guilt

Hello INFJs of the interwebs, I got emotionally abused by a covert narcissist for two years, I was codependent with her and she was my best friend. After weeks of guilt inducing I ended the relationship to her. First I was so proud and felt so liberated and full of energy. Now I just saw how...

I have scoured the Internet looking for other INFJ's who are the sole caregiver of their mother/father. I can't find one thing. I'd like to hear from other INFJ's in this predicament and how to deal with it. I am very upset, angry and get guilty at the same time.

I keep finding myself in situations where things somehow don't work out and the other person gets hurt which makes me feel awful (maybe I'm just easy to guilt-trip..). Now I find myself shying away from people I really like out of fear of having them grow attached to me and then somehow get hurt...

Hi everyone, sooo ... after I managed to put this thread into the INTJ forum first without noticing (because I had to head out the door) :dry: ... I'll try it in the right place again and guiltily facepalm myself while I do so: 

I had one of those "Aha" moments today about myself/my life and...

Hi everyone, 

I had one of those "Aha" moments today about myself/my life and I wanted to know if you can relate to this as an INFJ? 
 I always feel extremely guilty and sometimes ashamed when I cannot meet other peoples expectations (even unspoken ones). 
Even if I say I’m sorry and the...

As of recently I have made a personal discovery about the origins of how and why I have a certain fear. And it also ties in with the Enneagram 4 labeled fear "that they have no identity or personal significance". Generally, with "friends" (both close and acquaintance) I tend to hide away or...

Do any other INFPs feel guilty when they go to the doctor or dentist and have some sort of health issue? Like, even if it's not your fault? I went to the dentist this morning and had mild decay in a wisdom tooth and felt like it was a character flaw. :ssad: I'm such a perfectionist.

Title speaks for itself. I just rid myself of guilt tonight. I was reminded of how I felt as a child. So relieving. Calming. Grounding. I think Fi in the position it is makes us very accumulative of guilt. Just a thought.

I have just had an awful situation involving an ex-boyfriend and 2 dogs. I ended up with the dogs but my ex is crushed and I feel like a horrible person. I would like to hear your opinions. Here's the scoop: J (the ex) moved in with me right after buying a house. One of the big reasons for...

Do Nines feel guilty of getting angry? My father, as I have mentioned in a recent post, has been a police officer and an elder person in the family. He was ruthlessly angry on almost everyone around him. Only thing that mattered to him was that people around him behave productively towards...

I get this every now and then, especially when there's someone who is getting too close or attached to me. I intuitively know that their feelings for me and mine for them are mismatched and that since I know this, I should prevent them from getting any closer in order to spare their feelings...

I'm not sure if this is the riget place to ask this. If not, please direct me to where I should? So, hi. I guess I'll get into the reason for my post. I have this idea in my head that I should be a paragon of kindness and love and all things good. But I'm not. I'm so far from what I want to be...

Does this sound accurate to you, 7s? I suspect tritype and wing would affect how prominent this voice is (7w6 and 1 fixed 7s will probably feel it more strongly than 8 fixed/wing, for example) but this does make a lot of sense, at least from my perspective as a 1. It would also partially...

I ask this in regards to confronting emotions that you may be feeling at the moment, or attempt to resolve pent-up emotions associated with past events. (I.e. guilt upon realization that you may have been acting in harmful ways towards specific people in your life, that rare time when you let...

I get sooo guilty whenever I buy anything for myself. This may be because (although I'm not materialistic) I place such value into the things I buy - they have to be special and have some meaning for me. Because of my personal values this usually leads me to buy handmade... (Etsy... my great...

A lifetime of standing by and watching people from afar, keeping your emotions to yourself. Now, life is all tangled up and I am trying to straighten it out. I wanna cry and let out all my bottled up feelings or the feelings that I never had but wanted to have, off of me, unshackled, All...

Recently, I've wondered what loyalty means to us as a group. I think all humans value loyalty from their friends, but some seem a bit more shaken than others when that loyalty is broken by things such as lies, manipulation or a lack of apology for cruelty to self and others. I have the...

I don't know if a thread like this has been made yet since it can kind of be a taboo topic Personally I have an intense amount of shame and guilt and complete lack of self-worth and self esteem in which I blame myself for everything even if I had nothing to do with it (e.x. Friend came to work...

Hi! This is my first time on here. I doubt anyone will actually read this let alone respond but I just need to get this all out there. I've been really torn and confused lately because I just don't know what to do about my relationship. P.s. thanks in advance for reading my sob story haha! Ok...

My INTJ bf and I seemed to be a good match. We had our lives and engagement ring picked out (He initiated everything and couldn't wait to marry me). Where I was loose in my goals and thoughts he balanced me. We were able to have intelligent conversations, watch dorky television, and try new...