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  1. Can 9s be controlling?

    Body Triad - Types 8,9,1
    I was remembering someone whose ex-husband was a 9w1 and narcissistic. From what I've heard this girl was emotionally abused and threatened repeatedly on a daily basis. Being attached to this lovey-dovey, conflict-avoiding and peace-seeking 9 image, this got me thinking. Of all the enneagram...
  2. [INTP] What Gets Your Goat Out of Control?

    INTP Forum - The Thinkers
    What are the things in life that make you feel out of control? Does it relate to a particular area of life (e.g. job, finance, health, love/relationships, home environment)? That doesn't mean you lose control, it just means you'd be more likely to do self-comforting things (e.g. run, smoke...
  3. [Enneagram Type 8] Are you sexually dominant or submissive?

    Type 8 Forum - The Challenger
    8s are naturally dominant in the way they navigate the world. But, as an 8, are you still dominant during sex, or do you like to feel submissive for once? If you chose submissive, do you still feel like it is a powerful act to be submissive, or does it turn you on to lose control?
  4. How heavily is our sleep affected by our cognitive functions?

    General Psychology
    I've always wondered if the way I thought about things affected my sleep. Not necessarily what I think about, but how I think about it. I'm pretty much a short sleeper. But I'm always wondering if I need more sleep. My question to you is, do you think that the way we process information and...
  5. [ENTP] Control in a relationship for ENTPs?

    ENTP Forum- The Visionaries
    I am currently in a "relationship" with an INFP and I must say it is insanely frustrating. I'll admit type probably has something to do with it, but I genuinely am always like this when I am in relationships. I find it much easier to be single and focus on things I love or have flings than to...
  6. How to rule the World

    Blog
    Society is just a world of expectations and when you don't fulfill every single one you get burned. There is no loyalty, there is simply reputation. Its never really you, its just a mask. If you stack the deck you can own the world but you will lose your grip at some point won't you? All the...
  7. [INTJ] Do you always have a backup plan or two?

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    I find that for the important things - a presentation or a release or a planned personal event of significant importance I always have multiple plans in place for all the moveable parts. What is your experience? Do you do the same? Do you think that having multiple plans is more a "P" type thing...
  8. [INTJ] An INTJ trying to control his deepest platonic feelings

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    Through my life I have always sought to free myself from the chains that bound me. From adolescents I felt the need to separate fact from fiction in my daily life in order to bring some sort of order to the chaos that was my heart. I have been through many crushes in my life now. With each one...
  9. [INFP] Feeling Really Overwhelmed

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I've certainly learned my lesson about setting boundaries with friends. I live in New York, and have a bunch of friends who want to come and visit me from my home state. And as much as I adore some of my close friends, I feel really overwhelmed having them come over one after the other. To cap...
  10. [INFP] Traveling With Other People

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Hi, everyone! This is my first post here on Personality Café. I've been lurking for a couple of years, though. I was wondering how my fellow INFPs feel about traveling with other people. I'm babysitting for a family that wants me to help them out on a vacation for two days. It's four hours from...
  11. [ENFP] Extroverted Feeling and Controlling other people's emotions

    ENFP Forum - The Inspirers
    I find that often people with dominant or even auxiliary Fe tries to control the emotions of others. They'll try to make you feel things that you don't actually feel, and also try to make you not feel things that you do feel. It's like they try to control your emotional state. Do you guys find...
  12. "Strategy"

    Blog
    There's no therapeutic answer To alleviate this volcano Brewing, burning deep inside Rocking like a cradle Hiding places all exhausted All avenues explored Don't let them have your power Do the deed, cut the cord Strength in numbers No match for the resilient individual War wounds...
  13. (Video) Help a poor, confused soul figure out their Enneagram type!

    Enneagram Personality Theory Forum
    Hi everyone! I typed myself as a phobic 6w5, but I was reading an article the other day and now I'm confused again... Lol, I don't know what's wrong with me but I don't think I'm a very self-aware individual. Bear with me, this video is kind of long (you don't even have to watch it all) but if...
  14. [ESTJ] ESTJ NO ANSWER when asked a direct question ?

    ESTJ Forum - The Guardians
    Estj no answer- help ? And me - quote: "Hey it's been awhile since I've seen you, maybe we can hang out. Let me know what you think ? " His response after 4 days AND I actually had to follow up ...to make sure he actually got my message??!!?? "Sorry. Been busy got your message."...
  15. [INTJ] World Domination

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    Me and my INFJ brother were figuring out how one would take over the world. Since INTJs are notorious for wanting to take over the world:tongue:, I thought we should have a thread to combine ideas. We seem to have deduced that although a Chinese/Russian alliance would certainly bring the force...
  16. Why "Relationships"?~

    Sex and Relationships
    How do you define love?~ A relationship in and of itself is not love to me.~ Love is a wonderful feeling to me that just happens, you can try to control it but by doing so you only end up with suffering, love does not require any thing, it asks for nothing in return including that the love...
  17. III. A Grand New Type Job

    What's my Enneagram type?
    I have invested a bunch of time lately into researching Enneagram, but I haven't been doing it for a long period of time. I am typed as 8w7, I want to be 8w7, and others online seem to lean towards 8w7. This makes me doubt that 8w7 is correct; it seems too convenient, and it has problems...
  18. [ESFP] Manipulative ESFP. HELP!

    ESFP Forum - The Performers
    HELP HELP HELP! I desperately need help dealing with a manipulative ESFP in my life. To start off: I am an ENTJ and he is an ESFP. I'm not sure how to handle the situation because I haven't figured out ESFP's yet :( I'd love the point of view of an ESFP! His motto seems to be, "I don't trust I...
  19. [INFJ] INFJ Theory

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I resist my desires with strength when I feel something I desired is wrong. My belief system grows.. and makes things more complicated. Learning to not hold on for example, the whole "Letting the butterfly go" metaphor. In a sense, I see INFJ's simply need to be able to sort through their...
  20. [ENFP] Ideas on Controlling the Various Moods of ENFPs

    ENFP Forum - The Inspirers
    Hey guys. I just had an experience today where I was very happy and getting confident on a new clothing style, but one bad comment (from a jealous person) ruined my mood for the rest of the day. I learned in another thread that our dominant function, Ne, essentially multiplies the possiblities...
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