Hello, first I'd like to thank anyone who takes the time to read this and respond to it, whatever kind of advice I get will truly help me. When I was really young, I never imagined myself going into middle school, then once in middle school, I never imagined High School, or graduating for that...

Taken from the EnneaApp by Lori Ohlson. I'm unsure if this has been posted on PerC before, but I wanted to share in case it isn't. Type 1 These children felt heavily criticized, punished, or not good enough. Household rules may have felt inconsistent. As such, they became obsessed with being...

I've been mulling this general topic over for a while now, and haven't come remotely close to a (reasonably) viable conclusion. I know that obsession with appearance is often an aspect of insecurity, but it is also associated with self-confidence. Input?

Here they come with rigid brimstone fingertips Ready to strike Ready to ignite the night With the gregarious, precarious gasoline can that is my insecure soul Lit with a short fuse A soft trigger A cancer in the conscience growing bigger and bigger My meringue morning skin so vulnerable...

As of recently I have made a personal discovery about the origins of how and why I have a certain fear. And it also ties in with the Enneagram 4 labeled fear "that they have no identity or personal significance". Generally, with "friends" (both close and acquaintance) I tend to hide away or...

Hey guys ^.^ Do any of you guys ever get encounters where people accuse you of being "fake" or "superficial" when it could not be farthest from the truth? Especially if they believe that you are socialising with people for attention? because I sincerely hope that my tendency to want to branch...

Trying to cast an anchor upon a concrete, empty, flat bed ocean floor No stronghold to cling to, no hope to hang onto Temporary spurts of enthusiasm and vigour Soon to be deflated by a cloud growing bigger Wading in waters of perpetual change Each day taking aim but slipping out of range A...

Do you ever have periods of insecurity or self doubt? Like you don't know yourself? Like your Fe mask completely takes over to accommodate everyone else leaving you with this empty feeling inside? Sometimes I don't even know how I really feel until I remove myself from everyone else and just sit...

The soul is in near-constant hunger Often emaciated Only temporarily satiated The psyche is in perpetual chaos A brittle bare bones feather At the mercy of the weather The spirit is an unruly appetite A thirst to be relieved Immersed in its sleeve The beating heart longs for its fuel A...

Hi! I was wondering if some fellow INFPs could give me advice on making friends. As an INFP I'm already quite shy and on top of that I believe I suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder, which makes me very nervous when talking to other people. There are a lot of people who are my acquaintances that...

I posted this on a completely unrelated forum, and then realized that it would be a good idea as well to post it on the forum where people can actually verify if my perception of MBTI types is accurate. The subject is how INFJs tend towards a black-and-white view of sexuality, leading to...

We're all human and we all have our flaws. Think of this thread as a confession box where everybody is open to share a personal piece of information with everyone else, even witnessing those who are or who have been through similar inner conflicts. Why? Just to show how human everyone is...

Hi guys, I'm somewhat new to this forum, but I'm proud to say I'm an ENFP ^__^ As an xNFP - I'm terribly expressive, either brace yourself or flee. I was wondering if it was just me, of maybe it's the type, but I'm terribly insecure. To the point where I dont trust people's positive expressed...

Forums are scary for me. I've tried one before and failed miserably because i couldn't get myself to reply to any thread. Every time i tried to i couldn't knock off the feeling of not being welcome. Negative thoughts would flow into my head and pester me; 'what if that person sees my message and...

How did I get to these twenty-three years When suddenly now I have all these fears? How was I not so insecure before? How did I freely unlock my door? Was something protecting me peeled away? Exposing me to how I feel today? Did thieves break and enter and shut off the power? Why do I die with...

So I have this method of handling difficult things that I'm going to use again today to work through the negative emotions that I'm having. What I do is sit down and just write down all my thoughts as they come, whether they make sense or not, or whether they are right or wrong. This allows me...

I was looking for conversations about ENTP/INFP compatibility and came upon a thread where an ENTP was having a problem with an INFP person she was dating. Many theories were given, but I soon realized that, in my opinion, it wasn’t an ENTP/INFP issue. It was something much broader; so I...

Hello My fellow Personality Cafe members. I'm new here, and this is my first post. This is my story. All I'm trying to accomplish is to succeed in my life. [Before we begin let me say that I took the MBTI test first time around 3 years ago with the aid of a professional career consultant at my...

Hello! I (20F) am currently in a 10 month relationship with my SO (24M), but I'm just discovering now how we are not ready to be in a committed relationship (we both suffer from depression, deep insecurities, codependency, and privacy issues). However, we love each other very much and want...

Why is it that people find a need to justify their own way of living and actively put down others, when both are seemingly innocuous ways of living, eg. going to parties or staying in, having kids or not? The obvious answer is insecurity, but is it more than that, or a certain breed of...