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My mom may be a 4w3, and I can't help but notice that she has this super-polite "professional" voice that she does not only use in business situations or greeting new people, but also when she is dealing with someone she dislikes/thinks is stupid or insane, and almost all the time when she is on the phone. Is this something other 4w3s do?
 
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i can only say there is a girl in one of my english classes who i suspect of being 4w3, and she seems to do this as well when discussing books we've read. it almost seemed fake to me how she was speaking at the beginning of the semester but i've gotten used to it and it's not as "rigid" as it was before..
 

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Yes, I do this. If I am just casually hanging out with friends I don't use it unless a subject comes up where I feel strongly about explaining myself accurately. I notice at work when dealing with the public, if I change my tone of voice to a very soft, higher pitched, semi melodic tone, I will get the desired reaction I want out of the person. The more gentle yet not wishy washy I sound the better. I actually get great results and can accomplish goals better than a lot of other people. Also, if I don't do this, I might get frustrated or angry and the convo will go down the drain because they will get defensive and sometimes even aggressive. I like to call it finesse.
 

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I forgot to mention that I absolutely hate it when people use the fake version of this. I would not even smile if I did not truly get the 100% urge to smile when I first stared serving the public in the food industry. But, over time I realized that I truly wanted those people to be happy, so I would give a genuine smile that was mostly eyes. You have to believe it for it to come across as sincere.
 

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My 2w3 ISFJ mom does this.... yes, I find it annoying. Her voice gets all even & weirdly soothing, like she's answering the phone in a doctor's office.

I use the same voice with people, so that it seems too casual to some. I see it in their face. :unsure: :tongue:
However, I may take a more formal tone as far as phrasing & emotion goes. I seem "stiffer". This combination can inadvertently read as flippant....
 

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I'm a waiter by profession and I do notice a distinct change in my voice / cadence when talking to my tables.
 
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