This is essentially why I'm often hesitant about advising parents to smack their children. Most people just don't get how it's supposed to be done. I can explain it. I can demonstrate it. They can act like they get it in the moment. Next thing you know, a few days later they still hold the belief that smacking only works if it hurts. And then I wonder why they came to me for help in the first place.You avoid violence by all means, not only physical but allso psychological abuse! Things that doesn't seem scary for you can feel very scary for a child and harm them for life! The memories doesn't fade with time, and your child may never forgive you, even if they claim so. Violence causes unhealthy low self esteem and can cause lack of engadement with the world even after a lifetime of therapy. There is NEVER a situation that is so bad that it requires violent treatment!