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I know there are not many ESTJs on these types of forums, but if I can get as many ESTJ opinions as possible, I would appreciate the advice so much.
Here's the issue:
My mother-in-law is an ESTJ, or so she says.
I'm not so sure, but I think it's possible...she has been under chronic emotional stress for over a year, and I know that, whatever type she is, she is very unhealthy. So keeping that in mind, I'm trying to decide a few things.
1) Is she really an ESTJ (just an unhealthy one?)
2) If she is not an ESTJ, what type is she?
3) How do I relate to her in this state?
Here is an overview description of her personality.
Socially (Why I think she is an E):
-Loves entertaining and having friends over
-Has many acquaintances and few close friends
-Highly values family and spending time together
-Good at "chit-chat" and small talk
-Good sense of humor
-Talkative and very loud
-Not understanding of introversion or high sensitivity in general
-When upset, expects others to spend time with her
Perception (Why I think she is a S):
-Talks a lot about other people, events, or material things
-Not naturally in tune with what others are feeling
-Not interested in theories or ideas that are not factual or proven
Decision making (Why I think she is a T):
-Normally rational, unless under stress
-Very good with money and budgets
-Good saver and smart spender
-Has a "what is right for one is right for all" mentality
-Not typically an emotional decision maker, unless under stress
Planning (Why I think she is a J):
-Organized and scheduled
-Likes to delegate and micromanage
-Usually plans things as far ahead of time as possible
-Comes across as controlling or demanding often
Under intense or chronic stress:
-Extremely stubborn
-Confrontational but very emotional
-Completely irrational and one-sided
-Tends to be extremely self-centered
-Can get very angry and is explosive verbally
-Will throw "tantrums," screaming and crying, or locking herself in a room
-Very sensitive to social etiquette- hurt by people not saying "thank you," "please," "I appreciate it," etc.
-Highly manipulative verbally and emotionally- guilt trips people into pleasing her
-When stressed, will choose her happiness over everything else
-Feels unappreciated or unloved
-Requires others to take care of her emotionally
-Can not deal with the consequences of her own actions, or does not accept them as problems she has brought on herself
As I said, she has been under stress chronically for over a year, and so that last section has been applicable non-stop for about that long. Which is incredibly stressful for me.
If you are an ESTJ, do you relate to any of these attributes?
Can you help me understand her better?
If you are not, can you help me analyze her?
Here's the issue:
My mother-in-law is an ESTJ, or so she says.
I'm not so sure, but I think it's possible...she has been under chronic emotional stress for over a year, and I know that, whatever type she is, she is very unhealthy. So keeping that in mind, I'm trying to decide a few things.
1) Is she really an ESTJ (just an unhealthy one?)
2) If she is not an ESTJ, what type is she?
3) How do I relate to her in this state?
Here is an overview description of her personality.
Socially (Why I think she is an E):
-Loves entertaining and having friends over
-Has many acquaintances and few close friends
-Highly values family and spending time together
-Good at "chit-chat" and small talk
-Good sense of humor
-Talkative and very loud
-Not understanding of introversion or high sensitivity in general
-When upset, expects others to spend time with her
Perception (Why I think she is a S):
-Talks a lot about other people, events, or material things
-Not naturally in tune with what others are feeling
-Not interested in theories or ideas that are not factual or proven
Decision making (Why I think she is a T):
-Normally rational, unless under stress
-Very good with money and budgets
-Good saver and smart spender
-Has a "what is right for one is right for all" mentality
-Not typically an emotional decision maker, unless under stress
Planning (Why I think she is a J):
-Organized and scheduled
-Likes to delegate and micromanage
-Usually plans things as far ahead of time as possible
-Comes across as controlling or demanding often
Under intense or chronic stress:
-Extremely stubborn
-Confrontational but very emotional
-Completely irrational and one-sided
-Tends to be extremely self-centered
-Can get very angry and is explosive verbally
-Will throw "tantrums," screaming and crying, or locking herself in a room
-Very sensitive to social etiquette- hurt by people not saying "thank you," "please," "I appreciate it," etc.
-Highly manipulative verbally and emotionally- guilt trips people into pleasing her
-When stressed, will choose her happiness over everything else
-Feels unappreciated or unloved
-Requires others to take care of her emotionally
-Can not deal with the consequences of her own actions, or does not accept them as problems she has brought on herself
As I said, she has been under stress chronically for over a year, and so that last section has been applicable non-stop for about that long. Which is incredibly stressful for me.
If you are an ESTJ, do you relate to any of these attributes?
Can you help me understand her better?
If you are not, can you help me analyze her?