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  1. ENFP Forum - The Inspirers
    For a year and a half, I (the ENFP male) was dating an ESFJ (female). I broke it off. However, I've been recently reconsidering getting back together. We recently talked about where we failed each other, could have tried harder, and reflected on what we've learned apart. PROS: we have...
  2. ENFP Forum - The Inspirers
    Hello ENFP's, I am a female 30 year old INFJ, who has a male 30 year old ENFP coworker/friend who I absolutely love to death. We will probably date one day. We've known each other as friends for about 5 months. I feel frustrated trying to understand his communication style. He asks so many...
  3. INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Hello. I'm a 17-year-old INFP living with parents, 2 younger sisters and a nanny. My parents work in day so I've had nanny (ESFP) since I've known myself so she's like my sister. I'm having a real struggle. My mom is ISFP and she always says I'm selfish. One of my sister is ESFP and don't...
  4. Blog
    In conversation a friend once said "ENTP's can't be modest." I of course immediately corrected him and firmly stated that I could do absolutely anything I set my mind to. Seriously though, this will be tough for may of us. Recognize that it's not a stretch to use our extroversion to understand...
  5. Type 9 Forum - The Peacemaker
    Alright Type 9 community, it's time to play that game again: "Help Me Understand My Type 9 Spouse"! :) I'm calling on the peanut gallery on Personality Cafe to maybe shed some light on Type 9-ish commentary that I find indecipherable (and he seems to find un-communicatable). This may or may not...
  6. Myers Briggs Forum
    I've noticed something a little surprising. I feel like most people would be inclined to think that the INFJ would be the best listener of the 16 types. "The Confidant" certainly seems to be the most logical fit. I think for this to really be understood, we need to consider what kind of...
  7. INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    An INTJ talked to me (online) about some stuff he was going through, pretty much just informing me about the things he was experiencing and then expressed desire to achieve certain things (nothing I had power over). I wasn't really sure what he wanted me to do, or what I could do to provide...
  8. Intro
    Trying to be more sympathetic, warm, caring, sharing, proactive, productive, spontaneous, fun, accepting, trusting, cooperative, harmonious. Trying to be less of a procrastinator, perfectionist, critic, know-it-all, talker, taker, skeptic, thinker. Raised by perfectionist, alcoholic, abusive...
  9. ENFJ Forum - The Givers
    Hello, ENFJ's! Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together about five months now. He's amazing. Probably one of the best people I've ever come across while wandering this world. We get along very well. I rarely get upset with him, and if I do, its very minimal and we usually resolve it right...
  10. Member Polls
    A friend and I were recently discussing how some people we know really prefer to listen to audio books, but don't often sit down with a book in their hands, while the two of us only resort to audio books for occasions like long car trips, but generally find listening to books less engaging or...
  11. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I'm talking about deeper or more personal conversations. I know about 4 INFJs (there's a high NF population in my area), some more than others but I came to a realization a few days ago while reading another INFJ post that the behavior I was taking as just eagerness to share might have been...
  12. INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    IDK if this is an INTJ thing, but I often have trouble focusing on what someone is saying bc I have my own opinions/ideas to add. I attribute it to extroverted thinking. Its like I'm an overly active listener. Sometimes I'm disruptive, but mostly I just find myself formulating what I will say...
  13. NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers
    So I have a friend who (I'm absolutely sure) is an NF; however I'm still trying to figure out what type of NF he is. I know for sure he's not an ENFP--not crazy enough for that. :wink: I've been leaning toward either ENFJ or INFJ. Some of my other friends think he's an INFP but I'm not so sure...
  14. General Psychology
    MBTI+9 refers to expanding the current MBTI system to also include the three somatotypes, with the three representational systems (sight, hearing, tasting+touching+smelling). This gives nine sub-types in personality (3x3), which ties with the nine Enneagram types, so there might be a certain...
  15. INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Today was one of those evenings, where I was just sitting and staring into the sky for hours. When I heard a car in the distance, with loud music, I thought about the way I listen to music. The last time I owned a "mobile audio device" (walkman, discman, mp3player, ipod,...) or used...
  16. Myers Briggs Forum
    When someone brings up something you don't like or expresses an oppinion you disagree with, what is your internal processes of reaction to this? I’ve noticed with certain friends that when I happen to casually mention something they dislike there is an instant reaction: either the atmosphere...
  17. NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers
    I have come to realize that talking about my how I'm feeling when I am upset (specifically listing what is bothering me, my fears, my worries, etc.) is the only real way for me to feel better. If I keep things bottled in, I create scenarios that only make matters worse. Negative feelings lead to...
  18. Blog
    So yeah. Um I don't really have much to say but... Yesterday was awesome because I felt appreciated. I felt truly appreciayed by my real life friends and PerC friends. I felt as if the people listening as I talked had the attitude/mentality to genuinely listen to the words between the lines...
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