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  1. Is it my actual type or have i been in disintegration forever?

    What's my Enneagram type?
    Hey guys, i've been typed as 1 since 2016, and it's astonishing that the main type hasn't changed since. But recently, some people here and on discord have suggested ideas such as this one that have caused me to doubt my classification. @Arrogantly Grateful (please offer any insights)...
  2. [INFP] I found the solution to erradicate anxiety from perfectionism

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    This is a technique I baptized as "AlMierdismo", is a word game in Spanish (my mother tonge). In english would be something like "FuckThisShitism", beautiful isnt it? :P To explain you my technique I will tell you my story (how I create it). In my University there is a rule that say "If a...
  3. [INFJ] (indecisiveness) vs. (idealism and perfectionism)

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Which one has been more problematic for you? I read somewhere that INFPs are frustrated by indecisiveness and INFJs by idealism and perfectionism, do you see any difference between them?
  4. Facing Reality Takes Diligence, Courage and a Whole Lot of Focus On Aversion/Desire

    VOI-S or INFJ (My birth mother called me "The Peacemaker" when I was 10-12, and said, "I would inherit the Earth," which may be why I hesitated to share it, and why I considered retaking it.) It's as though she ruined my being at peace with being a Peacemaker. Eh, as Bhante Gunaratana...
  5. [INFJ] Idealiasing other people and disappointment?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi there, I've been wondering a lot lately about this pattern in my life and personality. I don't know if anyone here can also relate but it would be intresting to see if it is common for the INFj personality type. Let me elaborate a little on what I mean- after all many people do idealize other...
  6. [INFP] Academics and Perfect Grades

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Who else worries incessantly about having perfect grades in school? I just got a B+ and an A- for two of this past semester's courses and feel quite sad about it, even though I do have an A+ as well and go to an incredibly difficult institution. I just feel like an A- and a B+ are nowhere near...
  7. [INFP] Feeling guilty when health isn't perfect

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Do any other INFPs feel guilty when they go to the doctor or dentist and have some sort of health issue? Like, even if it's not your fault? I went to the dentist this morning and had mild decay in a wisdom tooth and felt like it was a character flaw. :ssad: I'm such a perfectionist.
  8. Is it possible that I'm some other type, not IEE?

    What's my personality type?
    IEE or not? Hello, members of Personality Cafe. Lately I have been thinking about personality theories and how I fit in them. Up until now I have been pretty much sure I am an IEE/ENFp (at first, because of test results and somewhat credibility of the descriptions, I thought I was SEE/ESFp...
  9. [Enneagram Type 4] Childhood Emotional Neglect, Avoidant Behaviour & Perfectionism

    Type 4 Forum - The Individualist
    I've been seeking explanations into the root of my neurotic perfectionism and anxiety recently and after having a particularly difficult time trying to connect with a parent over the Christmas holidays I did a little digging online and came across Jonice Webb and the concept of Childhood...
  10. [ENTP] ENTP Pessimism

    ENTP Forum- The Visionaries
    I've recently become aware that I'm going down a path of pessimistic thinking. I don't recall always being like this, but it seems I have been for a good year - seeing the glass half empty, being skeptical of people's motives, not finding fulfillment with many people, obsessing over mistakes...
  11. INFP-Enneagram 4- How can I change my type?! >;/

    Yo. I am new as of today. As an INFP, just as I like to reassure others, I like to be reassured that: "Yes, this will get better." INFP symptoms ...I'm trying to research how to change your type -romantic obsession -intense fear of abandonment -self-sabotage -codependent -emotional anorexia...
  12. [INFJ] Best Way to Curb INFJ Perfectionism?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hey all, I found this description of how perfectionism works in INFJS (or dominant intuitives, in general), and it seemed to describe me perfectly: My Ni gives me access to astounding possibilities and visions of what could be, and when you combine this with my inferior Se (which is really...
  13. [INFJ] Perfectionism

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Is there anyone here who is, or once was, a perfectionist? I've noticed I exhibit the classic signs of it; failure to enjoy successes due to focusing on the small parts that were incorrect, procrastinating on and on because I know, if I try, I'll make a mistake and thus, I'll get hung up on...
  14. [INFP] Deadliest Sin : Sloth or Pride? (Perfectionism + Idealism = Lack of Motivation?)

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    I think out of all of the Deadliest Sins, my greatest challenge is Sloth with it's parent, Pride, as a close second. More specifically, I think this can also apply to a fair few INFPs out there... of course, there are individual differences, but I'm interested in other people's opinions and...
  15. INFJs, how do you deal with people who try to convince you that you are wrong?

    Myers Briggs Forum
    Sometimes I just want to shake people when they try to tell me that I'm wrong about something, when I know that I'm right, either by intuition or by factual evidence. For me, it's hard to just walk away from a situation like this, and instead I want to spend the time convincing them that I'm...
  16. [INFJ] How do you stop worrying what others might think about you

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    I find this is happening to me quite often, before I will write or say something to someone I think alot about what the person(s) might think about me depending on what I write/say. And it happens even after I have said/written something. If the reaction seems bad, I think of a lot of reasons...
  17. [ISFP] Emotional and too hard on myself all the time?

    ISFP Forum - The Artists
    I'm a newly typed ISFP who's new to the Myers-Briggs personality types. I read in the basic description that we tend to be extreme perfectionists and have a hard time expressing emotions. A lot of the time, I feel... I'm not sure how to put it. Agitated, frustrated, angry, strung tight and a...
  18. [INFP] To All Ye Creatives and Self-Critics

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    Today, I realised something. You have the right to screw up. No one is allowed to violiate this right. No one, not even yourself. You must invoke your right to screw up. You don't have to be perfect, and neither does what you make or do. So don't force yourself to -- don't violate your own...