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  1. [INTJ] INTJ/ INFJ Doorslam

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    I found something interesting online today that INTJ and INFJ in a similiar way apparently do called "Doorslam". Did you guys do this before and what was your reasoning behind it? Can anyone redeem himself/herself as soon as you cut ties with him/her or is he/she in your eyes a lost cause...
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  3. INFJ doorslam issue!

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I've been quite interested in reading about INFJ's tendency to 'door slam' people. I'm just wondering if any other INFJ's have actually been unable to 'door slam' someone (someone who deserves it obviously, someone who under the cirumstances you usually would doorslam)? As if it has to be a...
  4. [INFJ] INFJ deal breakers - what drives you to doorslam?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi INFJ's, I'm interested in hearing what behaviours/actions would lead you to close the door on someone - what is a deal breaker and/or unbearable to you? In my case, one of them would be someone questioning my integrity or slandering me. I dislike shutting anyone out, but in some cases, my...
  5. [INFJ] INFJ Doorslam

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I see the INFJ doorslam used a lot on here but never really know what it is. As far as I understand it's something to do with shutting emotions off from people? Please could you enlighten me as to what it is and why you do it? Sorry if this has been covered before. Thanks :)
  6. [INFJ] please help! re: was it right for me to cut him off?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    hi guys! it's been a while since i posted, but i put myself in a situation i previously promised myself i would not let myself get into. and now i need some help, or just another perspective, i guess. i apologize if this gets lengthy, i tend to write a lot. well basically i dated this guy...
  7. [INTJ] INFJ friendship

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    One of the reasons that I (INTJ) subscribed to Personality Café today, is that I would like to find a solution to my difficulties dealing with INFJ friends. Initially, I always click with people who test as INFJ. Because they seem to understand things and are friendly. However, the four people I...
  8. [INFJ] Cafe Virgin, Go Easy Please - ENFP With Head Full Of Research Needs Real Live Help

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I am an ENFP with a varied background enriched by INFJ's. My first young love was with an INFJ who ended up breaking my heart. He (rightly) decided he could not communicate in a way that would make us happy. I would have kept trying but we were both too emotionally immature. I still view...
  9. [INFJ] Doorslamming an ENFP

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi. INFJ here. I think this might be a long one, so bear with me, and thanks for taking the time to read my post. I posted in the ENFP forum via a new thread about my friendship with an undeveloped ENFP, and got nine very helpful responses...
  10. [INFJ] INFJs, how do you feel when someone doorslams you?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    There's been a lot written about INFJs doorslamming people. How does an INFJ feel when someone doorslams him/her? How do you feel knowing (or suspecting) someone quite possibly never wants to encounter you again? //*I'm an INTJ. I have I absolutely decidedly doorslammed people--close people...
  11. [INFJ] Any way of reversing the INFJ doorslam?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum, really nice to make everyone's acqaintance :) I hope you guys can help with a problem I have :S I've been lurking around the forum for a little while since meeting an INFJ guy that I've developed strong feelings for and subsequently discovering that I am...
  12. Diary Entry #3

    So, I didn't go to the meeting today. I basically was a lazy butt and slept until around 4 when my SO came home from work. (I didn't have to work today, so it was all good.) But, now, I have to go to the meeting tomorrow at 10AM. I really don't want to go. I don't see why they can't basically...
  13. [INFJ] INFJ's and the "door-slam"

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I keep reading about this door-slam behavior of INFJ's. Interestingly enough, I did not know about this behavior until recently I had executed the door-slam on an ISFP myself. So my question is, have you ever slammed the door on someone? Why? And why do you think INFJ's seem to be known for this...
  14. INFJ needs help with ENTJ

    Hi guys, I'm new here but I've been reading many threads and learning a lot from the community! I'm a female INFJ in my early 20's, and I love learning about all of the personality types. I come to you guys to ask for help. I have an INTJ female friend who is married to what we think might be...
  15. I hate myself when I'm like this

    NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers
    When someone close to me hurts my feelings, even unintentionally and not necessarily by word or deed, I completely shut myself inside my head. I pull back and wait for them to reach out to me. And even when they do reach out, I may not open up. They usually have no idea why I shut down because I...