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  1. [INFP] Explaining introversion and dealing with people you aren't into

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Does anyone get confused as an extrovert? This guy that I'm NOT interested in dating keeps saying things that indicate romantic interest and has offered to drive us to the beach for the weekend. I for one seem a bit horrified at taking a road trip with someone I don't know very well and would...
  2. [INTJ] Does he want to be friends? (Married INFJ/f, Single INTJ/m)

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
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  3. [INFJ] Should we be friends? (mid 30s, Married INFJ/f, Single INTJ/m)

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Questions to my fellow INFJs, I'm here because I feel like you might understand better what I'm dealing with and be able to speak to straight to my soul :) What's the deal with this INTJ/INFJ connection I've read about? Is there a connection or am I just lonely because I don't have many...
  4. [INTJ] Does he want to be friends? (Married INFJ/f, Single INTJ/m)

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    So... Where to start. I feel like I'm in high school again lol, just a few decades late and with the complications of adulthood. I'm a happily married/f/INFJ, mid 30s, (hubby is ENFP). He is single(?)/INTJ/mid 30s? I'll call him Gary. I attend a one week class with Gary a couple of times a...
  5. Tips for dealing with ex's/compassion/boundaries

    NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers
    I'm afraid my big heart is detrimental when dealing with relationships. Does anyone have any ideas or tips for dealing with exes? I think at times I would be better off cutting people out of my life (or keeping them out of my life) but sometimes have an emotional pull to at least be open to...
  6. Type 5 Confession(s)

  7. [Enneagram Type 4] A History of (Passive-Aggressive) Violence

    Type 4 Forum - The Individualist
    Below is a long tale of my legnthy journey coming to terms with my type 4 unhealthy responses to both healthy and unhealthy type 9-leadership. I was recently introduced to the Enneagram and have been exploding with insights, many of them perhaps pure bullshit! I don't expect any of you will make...
  8. What are you thinking about?

  9. Signs of unhealthy boundaries

    General Psychology
    I found this list interesting. Maybe you will too. - Telling all - Talking at an intimate level on the first meeting - Falling in love with a new acquaintance - Falling in love with anyone who reaches out - Being overwhelmed by a person - preoccupied - Acting on first sexual impulse - Being...
  10. "Barrier" (Poem)

    Release me from the iron grip Of things that show no mercy I have staggered my way through your desert Exhausted, sad, and thirsty You and I will never feel the same on things You in your world and I in mine But at least be happy for me For withstanding the test of time Though you don't always...
  11. [INFJ] Boundaries with ESFJ MIL Tough Enough... Now I'm pregnant

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Fellow INFJs, I could really use your help again! My husband and I are trying to determine the best way to tell his parents we are expecting our first child. His parents, especially his unhealthy ESFJ mom are deeply manipulative and have a completely phony relationship with us. We see them a...
  12. [INFJ] INFJs and boundaries

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I have found that I struggle to put up boundaries when it comes to people. The Similar Minds website has paragraphs that I relate to to a T: and then the primary type of my SLOAN was To me, this is so Fe oriented. But a few months back I had taken in a friend of mine who had left her...
  13. [Enneagram Type 2] 2s in the workplace

    Type 2 Forum - The Helper
    Hey all, Decided I'd galavant a bit and head on over here to ask a question. We have a thread in the 6 forum about how 6s can seem or feel like 2s. So I'm curious, because I feel this way too. What is your work ethic? How is your performance usually? Although I've typed as 6 (for now!) I...
  14. Embracing Who We are.

    I wasn’t crossing our boundaries, It’s just that you hate me sometimes, And you don’t love me at all times, Though it may be your insecurities, And you do in fact love me, But not yourself, At all times. While this can mean, You do not love me at all times, And this hurts, And I hope you love...
  15. [INFJ] I'm on her Naughty List... Help with my ESFJ Mother in Law

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hello fellow INFJs! I could really use some help. I have this posted on the ESFJ forum as well. I am having troubles with my ESFJ mother-in-law and need to set some boundaries soon. :rolleyes: I want to start by saying that I never set out to wage war with my MIL. I actually wasn't aware...
  16. Recommended Reading

    I just finished a fabulous book called "Boundaries in Marriage" by Christian authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend. It is fantastic!! It is something I feel everyone in a serious relationship should read. I felt very blessed to know my husband and I are boundary supporters and not boundary...
  17. [INFP] Feelings and setting limits -- hard?

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    A good friend of mine has made me more comfortable in being open about what is bothering me and tends to also validate the feelings, which is not something I've experienced a lot of. Hard for others as well? I find it hard to be vulnerable. I will act out or if I am more open it is scary, and...
  18. [INFJ] 10 Steps to an Amazing INFJ Life

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    10 Steps to an Amazing INFJ Life « The INFJ Coach 10 Steps to an Amazing INFJ Life 10 Steps to an Amazing INFJ Life is an attempt to capture what I’ve learned throughout my lifetime as an INFJ as I struggled to be heard, to become courageous, to find my boundaries. Most of the articles...
  19. [ENFJ] When you get annoyed with your SO or a family member do you...

    ENFJ Forum - The Givers
    Do you give them the silent treatment? Or do you let them have it? I sulk around the house and think all these thoughts like "stuff him!". But I figure that if I let all of my thoughts out then I will have a big nasty argument on my hands and I hate conflict. I was just wondering if this was...
  20. [INFP] Mean people suck

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I feel pretty good in life the last couple of months. I've been making lots of personal discoveries and finding lots of meaning in life. I'm even starting to grow some good relationships. One thing that I keep running up against are bullies. They find me. They ambush me. I have a...