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I have always been the type to withdraw completely in when I am out anywhere. I start becoming oblivious to the world outside of me and the people in it. Which makes it hard to interact with new people. I use to be socially awkward but I got over it but I cannot get out of that habit where I ignore everyone and everything around me. Sometimes I might see someone I would like to talk to but I get so lazy because it means I will have to start coming out from the clouds. Sometimes I brush people off when they try to talk to me by just nodding and cutting the conversation short. Sometimes I might see a guy I like or whatever but my automatic reaction is "Forget it. Too much effort". Sometimes I feel like I have an invisibility cloak on and it is entirely my fault. I have realised if you want to interact with the external world, you have to jump in it. But old habits die hard.

Yeah I am basically asking what I can do to become more extroverted. It sucks that my sensory function is introverted as well. XD Maybe I can use Ne to help me? :p
 
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what has tended to bring you out of the cloud in the past? Are there certain things that force you to commit? e.g. people might make themselves feel more like running by changing into tracksuit pants / having someone to make you accountable for accomplishing a goal.

What aspects of socializing hold your interest the most? What do you hope to get from it?

e.g. for me it'd generally be the conversation itself if I wasn't close with anyone. If they were discussing something I was curious about I'd ask questions even if I was tired, or didn't like the people I was with very much.

What motivates you to interact with other people instead of withdrawing?

Are there things you can't tolerate? e.g. large groups
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This has been a habitual problem for me as well, since I retreat into my headspace when I'm stressed. I recently joined a hangout group at Uni to fill in the timeslot between 2 classes - essentially you show up, eat snacks, and chat. The topics have been rather general, but it's harder for me to zone out when I'm being actively interrogated (typically opener = what are you studying / what year). So that's structure (a set time) + peer / environmental pressure.

Have you looked on meetup.com? (for groups that share interests)
 

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lt sounds like a true anxiety issue, l say ''true'' because l think a person will sometimes equate their level of anxiety with their social skills when it can be a reaction to the sensory environment like you described.So, it can be difficult to separate it from social anxiety in that way.

l don't have social anxiety, but l do have something like that.

l'm not sure if it bothers me less since it doesn't directly relate to people. l might have someone say l seem distracted or anxious, but generally people specifically don't make the feeling worse for me so l guess l was still able to social even when it was bad.

l can't say it'd work for everyone, but simple caffeine has been my go-to for years, in moderate amounts. Seems to block out external stimuli so l don't retreat all the way inside of my head (maybe just halfway:cool:).
 

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I love to socialise in moderate amounts. I love laughing, doing crazy shit, being appreciated by others and joining in the fun. I have no problems with hanging out with my friends. My motivation is to have fun and enjoy myself. Getting me out there would knowing that I could get a laugh and have fun memories to think back in but it is hard to place that when you are in a strange environment.
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I have anxiety issues though I try to ignore them. I get freaked out by incoming sensory stimuli easily and I do occasionally have panic attacks. It is not from people as much as in general. It is something I am trying to control because I refuse to be bothered by it but it does keep your from socialising in the end. I am trying.
 
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