This is from the enneagram institute website relationship compatibility of two Fours. Share experiences if you have any. While from time to time I do feel I can relate to Fours here at PerC, I generally feel misunderstood in a way that makes me feel like shrinking away. At college there is a girl who is a Four (she does not know the enneagram). When there are other people around I feel a great sense of relief and groundedness that she is around and will understand exactly what I meant. It frees me, relaxes me. But when there are just the two of us there is so much fear of getting misunderstood. I think she is a self-pres Four while I am a sexual one. That makes it somewhat difficult to connect when there are just the two of us.