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  1. [ENFP] Why You ENFPs Are Hard To Date

    ENFP Forum - The Inspirers
    Don't get offended. Merely an observation from an introverted thinker (ixtx). I don't think other types will necessarily agree. 1. You guys fall easily....And its intimidating. Because you guys are very emotional, you can kind of linger on past relationships or dating experiences. But you also...
  2. [INFJ] Am i overreacting? Do I have too high expectations for friendship?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi everyone, I'm in my final year of college and I've had this small group of friends for the last 3 years (3 girls, 3 guys). We are the following personality types if people are curious/it matters at all: INFJ (me), INFP, ENFP, ENFP, ESTP (the person I was closest to in the group), ISFP (I...
  3. [ENFJ] Help an enfj move on

    ENFJ Forum - The Givers
    Hola dear ENFJs, I'm in desperate need of your insight. I'll be as brief and clear as possible (which for an Enfp is nearly impossible but I'll try my best ! I've met this enfj online and we only met in real life last week after talking every day for two months. To be honest I'm not even sure...
  4. [Enneagram Type 8] Fear of confronting because of fear of hurting and then being rejected/left

    Type 8 Forum - The Challenger
    Over the past one year, on several occasions, I have found myself unable to confront close friends even when a confrontation was required. This comes out of a fear - a fear of losing control if I let my anger out, saying too much too intensely, and hurting people to an extent that they decide to...
  5. [Enneagram Type 4] How do you deal with being hurt?

    Type 4 Forum - The Individualist
    I'm a social 479 so what you would call a 'gentle spirit'. I tend to think I don't have any issues with anyone because I always see good in everyone. Until recently. I was on study trip with my college mates, and one of the girls verbally attacked me. It doesn't matter what she was angry about...
  6. The truth is (Brutally Honest)

    Hello all, This isn't going to be cheerful, neither is it going to be miserable. Not over the top or below it. It's just going to be that - the truth. The truth is - When you're young, your parents tell you everything but some things - how sad life can be, how different you can be, and how...
  7. [INFP] Not pursuing relationships, fear of hurting the other person.

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I keep finding myself in situations where things somehow don't work out and the other person gets hurt which makes me feel awful (maybe I'm just easy to guilt-trip..). Now I find myself shying away from people I really like out of fear of having them grow attached to me and then somehow get hurt...
  8. How to never have crushes again

    Advice Center
    I'm sick of having crushes. They always hurt me. They never like me back, no matter how much I try. I work really hard, but it never happens to me, and it always happens to everyone else. They don't even try. I'm starting to become frustrated. They always end up finding someone "better" than me...
  9. [INFJ] Dealing with Hurtful Comments from Roommate

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hey! I'm sorry to bother anyone here, because this might seem like a meaningless problem. I'm just finishing up my first semester in college, and I thought that I instantly clicked with my roommates (one ESTP/ESFP and one ISTP). However, as I've spent more time with them, I constantly feel...
  10. [INFJ] I Hurt an INFJ. Please explain her thought process.

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I'm an ESxJ. I never really know my own type as I'm not that interested in MBTI, but my INFJ bestie is almost obsessed about it and made me do it a few times. She keeps linking me articles from this site but I've never used this forum. We have been friends for 6 years. I love her a lot as she...
  11. [INFP] What to do when an INFP breaks your heart (ENTP)

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I'm an ENTP and my friend is an INFP. She was bugging me nonstop about who I liked, and I finally decided to just tell her that it was her. She responded by saying "oh, okay" and "that's fine." Now I'm pretty sure that we're still friends, but I'm honestly worried to go to school tomorrow and...
  12. [INTJ] What hurts an INTJ?

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    INTJs have an image of being a rational type that isn't susceptible to being hurt by others. But we all have 'chinks in the armor', so to speak. In what situations are you prone to getting hurt?
  13. [INTP] What hurts an INTP?

    INTP Forum - The Thinkers
    We like to think of ourselves as rational people who aren't very susceptible to being hurt by others. But where are our weak points? In what situations are we prone to getting (emotionally) hurt?
  14. [ENFJ] Catfished by an ENFJ

    ENFJ Forum - The Givers
    Maybe not totally catfished, but I was definitely deceived. I talked more about this on my blog, but long story short, met a seemingly nice guy on a game. Eventually, we had some sort of feelings for each other, and we exchanged kik. After nearly two weeks of talking, something just felt so...
  15. [INFP] How Do You Deal with Sickness/Injury?

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I would love to be someone who just bulldozes on through their workday/ school day whenever I have a cold or some minor illness, but I just don't *want* to. It's not that I'm wimpy, I'm just lazy. ... . . . And when I'm seriously sick with a flu, or sinusitis (I've had that once), or strep...
  16. [INTP] What hurts an INTP the most?

    INTP Forum - The Thinkers
    If you, as an INTP, were in a committed relationship with someone - what would the one thing be that could hurt you the most? eg. Being told they pretended to love you, Cheating on you, Breaking up with you out of the blue, etc.? For me it would be being told that I'm not what they thought I...
  17. [INFJ] Soul Songs

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hey INFJ's, you beautiful people that you are. We are emotional creatures and I don't know about you guys, but I find a certain beauty in sadness. I'm drawn to it, like I'm drawn to deep anger, hurt and betrayal as an artistic form. I like to empathise with it, understand it and feel it. I...
  18. [INFJ] INFJ's: Coping With Hurt

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hey guys, I was just wondering how other INFJ's healthily cope with emotional pain? Such as unrequited love, break ups, betrayal... I don't know about others, but my current method of dealing with issues like these is not ideal (self destructive, door slamming, bottling things). xx
  19. Helping Someone

    Myers Briggs Forum
    So, I used to be best friends with a guy. We talked everyday. I kind of knew that he liked me, but i tried to brush it off and ignore it. Whenever he likes someone, he becomes obsessed with them. When he gets rejected, he becomes insanely self-destructive. I can't tell whether he's trying to...