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So I want to keep my guy interested. He seems to enjoying drinking and socializing ALOT lol. I do too for socializing and I do enjoy going out and getting drunk buttttt im a little older than him and over the constant non stop drinking phase lol.

I'm wondering what type of activities ENTPs find exciting? Maybe I can surprise him by organizing something :D.

A bit about him, he likes:

1) Drinking
2) Socializing
3) Reading and learning random information, usually about world events/affairs, politics, religion (despite being atheist)
4) Gym
5) Laser Tag
6) Travelling
7) He likes left wing ideologies about helping people, promoting equality but when I joked about going to a soup kitchen he didn't seem keen to do that haha. I think for him its just about the idealism of it all.

Anyways any suggestions would be appreciated
 

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I'm afraid I can't speak for all of us, but if he likes doing activities like going to the gym and playing laser tag, I feel free to recommend stuff with some action. For example, I have been quite interested in all this Sasuke / American Ninja Warrior stuff. I'm really fascinated with the physical strength those people have. In my city there's a gym with less challenging courses to try that out for a day (as it's really hard, I'm sure that less challenging is challenging enough). If you're fit, too, you can surprise him with something like that.

As he enjoys reading, maybe there's authors he likes and who are holding readings in your area (which can be especially cool because you get to talk to the authors afterwards and ask them questions).

Maybe there's also a location he once talked about that he never visited. You could just take him there.

He might also enjoy some gambling in a casino (yeah, I know, technically it's like burning money, but meh).

Most important: We literally can't survive without learning interesting new stuff. So maybe just take him to something you enjoy doing which he wouldn't even have thought of. That's a general situation that's quite fascinating for all of us.
 

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Being also ENTP It surprises me the drinking part, are you sure he likes to get drunk? or just likes trying new stuff (maybe even making his own cocktails) ?

The rest, I can subscribe it. Btw, Religion for atheists is very useful to be able to argument when meeting a fanatic. Plus is fascinating to see how power uses religion to slave people looking for their salvation.

Ideas... yeah... easy: anything new, amazing, gorgeous, unique and hopefully exciting.

If it implies some degree of challenge and self-improvement and sharing, even better (we don't like easy stuff and we love to share).

E.g:
Jumping -> ok!
Bungee jumping -> better
Naked Bungee jumping -> even better
Naked Bungee jumping with your couple attached -> gorgeous
Naked Bungee jumping with your couple attached to win a free entrance to a music festival -> THAT'S the way!!!!

Good luck ;-)
 
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ohh yeah he likes to drink alright. Got blind drunk on NYE lol.
If he looks like "sex, drugs and rock and roll" and "party animal" maybe the useful tool is not MTBI but ennagram. Ennagram deals better with motivational clues, more into the input feed level, meanwhile MTBI is more about processing and decision making from these clues, more into the functional processing.

However, as always shape determines function, so even MTBI and ennagram are measuring different things there is some correlation. What you describe sounds to me as ennagram type 7w8. ENTPs have a strong tendency with type 7. Here there is one study about it.
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Maybe you could ask him to take some ennagram test to confirm ;-)

Said that, 7w8 is not so "wasted" as it seems. I've the same exact profile and I've been into the hedonistic loop but get out easy. This happens when professionally/academically-wise we don't have space to run. ENTP are quite passionate types, and if don't find passion in our main activity, we try to compensate somewhere else. If we don't find where to put this energy, then we put it over ourselves and go into the hedonistic loop, with typically autodestructive consequences. We don't put a real barrier between work and personal live (even we try to repeat the mantra, does not work actually in us), and be careful because at some point into the autodestructive trajectory we realise it and then our solution is to fearlessly blow up everything and restart from zero (including sentimental partners, i.e. you).

To avoid that, the solution is to expand our work/academic activities toward somewhere we can put passion and innovation. Basically we "just" need professional space in front of us, and we will naturally run towards it. Better open doors or blow up selectively walls when still at moderate self-pressure levels, rather that let build up stress and then resource to full indiscriminate demolition charges "to get out". Working only in the free time aspect is not going to solve anything, because the problem is not there, that's just a patch.

If he is in the university, go toward master and doctoral programs. If he is already in job market, push him towards entrepreneurship. If he is already in any of them but still feels short push towards the other: high degree education + entrepreneurship it is a winner combo for us. I can give you more specific ideas, just ask me if it makes sense to you.
 

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Responded in another thread about this dude.
I will add my personality to this train of thought.

I am a very untypical ENTP 7w8 in as far as
what one would consider the "norm" I guess.

First off. I want and need stability. I will sacrifice a lot of what
most would think a typical ENTP 7w8 would to accommodate
stability and control. I long for a controlled life and stable resources.
At the cost of personal freedoms and core values. In a sense
I think I have contrived a core value system that makes so much
safety for me that I must achieve it.

In my core I am very typical. I actively fight a lot of what I feel
to achieve my goals. My goals, when achieved are life incarnate for me.
They are so fulfilling that the items I sacrifice to achieve them
are never missed.

Rambling. Back to the point. What did/do I like to do as activities?
I like to cuddle on my couch with my wife and watch some nice
documentaries or what not. I like to go for a long road trip with
no destination. I like to lose myself in long winded talks about culture and the
human condition, with my wife. I love to spend time with my two boys and
watch them grow like the sea monkeys they are! I like to spoil my granddaughter.

Shit...I just realized. Im old.

I guess what I can really add for value here is this: No two ENTP are even close
to being on the same page. I see this more in ENTP then I do in all other types.
My limited amount of knowledge on this does not make me any source for certainty
to be sure! I live for feels and stability. As an ENTP that is almost unheard of..especially
for a 7w8. I can assume.

95% of who I want to be was set by my childhood and now my own children and family.
I have a very one sided, some would argue narrow minded view point on how one
is to be as a person once children and/or an SO are involved so I guess thats not even in
your ball park as of yet.
 

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For me day trip activities like hiking, skiing, museums, site seeing are always good.

As far as some charity work like working in a soup kitchen I feel like my attitude is a lot of that is just a drop in a bucket that doesn't actually make a difference, I'd expect other entps would have a similar attitude ..seeing the bigger picture that poverty and homeless is caused by our shitty governments and chairty work isn't going to make a huge difference, and so while I don't want to discourage people from doing charity work, because it does help, I'm not going to feel too keen about working at a soup kitchen ... I think w/ charity work the entp would have to really feel like it actually makes a real difference, and so would prob be up to them to think of and decide to do... but brainstorming ideas to him could be a good way to find out what he'd feel good about doing.

I think a good approach might to pick out some fun activity and say that you picked out the activity this time and he has to pick it out next time ..which will motivate him to pick something out to do, and he'll prob think of something fun he'd enjoy that you wouldn't think of. That might also be a good way to get him into doing some charity sort of thing.. if you start w/ somehting fun and then go do something fun he really wants to do, then he'll feel a bit obligated to do the charity thing you pick out to do next, which he might turn out to enjoy doing. And it might turn out to be fun if you end up not just trying to do things that make the other happy, but pushing each other to do things you wouldn't normally do on your own.
 

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I guess what I can really add for value here is this: No two ENTP are even close
to being on the same page. I see this more in ENTP then I do in all other types.
I feel like that too ... but I wonder if that is really the case or if its more a matter that because we are ENTPs the differences are more noticeable to us and the similarities less significant?

I feel like every entp I meet feel so different from me that I could see them being another type altogether but then if I think what other type they might be I think nah they're entp. ENTPs are just all over the place.
 

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I feel like that too ... but I wonder if that is really the case or if its more a matter that because we are ENTPs the differences are more noticeable to us and the similarities less significant?

I feel like every entp I meet feel so different from me that I could see them being another type altogether but then if I think what other type they might be I think nah they're entp. ENTPs are just all over the place.
Yep, ENTP. The only thing we are certain about is nothing at all.

I am sure we could even argue the semantics of said nothing.

We cant be finished. Ever. Well maybe at some point...ever? That sounds
like it couldn't happen which is probably not true. Ughhhh case and point...


Top line of your quote is a good point. We do look at a whole in pieces as appose
to pieces to make the whole.
 

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I'm thinking if he likes to travel and etc a day trip somewhere new and thought provoking would be fun.
 

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I'm an ENTP 7w8:) Yes, I like crazy activities and fun random stuff, the wilder the place the better.

Um, I also like board games...a lot. I have some competitive instincts. It helps me exercise my mind and it is an extrovert thing. Boggle, Scrabble, FunEmployed, Cards Against Humanity, Scattergories, Taboo, Trivial Pursuit - those are all fun and you can play them with a group or some of them just the two of you.

Hiking is fun especially if you take snow shoes or a picnic (I have no idea where you are). Brunch and a museum especially a planetarium show. Dinner and a concert if you like music. Sledding on cheap saucer sleds and then hot chocolate at a coffee shop. Go to a 3D movie and then a games arcade and play big buck hunter (trust me - it's addictive). Volunteer at the food bank. Do some cooking class like asian food or a bartending class.

Those are some ideas.
 

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So I want to keep my guy interested.
Why? Do ENTP's get bored? I never have. The concept of you coming up with actives for him is like dating Anthony Bourdain and wanting to come up with a new recipe for him.

It sounds more like you're wanting to manipulate him away from partying as much. Good luck. I don't know about him, but pushing something like that, I've ended relationships for that.

If that's your goal I suggest a different tack. Let him do want he wants, but if you ever don't want to join in then don't. Just let him know you love him, nothing personal, you want him to have fun, you just can't hang. Hell, he may even like he's out partying you. A supportive partner is pure gold. Has to be genuine on your part. Don't be a Mommy. He get's his own ride home and if you see him passed out on the front steps in a puddle of puke, leave him there. ENTP's love experience and that's an experience, take it from me.

If you're wanting to be more valuable to him listening and discussing whatever, understanding when he gets intense it's probably not directed at you and whatever he wants to do know you don't always have to join in. A partner wanting to join in can be stifling sometimes. These things...very rare for a partner to give.

I partied very hard in my late teens to about 26 when I started to get serious about a career. Blackout drunks became more rare, once or twice a year. Less and less as I got older. I don't think ENTPs mature as fast as most types. And men definitely don't mature as fast as women. Takes us well into our 30's. This can create a lot of friction. If you want to keep him you're really going to have to take him as he is at this stage of his life imo.

One last thing...if you decide to cut back on your partying while making it OK for him to continue, he might just see your action to be an alternative. Or he might start thinking of other things to do with you. Who knows?
 

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If that's your goal I suggest a different tack. Let him do want he wants, but if you ever don't want to join in then don't. Just let him know you love him, nothing personal, you want him to have fun, you just can't hang. Hell, he may even like he's out partying you. A supportive partner is pure gold. Has to be genuine on your part. Don't be a Mommy. He get's his own ride home and if you see him passed out on the front steps in a puddle of puke, leave him there. ENTP's love experience and that's an experience, take it from me.

If you're wanting to be more valuable to him listening and discussing whatever, understanding when he gets intense it's probably not directed at you and whatever he wants to do know you don't always have to join in. A partner wanting to join in can be stifling sometimes. These things...very rare for a partner to give.

This. Yes. We very much value independence and an ability to be together and be separate. Smother us and lose us. Bore/ignore us and lose us. Find a happy medium, but mostly be yourself and enjoy yourself. We want someone who is happy to do what they want and know what they want.
 

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Bore/ignore us and lose us.
I assume "bore" would be like taking up a lot of our time with boring stuff? Not if you don't entertain us you lose us which I don't think ENTP males at least would expect.

I for one do expect to deal with a fair amount of being bored by a partner or something my partner wants me to do like go to an office party. She puts up with stuff from me that bores her too. Compromise to make neither gets what they want. Cornerstone of a relationship.
 

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@Waterbug - Every relationship, regardless of MBTI requires compromise to be successful.

That said, I do think that ENTPs need new things and excitement to remain engaged. Every person is different, and for example if you are an ENTP that is scoring with those traits at the 55% mark across the board and have a lot of shared traits with other personality types, you may manifest ENTP traits less. However, most ENTPs in life need stimulation and interesting things going on without feeling suppressed in their lives - that would carry over into the romantic arena in my opinion (for example - why would that be the exception?).

Doesn't mean you can't ask someone to do something that wouldn't be their first choice, but if you generally want to stay in every night and watch the same netflix show and eat the same food alone with your partner for ever, I doubt that that will go over well with your ENTP lover. And if that is really what you want to do, and you do it and just have them always do their own thing, or even worse fabricate a relationship where you pretend that isn't what you want to do and try to be someone you are not to better align with an ENTP, that is even worse in the long run. IMO.
 

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Wow - are you sure you aren't ENTJ???

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