I have always struggled to understand why (some) people feel jealous and/or envious of others. In most cases it's perhaps mild enough to not be an issue for either party but in other circumstances it can be problematic. In the best case, people may try to avoid others they're jealous of (or at...

Some background information- I am a 21 year old engineering student. I am very friendly and outgoing, but I am often define as cold,competitive, ruthless, greedy ,selfish and other famous ENTJ qualities :P Recently a finance firm came to my college offering my dream job, for which both me and...

Perhaps it's because I'm on the lower end of the 4's levels, but I experience envy pretty much on a daily basis. Please feel free to share your jealousy and envy here, as it's always better to get it out than dwell on it. Also you can share tips that have worked for you when dealing with this demon.

One of the reasons that I (INTJ) subscribed to Personality Café today, is that I would like to find a solution to my difficulties dealing with INFJ friends. Initially, I always click with people who test as INFJ. Because they seem to understand things and are friendly. However, the four people I...

Through self-reflection, I've known for a long time that both One and Three are in my tritype. Though my One side definitely appears to have the greatest influence on my personality, my Three-like characteristics are incredibly powerful, almost too powerful to relegate it to a secondary fix...

How do you experience the emotion of jealousy and its related emotion, envy? Is it something you feel only in relationships, or only in your work or career? Do you feel envious of those who are more successful than you, or over people you have close personal relationships with? And finally, when...

Hello, This is a type 3w4 suffering. The issue is not that serious but, since it has been happening for way too many years, I am getting sick of it. Well, the thing is I'm 23 years old male and I have this 15 years old cousin who has always admired me. He has a difficult personality since he...

RESOLVING A DEEP WOUND - (Relationship breakdowns and the Enneagram)... When I was around 18-19 a song called 'Tell Me' by Groove Theory was released, and I immediately fell in love with it. There was a particular line that so imbued my soul that I decided then that my true soulmate would...

In the brown, copper, round body of a penny Turning green with envy with the ocean waves many I feel worthless in this shell I crawl into They'll come along and stomp it, crush it Thinking no one's inside

Sudden realization of an NT girl *when feelings finally arises* The weirdest fuck ever. I started to envy anything, feel insecure about my looks and personality, and every thing quite honestly. I think its because of my dreams of being like this and that, so when somebody embodies the...

I have been married to an INFJ for 7 years and he is by far the most complex human being I have ever met. I'm an Entp and I try to figure everything out an he's been quite a challenge. I have been researching the Enneagram type 4w3 and I think it fits his profile well. My question is are you...

Hey all! Just some background information about me. I am a caucasian 24 yr old and in my first real relationship. I lost my virginity just last year and the girl I'm dating is only the second girl I have had sex with. I was never good talking to woman and felt very alone and unwanted up until...

Well, today was pretty good. Didn't do all that much, but slept a lot, played some old school Super Nintendo games (Lufia and The Fortress of Doom, Bust-A-Move, and Equinox, anyone?) Also played some Tales of Vesperia with the SO today. I played Rita, the mage. She's my favorite character...

Do you find yourself envious for people who have determined what they want in their lives and strive for it? What else you might be (are) jealous for?

Have you ever wished of being another Enneatype and/or envied another Enneatype?? If so, which type? Even if you LOVE being a 5, you can still answer this question. If you couldn't be a 5, what type would you next prefer to be?? why?

Have you ever wished of being another Enneatype and/or envied another Enneatype?? (And I'm speaking about types generally, not about any specific person.) If so, which type? Even if you LOVE being a 2, you can still answer this question. If you couldn't be a 2, what type would you next prefer...