This is a discussion on Superego relationships in romance? within the Socionics Forum forums, part of the Personality Type Forums category; Originally Posted by Lenneth My point is that discussing my motivations wasn't needed. Then again, I am not looking for ...
My experience from dating an SEI is that basically the only thing that we had in common was our introversion. She was constantly stressed about trivial matters and following a strict routine, and when I tried to give her helpful advice she made passive-aggressive remarks about how neclectful I was. When I tried to tell her how I felt about something she often accused me of being selfish, and I found her to be too concerned about what others would think. We shared an interest in art, but I noticed quickly that we approached it from completely different ends; where I primarily care about the personal associations and tone of mood of something, she was much more interested in the physical qualities in themselves, such as texture and colours. She was also very concerned about how others would percieve it, whereas I only care about what I think.I already know all of these. As I said in my OP, I'm looking for personal opinions. Real life examples and stories are welcomed.
She also believed in supernatural things such as crystal healing and ghosts, and she wanted me to actively discuss those thing with her, which I find to be one of the most boring things in the world since my attitude towards it has always been "Sure, it could be real, but what's the point of talking about it if it's just empty speculation that doesn't say anything about us or life?" So she told me I was close-minded, and when I think about it, we never really could have a long conversation about anything of value.
So it was a really unhealthy relationship that didn't last long, and that's my only experience. I don't think for a second that all SEI's are like that though. She was very critical, compared to the others I've met.
Last edited by Verity; 12-03-2015 at 02:15 PM.