness (sometimes they are aloof and distant, other times much too forward and over the top). But they can feel lonely without somebody to entrust their sensitive soul with, a treasured bond with someone else. Its not so much a life goal, but they definitely care about it. That being said I read somewhere SLI's usually just get a pet and thats enough of a trustworthy bond for them. So I guess how much they feel the need to open up is dependent on them and the other person/cat involved.

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    Depends on how well a person could build trust with them obviously.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Foxyfox View Post
    From what I've read online
    Where?

    Quote Originally Posted by Foxyfox View Post
    wouldn't you want to have someone you can share everything with? or does that take away from the "excitement"?
    You would most definitely lose interest in him if he did that.
    Last edited by Felipe; 09-10-2019 at 03:33 PM.


     

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