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  1. [INFJ] Waking up, healing, becoming true

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hello INFJs of the interwebs, I got emotionally abused by a covert narcissist for two years, I was codependent with her and she was my best friend. After weeks of guilt inducing I ended the relationship to her. First I was so proud and felt so liberated and full of energy. Now I just saw how...
  2. Dreamers and Shame

    NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers
    I feel ashamed of even the slightest of things! If someone points out my shoelace is untied, I feel ashamed at being so stupid as to not have noticed. If I get an answer wrong in class, I feel an overwhelming burning shame. I was wondering if any other Dreamers have this problem, and if that...
  3. [INFP] Which emotion do you avoid the most?

    INFP Forum - The Idealists
    What I mean by this is, Which mistakes do you most often avoid making that might bring the most negative feelings in you. I did not want to include other emotions for a reason. The IF temperament is most avoidant of these emotions, from what I have observed. I left multiple choices open in case...
  4. Regret vs Guilt vs Shame

    I regret saying things. My filter is terrible. I don't know if it's all in my head and leading me to behave inappropriatly or if it's my own self-loathing that attempts to hide itself beneathe jokes. I'm not sure. I feel guilty about the things I regret. The thing about guilt is that it isn't...
  5. Who Tolerates Feelings Of Shame Better- Feelers Or Thinkers?

    Myers Briggs Forum
    Who would you say, from experience, observation or just plain theoretical understanding/reasoning tolerates feelings of shame better? Who can dismiss these feelings easier and who might not care about doing shameful acts as much due to less of a priority on these after-feelings? Feelers or...
  6. [INFJ] INFJs and the guilt train when disappointing others?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    Hi everyone, sooo ... after I managed to put this thread into the INTJ forum first without noticing (because I had to head out the door) :dry: ... I'll try it in the right place again and guiltily facepalm myself while I do so: 

I had one of those "Aha" moments today about myself/my life and...
  7. [INTJ] INFJs and the guilt train when disappointing others?

    INTJ Forum - The Scientists
    Hi everyone, 

I had one of those "Aha" moments today about myself/my life and I wanted to know if you can relate to this as an INFJ? 
 I always feel extremely guilty and sometimes ashamed when I cannot meet other peoples expectations (even unspoken ones). 
Even if I say I’m sorry and the...
  8. INFP- Disappointed in self when 'misselling your personality'

    NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers
    INFP- Disappointed in self!!! Hi I'm new here, although I've been lurking for years! ~INFP~ :love_heart: I was just wondering if you ever feel extremely disappointed in yourself when/if you 'miss-sell your personality'? Like if I do or say (or even buy, or wear, or eat) something that I feel...
  9. why am I not able to cry in front of people?

    General Psychology
    Hi everyone! I genuinly can't figure out why I'm not able to cry in front of people, not even the ones I'm closest to. I'm usually a very emotional driven person. So when I'm watching a movie or when I recieve some bad news and I'm alone in that moment, it comes very easy to me. But why, the...
  10. [INFJ] Has anyone else had this problem in the "social environment"?

    INFJ Forum - The Protectors
    As of recently I have made a personal discovery about the origins of how and why I have a certain fear. And it also ties in with the Enneagram 4 labeled fear "that they have no identity or personal significance". Generally, with "friends" (both close and acquaintance) I tend to hide away or...
  11. [Enneagram Type 2] Enneagram 2/Shame and being INFJ (VLOGS)

    Type 2 Forum - The Helper
    I made some videos about being Enneagram 2 Sx as well as an INFJ. The theme is mostly shame. Any thoughts on the matter are welcome. :love_heart:
  12. [INTP] How do you handle shame?

    INTP Forum - The Thinkers
    I've been listening to Brene Brown's research/works on shame and vulnerability. I've recently had an epiphany that I have a very deep believe system of shame around relationships. I know most of us are intellectual types (NT), and that shame is mostly an emotional issue. Over the years of...
  13. [Enneagram Type 4] How do you guys learn to feel less shame?

    Type 4 Forum - The Individualist
    I ask this in regards to confronting emotions that you may be feeling at the moment, or attempt to resolve pent-up emotions associated with past events. (I.e. guilt upon realization that you may have been acting in harmful ways towards specific people in your life, that rare time when you let...
  14. Relationship withdrawal, bizarre self-esteem issues and type

    Enneagram Personality Theory Forum
    I was curious if anyone else can relate to this and how it relates to type: I prefer my own company to interacting with others because when I am alone, my moods, self-esteem and sense of self stay the same - which is what I feel the most comfortable with. However, since I am extremely thin...
  15. The Dark Side Of Me.

    The rage, The anxiety filled, Shameful sides of me, All in one place, That I won't allow to consume me. You all are fucking idiots, You just continue on like life is just a game, It's only a game because you all turn it into one. Watching the stars as if their existence was made, Just for...
  16. Was it difficult acceptng your core type's vice?

    Enneagram Personality Theory Forum
    I know for me. accepting avarice as my core vice was extremely difficult for me to realize and I could always find countless ways to rationalize and deny it. It affected my relationships most of all, because avarice didn't really jibe too well with my self image. I think that for the longest...