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19) Procrastination Equation
The author of the book, Piers Steel, is probably the worldโ€™s foremost researcher and expert on the psychology of procrastination. The key idea in the book is that there are four primary reasons why we procrastinate. And the secret to effectively managing your own procrastination is to figure out which one(s) are at play in the specifics of your situation and address those in a targeted way. If you want to learn more, I interviewed Piers for my podcast in this episode.

18) On the Shortness of Life
I read this book every year in early January because it reminds me that life is short and motivates me to make the most of it. I know that sounds a little corny, but itโ€™s true. Written 2,000+ years ago by the Stoic philosopher Seneca, this very short book forces you to confront your own mortality as a way to revitalize your goals and aspirations for what Mary Oliver called โ€œyour one wild and precious life.โ€ You can learn more about the book and see some of my favorite quotes from it in this short review I did.

17) Sex, Drugs, Gambling, & Chocolate
Addiction is an especially difficult topic because people have so many strong beliefs about what it is and how it ought to be addressed. Tom Horvathโ€™s workbook truly is a breath of fresh air when it comes to thinking about addiction in a straightforward way and how to go about actually dealing with any form of addiction (or that of someone you love). If you want to get a sense for how Tom thinks about addiction, you can listen to an interview I did with him for an episode of my podcast here.

16) The Assertiveness Workbook
Iโ€™ve said it many times, but assertiveness is probably the most underrated skill for better emotional health. If you struggle with communicating your own wants clearly and confidently, have a hard time setting (or enforcing) healthy boundaries, or just want to get better at communicating and being yourself around difficult people, this book is for you. Written by Randy Paterson, a psychologist and assertiveness expert, this really is a workbook in the sense that itโ€™s loaded up with practical exercises and techniques you can start using in your life right away. If youโ€™re interested in assertiveness and want a good introduction to the topic, I interviewed Randy about it in this episode of my podcast.

15) F*ck Feelings
Written by father-daughter duo Michael and Sarah Bennettโ€”the former is a psychiatrist, the latter a comedianโ€”this bookโ€™s central message is arguably the most important idea about mental health most people never hear: Feeling better emotionally should never guide your decision-makingโ€”and in fact, itโ€™s a recipe for suffering in the long run. I wrote up a brief quote review here if you want to learn a little more.

14) How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
Iโ€™ve read A LOT of books about effective communication and relationships, and to this day, the best one Iโ€™ve ever found is disguised as a parenting book. Even though itโ€™s written from the perspective of parents talking to kids, the principles Faber and Mazlish lay out in this book are just as useful for adults communicating with other adults. And I suspect because the primary audience is children, the ideas are even more clearly explained and illustrated. Whether you have kids or not, this book will drastically improve your communication skills, and as a result, your relationships.

13) The Witch-Hunt Narrative: Politics, Psychology, and the Sexual Abuse of Children

In the 1980s, a series of child sex abuse cases rocked the United States. The most famous case was the 1984 McMartin preschool case, but there were a number of others as well. By the latter part of the decade, the assumption was widespread that child sex abuse had become a serious problem in America. Yet within a few years, the concern about it died down considerably. The failure to convict anyone in the McMartin case and a widely publicized appellate decision in New Jersey that freed an accused molester had turned the dominant narrative on its head. In the early 1990s, a new narrative with remarkable staying power emerged: the child sex abuse cases were symptomatic of a 'moral panic' that had produced a witch hunt. A central claim in this new witch hunt narrative was that the children who testified were not reliable and easily swayed by prosecutorial suggestion. In time, the notion that child sex abuse was a product of sensationalized over-reporting and far less endemic than originally thought became the new common sense. But did the new witch hunt narrative accurately represent reality? As Ross Cheit demonstrates in his exhaustive account of child sex abuse cases in the past two and a half decades, purveyors of the witch hunt narrative never did the hard work of examining court records in the many cases that reached the courts throughout the nation. Instead, they treated a couple of cases as representative and concluded that the issue was blown far out of proportion. Drawing on years of research into cases in a number of states, Cheit shows that the issue had not been blown out of proportion at all. In fact, child sex abuse convictions were regular occurrences, and the crime occurred far more frequently than conventional wisdom would have us believe. Cheit's aim is not to simply prove the narrative wrong, however. He also shows how a narrative based on empirically thin evidence became a theory with real social force, and how that theory stood at odds with a far more grim reality. The belief that the charge of child sex abuse was typically a hoax also left us unprepared to deal with the far greater scandal of child sex abuse in the Catholic Church, which, incidentally, has served to substantiate Cheit's thesis about the pervasiveness of the problem. In sum, The Witch-Hunt Narrative is a magisterial and empirically powerful account of the social dynamics that led to the denial of widespread human tragedy.

12) Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

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The #1 New York Times bestseller. Over 2 million copies sold!
Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results

No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.

If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights.

Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field.

Learn how to:
- make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy);
- overcome a lack of motivation and willpower;
- design your environment to make success easier;
- get back on track when you fall off course;
...and much more.

Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.

11) Deep Work by Cal Newport

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One of the most valuable skills in our economy is becoming increasingly rare. If you master this skill, you'll achieve extraordinary results.

Deep Work is an indispensable guide to anyone seeking focused success in a distracted world.

'Cal Newport is exceptional in the realm of self-help authors' New York Times

'Deep work' is the ability to focus without distraction on a cognitively demanding task. Coined by author and professor Cal Newport on his popular blog Study Hacks, deep work will make you better at what you do, let you achieve more in less time and provide the sense of true fulfilment that comes from the mastery of a skill. In short, deep work is like a superpower in our increasingly competitive economy.

And yet most people, whether knowledge workers in noisy open-plan offices or creatives struggling to sharpen their vision, have lost the ability to go deep - spending their days instead in a frantic blur of email and social media, not even realising there's a better way.

A mix of cultural criticism and actionable advice, DEEP WORK takes the reader on a journey through memorable stories -- from Carl Jung building a stone tower in the woods to focus his mind, to a social media pioneer buying a round-trip business class ticket to Tokyo to write a book free from distraction in the air -- and surprising suggestions, such as the claim that most serious professionals should quit social media and that you should practice being bored.

Put simply: developing and cultivating a deep work practice is one of the best decisions you can make in an increasingly distracted world and this book will point the way.

10) The Magic Diamond: Jung's 8 Paths for Self-Coaching

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Who are you really? That is, how do you operate? And what is your best route to up your level in life?

A century ago, the famous Swiss psychiatrist Dr. C.G. Jung described eight ways people function. Like right versus left handedness, we develop preferences-our gifts.

But what's next? First, we can nurture our gifts. We can also deal with our shadowy blind-spots and chart a path that continually completes the pattern of who we are. Jung predicted how the brain works: We start largely undifferentiated and grow with biases, then conflicts and crises arise inevitably, and we can retreat from those opportunities or we can choose to reinvent ourselves. What is your choice?

Based on the work of C.G. Jung's 8 Psychological Types, with over thirty pages of quotations and analysis.

  • Starts with a brain-based introduction to 8 cognitive processes.
  • Takes you to the next level, focusing on development.
  • Explores the problem of one-sidedness, "tension of opposites", and the Transcendent function.
  • For each process, features a 30-page coaching packet based on 14 years of hands-on neuroscience of 350+ people from all walks of life.
  • Presents over 40 case studies and over 200 personalized tips for you to develop keener perception and wiser judgment.
  • Puts personality within a social context.
  • Includes two chapters of activities for teams and coaches.
  • Introduces The Magic Diamond, a powerful new metaphor to chart your path to personal and professional growth.

Award-winning instructor and world-renowned personality and neuroscience researcher, Dario Nardi, brings Jung's incredible work into the 21st century. His other books include Neuroscience of Personality, 8 Keys to Self-Leadership, Jung on Yoga, and 16 Personality Types.

9) The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk

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Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Such experiences inevitably leave traces on minds, emotions, and even on biology. Sadly, trauma sufferers frequently pass on their stress to their partners and children.

Renowned trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he transforms our understanding of traumatic stress, revealing how it literally rearranges the brain's wiring?specifically areas dedicated to pleasure, engagement, control, and trust. He shows how these areas can be reactivated through innovative treatments including neurofeedback, mindfulness techniques, play, yoga, and other therapies. Based on Dr. van der Kolk's own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score offers proven alternatives to drugs and talk therapy?and a way to reclaim lives.

8) Future Sense: Five Explorations of Whole Intelligence for a World That's Waking Up

Future Sense offers an interweaving of global and personal themes, which are often kept apart: a far-reaching synthesis of ideas in tune with emerging global developments. It points to how greater whole intelligence can strengthen us in transforming the world and our lives at the same time.

Faced with todayโ€™s enormous global challenges, humanity often seems ineffective, distracted, or powerless. Many are pessimistic about their descendantsโ€™ future chances. In Future Sense however, Malcolm Parlett shows us that tackling global problems can begin in the microcosm of our own lives. Our interconnectedness means that changes in the small worlds we inhabit have ripple effects in the big world. Each of us can help create humanityโ€™s future. Based on the authorโ€™s experience as a psychological practitioner, the book is structured around five explorations. Each describes a key dimension of whole intelligence, revealed through observations, stories and insights related to individual lives, applications in human systems and to world issues.

Future Sense is a highly original book, written in an approachable and easy to read style that provides the reader with a positive outlook on the future world. Future Sense explores whole intelligence โ€“ as demonstrated when an individual, community, or organisation functions in ways that are instantly recognisable as creative, and that reflect the best human values. This is a book of big ideas, psychological insights, and a different form of grassroots activism.

5) Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds
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Are you ready to successfully transform your life, push past pain, destroy fear and attain your full potential?
Disclaimer: This Book is an unofficial book but written with the best of intentions.

This book is a companion book to "Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds by David Goggins".

He shares his story of how he was able to completely turn around his life for the best and takes us through his nightmare childhood filled with poverty, lack, emotional and physical abuse, prejudice and depression. And then provides the life tools needed to transform himself from a depressed young man with no focus and future in the U.S Armed Forces, into one of the toughest endurance athletes and record breakers in the world.

Without commitment, dedication, purpose and intention, achieving the goals from the original book is impossible.

And this book provides the much needed guide for you to reach your potential and surpass it.

Each section of the original book has been comprehensively covered and broken down, giving you more perspective with;

  • thought-provoking questions,
  • goals to set for yourself,
  • key takeaways/talking points,
  • lessons,
  • self-reflection
  • notes and a lots more.
And don't forget to have fun - While at it. This Workbook Will aid in your path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself.

Scroll up and buy this book now to unlock your potentials

6) Yet Another Showdown with Mental Illness By Mary Khazak Grant

This self-help book is a sequel to the author's 2016 book, "Having a Showdown with Mental Illness". It was developed from a Wordpress blog of the same name, greatly expanded and embellished. It enables people suffering from a chronic mild-to-moderate mental illness (e.g., they are still capable of functioning in society) while in a clinical or therapy relationship, to greatly accelerate recovery through additional efforts they undertake, as described herein. The author used herself as a "guinea pig" to achieve a cure by 2020.

5) Everything Is Fucked
Book by Mark Manson

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Everything Is Fucked: A Book About Hope is the third book by blogger and author Mark Manson published in 2019. It followed previous self-help books from Mark Manson, including The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck bestseller.

4) The Voiceless Soul: How to Express and Release Deep Fears of Unworthiness

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Most of the world is stuck in a trap due to fears of nonlove. From a newly fertilized egg birthed into the world of grown-ups, the incoming soul is challenged by the unconscious fears and suppressed emotions of the grown-ups who will be its teachers at the beginning phases of life. The fear consciousness developed and reinforced over time has created a world that lacks the necessary self-awareness for true spiritual growth. The letters throughout the book, written by the soul of a wounded and disconnected child, challenge the reader to face their own rejected and disowned parts as the reader is led into a deeper understanding of human consciousness and, finally, a healing process that reaches the level of the soul. The book provides an understanding of, and universal need for, authentic forgiveness and compassion, not only for the wounded inner child of the reader, but also the wounded inner child parts within the disconnected grown-ups that polluted the readerโ€™s self-esteem. The book includes relevant research, client cases and the authorโ€™s own challenges of being raised by grown-ups who have failed to grow up, keeping her trapped in feelings of unworthiness.

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3) Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

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The focus of this book is human psychological development. The book's goal is to explore how our early emotional and social environment influences us and what problems and advantages we develop as adults as the result of it. ... This book is intended for people interested in the subjects of childrearing, childhood trauma, and the consequences of childhood adversity. It is for all who wish to better understand themselves and their society.From the Foreword: What makes this book special is that it is healthy. Darius Cikanavicius offers the reader a compassionate and trauma-informed study of childhood from the perspective of the child, and not, as is the case with the far majority of psychology books, from the perspective of the parent. This is key, because any book that addresses childhood trauma and is really worth its weight must sensitively yet determinedly take the child's side. ... For this reason I consider anyone who gets their hands on this book fortunate indeed. -- Daniel Mackler, LCSW

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2) Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and Joy by Shauna Shapiro

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A renowned psychologist shares the science of self-compassion and offers powerful practices for greater calm, clarity, and joy.

Have you ever wondered why it is so hard to change? It is because youโ€™re probably missing one key ingredient: self-compassion. In Good Morning, I Love You, Dr. Shauna Shapiro, one of the leading scientists studying the effects of mindfulness and self-compassion, brings alive the brain scienceโ€”and explains why we get stuck in negativity and judgments that donโ€™t serve us.

Usually, we try to make changes in our lives by pushing ourselves, judging ourselves, and then beating ourselves up when we donโ€™t succeed. But science shows this doesnโ€™t workโ€”and that self-judgment and shame actually shut down the learning centers of the brain. As Dr. Shapiro reveals, the simple yet profound switch to self-kindness allows you to rewire your brain for greater positivity, creativity, and joy.

Though our brainโ€™s โ€œnegativity biasโ€ evolved as a survival trait, in our modern world we need to re-train ourselves towards positivity in order to have a full experience of life. โ€œItโ€™s never too late to start, no matter where you are in your life,โ€ says Dr. Shapiro. In lively, short chapters laced with science, wisdom, and story, she provides a powerful roadmap to guide youโ€”including her signature โ€œGood morning, I love youโ€ practice for starting each day. โ€œThe research is clear,โ€ she says; โ€œYou can change your brainโ€™s circuitry and root yourself in feelings of deep calm, clarity, and joyโ€”for good.โ€

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1) The Science of Mindfulness: How to Rewire Your Brain for More Calm, Clarity and Happiness by Shauna Shapiro

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Weaving together ancient wisdom and scientific research, Dr Shauna Shapiro formulates the most potent practices for living a happy, meaningful life. Individually, these practices will help you sculpt neuropathways of clarity and calm. Collectively, they will help us live in a more connected, compassionate world. The practice of mindfulness works. It's good for you. It strengthens immune function, reduces stress, improves sleep, and offers countless other benefits. It primes the mind for joy, it creates a roadmap for strengthening the brain's circuitry of deep calm, contentment and clarity. Dr Shapiro offers the science and the practice of mindfulness, showing the reader how to rewire and re-balance their own individual negativity bias, create new pathways for curiosity, joy and focused attention. This is ultimate training for the monkey mind. 'Shauna Shapiro is known internationally for her outstanding contribution to research and clinical work on the very frontier of the mindfulness field. She is one those rare scientist-practitioners who contribute not only new methods but new and deeper understandings of mind - its challenges and its potential' - Mark Williams, Emeritus Professor of Clinical Psychology, University of Oxford, and author of international bestseller Mindfulness: A practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world

About the author (2020)
Shauna Shapiro is a professor, author, and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and compassion. Over one million people have watched her 2017 TEDx talk "The Power of Mindfulness," rated top 10 talks on mindfulness. Dr. Shapiro has published over 150 journal articles and co-authored two critically acclaimed books translated into 14 languages: The Art and Science of Mindfulness, and Mindful Discipline. Her work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Mashable, Wired, USA Today, Dr. Oz, the Huffington Post, Yoga Journal, and the American Psychologist. Dr. Shapiro has been an invited speaker for the King of Thailand, the Danish Government, Bhutan's Gross National Happiness Summit, and the World Council for Psychotherapy, as well as for Fortune 100 Companies including Google, Cisco Systems, Proctor & Gamble, LinkedIn and Genentech. Dr. Shapiro is a summa cum laude graduate of Duke University and a Fellow of the Mind and Life Institute, co-founded by the Dalai Lama.

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I've heard of Shauna's methods, they're good.

She was a big part of my process to self-forgiveness.

On days where I wake up, and I think I'm worthless, I cope by telling myself that I'm allowed to love myself.
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