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  1. [ENFP] Love advice needed from your infp sister :) ..

    ENFP Forum - The Inspirers
    Hi guys. I am asking this question here because you guys know a lot about other mbtis and would probably provide better judgement. I have been seeing an ENTJ post 3-4 weeks after my previous breakup. We met on an online dating app (guess what it He said "I think you're a lovely...
  2. Sharing to Connect.

    General Psychology
    I just (on a desperate whim) did a google search of "conventionally good looking and lonely". I usually don't find many gems (who does right? a gem is hard to find) in the search and end up disappointingly weeding through irrelevant results and dated forums. Short back story: I had plans for...
  3. Love is a choice. How old were you when you realized it?

    The Generations
    About how old were you when you learned that "love is a choice" and that if you are ever going to have a stable, long term relationship, you are going to have to discipline yourself to treat your partner in a loving manner, after the initial "romantic" feelings have disipated?
  4. [ESTJ] ESTJ got bored with me (INTJ) after 8 years of relationship - fix it or move on?

    ESTJ Forum - The Guardians
    Hi all! I'll try to be as brief as possible because I could probably write pages describing the context but nobody would read all that. 8 years together, I'm INTJ, my husband is ESTJ. We had rough couple of years at the start of the relationship (I just slogged through the unhealthy ESTJ...
  5. [INFJ] ENTP needs your help for conflictor relationship with father!!

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi Personality Café, ISFPs and INFJs ESPECIALLY (INFJs because you're the natural relationship experts of the MBTI) I desperately need insight into how conflictor types can best communicate love for one another. My childhood has been a tragic witnessing of just how well these two types DO NOT...
  6. [ISFP] HELP, how to communicte with ISFP parent (ENTP)

    ISFP Forum - The Artists
    Hi Personality Café, ISFPs and INFJs ESPECIALLY (INFJs because you're the natural relationship experts of the MBTI) I desperately need insight into how conflictor types can best communicate love for one another. My childhood has been a tragic witnessing of just how well these two types DO NOT...
  7. [INFJ] About to divorce from my ENTP husband, any advice or comments welcome!

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    So here is the story; we have been married for five years now, living together for seven years and we have à six year old daughter. Our relationship has always been a bumpy ride, but things are coming to a crazy head now. He feels that I neglect him, while I feel that I have given up...
  8. Allow myself to introduce...myself

    Hello All, Found out I was an INFP about a year ago. I couldn’t believe it and retook the test many times, each time it confirmed I was an INFP. Looking back, I’m not sure why I was dissapointed, but the test was spot on. I have developed a lot of adaptive strategies through the years that...
  9. [INTJ] INTJ's = sociopaths?!

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    My high school sweetheart, husband of 6 years, and love of my life is divorcing me. He's an INTJ. I used to be anxious, controlling, and unintentionally but subliminally condescending out of my own feelings of inadequacy. For about 4 years, he tolerated it passive-aggressively. He stuffed it...
  10. Happy (Not) Anniversary

    Today should have been a day of celebration: Our 16th wedding anniversary. Well that's not going to happen. As everyone knows because I've bitched and moaned about my wife dumping me about four months ago. I will be 45 later this month and I shouldn't be facing things alone. I shouldn't have...
  11. The Ex-Wife Responds

    I was asked by someone on here what I would suggest to anyone in a long-term relationship who wants to make it last, I gave the following suggestions: I shared this with my ex-wife and she added the following information. I think it is important to know it takes two to make a marriage work...
  12. The Divorce is Final

    I don't know if anyone reads these things or not, but I feel like putting this down somewhere. After nearly 20 years together, and 16 years married, I find myself in the sad position of having lost my wife, lover, best friend, and confidant. The divorce papers became "official" a week ago this...
  13. Marriage, Divorce, and Beyond

    I got married at 28, and here I am at 44, getting a divorce. The love we shared faded over time. It is like a death, taking apart a life that we had built together. I am looking at going over to the house we lived together in for 13 years and stripping away the things I want to keep and...
  14. I was an accidental INFP. Were you?

    NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers
    Honestly, I'm just curious. My sister was born 8 years before me. And my mother and father (although they're divorced) confirmed that I was not a planed pregnancy. They split up about 3 or 4 years after I was born. (and a disgusting, disturbing conversation with my drunken mother a little while...
  15. [ESTP] Help me fellow ESTPs!

    ESTP Forum - The Doers
    At school I was the prime example of an ESTP, I was friends with everyone and enjoyed being in a large group. As a child I had to be constantly occupied and became agitated very quickly if I stayed in the house for too long. However since my parents got divorced (5 years ago) I have been...
  16. [INFJ] Estranged Father -- Where Do I Begin?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I apologize in advance for this lengthy and very personal post. I'm kind of in a dark place right now, and can't think of a single person who I trust to tell this part of my life to so, naturally I'm posting it on the internet for complete strangers to read and comment on. DUH. :dry: I guess I...
  17. [Enneagram Type 4] 4w5s and ending relationships

    Type 4 Forum - The Individualist
    4w5s, how do you respond to the end of a love relationship? In the last fortnight I have realised that the person I loved the most is no longer in my life, and will never be. My first reaction is an intense anxiety, as if a part of my self has been pulled away, leaving me crippled and...
  18. [INTP] Conspiracy Theory: Divorce

    INTP Forum - The Thinkers
    Can you think of any ways in which societies, governments, corporations or economies may benefit from divorce?
  19. [ENFP] Advice for a grieving ENFP with an unsupportive ISTP Husband

    ENFP Forum - The Inspirers
    My Mom, whom I was very close to, died July 12. My Husband, a classic ISTP, does little to console me, help me or communicate with me about any of my grief. I'm trying not to fall into this deep dark pit of despair and try to find something DAILY to live for and it has become increasingly...