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  1. INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Self explanatory title. I only see my "friends" at least, once or twice a year. Hence why I put friends in speech commas. I know these people, I get along with them, but do I really know them? To be honest, not really. They're not acquaintances, but it feels like they're not close friends...
  2. INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    We speak here about how INTJs try to excel at everything and optimize everything, including the act of loving their partners. What I've almost never seen discussed is, what they expect in return. Queasy topic to bring up/discuss. But what the hell... no one is a pure "giver"; there's got to...
  3. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi fellow INFJ's :) I'm fairly new to the community and always read threads on here but never joined until now. Has any INFJ ever met an ENTP Christian girl? I know putting those three words together might even seem impossible but I feel like that's such a hard find. I know ENFP's are...
  4. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I'm in college and I go out and have tons of fun and outgoing friends, I drink and party and laugh and seem very bubbly and social and together to everyone. But it's all lies...In reality I'm 23 and have never dated, had sex or done anything sexual with anyone (I've just kissed a few people in...
  5. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I'm nearly 23 and as long as I can remember I've had problems with physical intimacy and expressing emotions through physical contact. I don't just mean in a sexual or romantic way I've even been uncomfortable with friendly hugs or if someone sits or stands too close to me :D It's kind of...
  6. Sex and Relationships
    Referring to socionics 4 styles: caregiver, infantile, aggressor, victim. Yes, caregivers and infantiles correlate as well as aggressors and victims. But which one are you drawn to most, theoretically, and realistically? My observations about each group: Caregivers seem to be the easiest to...
  7. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    So as of the last year or so, after quite a few years of hard work and research that i've put in, I've reached a conclusion that I am suffering from what's called C-PTSD. I certainly have a narcissist (or someone that suffers from narcissism) in my life, and that person is my father (and others...
  8. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I love my wife, and we have a great relationship, but a lot of times the vulnerability and openness of physical intimacy overwhelms me. I find that I feel very exposed and, for lack of a better way of describing it, like a scared little boy. When this happens, I usually end up curling up with...
  9. INTP Forum - The Thinkers
    There's a tl;dr at the bottom if you don't have the patience for this because I got a little carried away. I'm an INFJ female in a relationship with an INTP male. We're both college sophomores. We met via mutual friends and became close very quickly. We are both very quiet, I guess, and find...
  10. ENTP Forum- The Visionaries
    There's a tl;dr at the bottom if you don't have the patience for this because I got a little carried away. I'm an INFJ female in a relationship with an ENTP male (probably leaning towards I). We're both college sophomores. We met via mutual friends and became close very quickly (the fabled...
  11. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    UPDATE: I'm really grateful for everyone's advice! It was very helpful for us and we actually had fun reading through everyone's feedback. I really appreciate it. I think we both know what we need to work on and he's happy to feel more understood, as well as, motivated to make healthier...
  12. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hello everyone and thank you in advance for reading this and helping me! I have an intense connection with an INFJ male with whom I've had a relationship with for more or less a few years now and I met him online. We are still taking it slow in the sense that we haven't made plans to be with...
  13. Advice Center
    I'm a 5w4, and between a INTJ and INTP. Anyway I guide my self better with the enneagram. I've trouble with the physical touch. Maybe I can illustrate my life in a few words: when I was a child I was SOOO close to my father I can't imagine someone being that close to me in my entire life. He's...
  14. Sex and Relationships
    What kind or "level" of physical touch do you like in a loving relationship(s)?~ Also what kind of 'level of privacy' do you like?~ This thread is about "levels" of "intimacy" and "privacy" of being in a "romantic loving" relationship.~ :) Those listed above are just "examples" of "levels"...
  15. Advice Center
    Hello my fellow café members. I’ve been lurking here for a long time and finally decided to share my story because I finally admitted to myself that I need help. I feel down due to unreciprocated love and I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. For a long time I was in denial about the whole...
  16. INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    How would you define it? Have you had a date? What was it like? Anyone can join this convo. INTJs can talk about their dating experiences and non-INTJs can talk about what it has been like to date an INTJ. I would love to read all your thoughts on this subject. This is a topic which is quite...
  17. SP's Temperament Forum- The Creators
    I have been with my current boyfriend for 10 and a half months. The first 4 months I think we honestly rushed getting into a relationship which amounted to him guarding his space quite frequently. I'm also his first serious girlfriend. During this time i frequently felt rejected by him. I...
  18. Myers Briggs Forum
    I've found that I go to extremes when I am trying to analyze how my relationship is going with another individual. Because my intimacy-gauge doesn't have very much of a middle ground I found myself in an episode of promiscuity. The alternative would have been a full on relationship and that is...
  19. INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I don't mean to make a whiny thread but then again, yes I do. I just need to tell someone and don't feel like talking to my counsellor. It seems these conflicts always peak somewhere around finals, when I'm most bored. I also always find the most distracting activities when they are least...
  20. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi fellow INFJs! :) I was wondering if you all fear being misunderstood. For example, I struggle a lot with my introversion because I like people, but I need my alone time. And living with a roommate is hard, even though I love her (I'm in college). Sometimes she'll walk in the room suddenly...
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