So like, how do you expect us to act though? Would you want them to initiate more, or.....idk?I've definitely noticed with INFPs that I have to initiate a LOT- especially until you get to that "trust threshold" where they feel safe to be open around you.. Even then you have to say the first word before the torrent of sharing comes like a flood.
If an INFP initiates with you, it means they're either really trying or really comfortable around you. I understand it in a sense, I mean with my interactions with INFPs it is a lot easier for me to initiate so it makes sense just to let me do it most of the time.
Everytime I see people refer to our "trust threshold" and what-not I always think they have another way in mind for us to act? Because the trust threshold and lack of initiating seems so normal to me I don't know any other way to behave. So pls like, give me an idea? Is it more normal to be completely open and trusting and initiating all the time? I mean what is it?
Man, I never knew being private and secretive was such an issue until recently. I thought everybody had the right and exercised the right to privacy, but I guess no and they might think other's privacy is too much. Man the difference in perception is so strange.I recently started to try to keep in contact with those I love. But, I do agree, I don't need people all of the time to function. It's good to know that you have stable enough friends who are similar to you. You can go for weeks and months without talking to them and still pick it up from where you left off. I used to be stressed out when the other person contacted me all of the time. Mostly because I am not a person to talk about what I ate for lunch for the 56th time. This was a huge factor in breakups and end of past friendships. I was too private and 'secretive.'
More on topic.
Yes I do the same thing as @neutralchaotic and because I'm so self absorbed I didn't notice it was affecting my friends until my ENTP friend just straight up said "We give you your alone time and you still treat us like shit!" and he also said "Oh wow Lord Pixel actually called ME!". Until then I just saw myself as having a passive. spectator, once in a while chime in, sort of relationship with them. I guess it means people value your friendship when they say these things.
Hm, I guess we never know when we are loved, chalk it up to Se blindspot XD!