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  1. [INFP] INFP and attachment style

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Hey guys! Just curious as to whether there's any pattern for attachment styles in INFPs, plus it's just an interesting thing to talk about. I've worked out I'm Avoidant for the most part, but I can be more Anxious towards a very small number of people. Avoidant in behaviour, weird blend of...
  2. [INFP] INFPs & Attachment

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Hey! So I've been wondering how attached other INFPs get to things, people, places etc? In my case, I don't really think there is anything I feel really attached to. Some examples. I've been living in one place for quite a long time and it is, of course, my home. But at the same time I'm...
  3. Attachment Theory Link - Issues from Infancy

    General Psychology
    I came across this link just now and was entranced by it. It's a lengthy (about 17 pages) article about different ways infants are treated and the resulting attachment the child forms. I've read some attachement theory stuff before but this just seemed to hit home better. My parents did the...
  4. [INFP] Not pursuing relationships, fear of hurting the other person.

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I keep finding myself in situations where things somehow don't work out and the other person gets hurt which makes me feel awful (maybe I'm just easy to guilt-trip..). Now I find myself shying away from people I really like out of fear of having them grow attached to me and then somehow get hurt...
  5. [INFP] INFPs, can you slow down a relationship once you've gone too fast?

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Hello fellow INFPs. I tend to fall really hard and really fast and do irreconcilable damage to all my erstwhile relationships. Yet again, I'm falling into this pattern. :shocked: I'm upset at myself, because he's also an INFP, so we really get each other in a way not present in most of my...
  6. How attached do you get to material possessions?

    Myers Briggs Forum
    When I started learning about personality types and taking MBTI tests, I wasn't convinced at first whether I'm INFP or INFJ, and one of the articles I was reading said, among other things, INFPs are more past-oriented while INFJs are more future-oriented. While I do often hold onto the past, I...
  7. [INFJ] Attachment, Personality Disorder, Avoidance, Problems with Intimacy, anyone relate?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    So as of the last year or so, after quite a few years of hard work and research that i've put in, I've reached a conclusion that I am suffering from what's called C-PTSD. I certainly have a narcissist (or someone that suffers from narcissism) in my life, and that person is my father (and others...
  8. [ENFP] ENFP with Avoidant Attachment?

    ENFP Forum - The Inspirers
    I'm currently seeing a guy who I am pretty sure is an ENFP (though it took me a while to really peg his functions), who seems to have an avoidant attachment style, while I am an INFJ with an anxious attachment style. Is there any way to make this work? I know I can consciously try and keep...
  9. An INFP that cannot connect romantically

    Myers Briggs Forum
    Hello all, I am a very fun and loving person. I get along with a lot of people. I love many things, but I do not know why I cannot love or even like people romantically. I used to remember how crushes felt: the warm feeling in your heart. I don't feel this anymore. Even someone who I think I...
  10. [INFP] Attraction Without Attachment

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I've been reading books on Buddhism lately, and I've learned a ton of very mind-altering perspectives that have simply allowed me to insure and ensure the happiness of my future. In this case I want to mention how fulfillment in my relationships has become i(e)nsured from these principles. I...
  11. [ISFJ] Hey ISFJs. I'm trying to distance myself from one of you.

    ISFJ Forum - The Nurturers
    I'm just gonna cut the chase. ENTP here that has a really hard time dealing with people's emotions, care , love and affection yet I have an ISFJ friend. We became close friends about 2 years ago and back then I thought she was an ISTJ because she was very emotionless and sometimes a little bit...
  12. [INFJ] INFJ Attachment and Detachment

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I've always been pretty strange in relationships, I'm not sure if its just me or whether its an INFJ thing. I'm either really really clingy to a person and I can't imagine life without them or I'm really distant and detached from them. I've never been able to achieve a middle-ground in...
  13. [ISFJ] Getting Attached Too Quickly?

    ISFJ Forum - The Nurturers
    Hi, everyone! Kind of new to this, but here goes... (You can skip the story to the question at the end!) Over the summer, I met an ESTP guy who was my exact opposite. We only had a short time (4 days) together since I had to go on a month-long vacation and he had to leave for work in another...
  14. [INFJ] The INFJ attachment problem - should I stop seeing this guy?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I've been online dating, went out on a bunch of first dates, one of those guys turned into a few more dates, and it's now been over 6 weeks and 9 dates with him. He had not been dating anyone else. (Another guy turned into a 2nd date, and soon to be a 3rd date this week). So with guy #1 it has...
  15. Introverted Thinking & suddenly laughing by yourself

    Cognitive Functions
    Background: You probably all know that feeling when you think about something to yourself and start laughing, without any external cues to that. Other people staring at you in wonder and/or you feeling ashamed may or may not follow. I once saw, somewhere, some day, a remark, that if you see...
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  17. [INTP] INTPS, Nihilism and Wanting Nothing

    INTP Forum - The Thinkers
    So, what I was thinking (in a disjointed way) is that these subjects may relate strongly to INTPs: Minimalism Nihilism Freedom Lack of attachment to desire Overwhelming attachment to desire Detached view of human patterns of repeating desires (and their payoffs) A lack of understanding about...
  18. [Enneagram Type 5] Just How Abnormal Is This?? Type 5 "LOVE"

    Type 5 Forum - The Investigator
    Hi guys! ... throw me a bone. I have recently met a type 5. He is a super smart, creative INTJ 5w4 ... probably self-pres. He is 29 and presents with the "unhealthy" traits specific for the 5w4. reclusive. paranoid. ANGRY. ... seems to have some NOS Personality Disorder tendencies and...
  19. What Cognitive Function would this fall under?

    Cognitive Functions
    Heya! I'm an ISFJ and growing up I alsways had one person I got attached to and grew very close relations with. When these relations would fall apart I would find myself lost until I found a new friend or family member to attach to. I was talking to my INFJ friend last night about it and I was...
  20. [ENTP] ENTP needing others to read between the lines

    ENTP Forum- The Visionaries
    Hello fellow ENTPs and all others who are all very welcome! Just wondering... have any of you ever thought: "Damn, it's too easy to fool people. I'd actually like someone to see through me/read between the lines." I know that the thing I hate the most is being misunderstood. It's fustrating...
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