He's completely right. Do the work first, play later. If you still have trouble doing it, then make work fun. Find something interesting about it and drive through.no, you are not smart enough to get around hard work, no one is. I don't care how many clever ideas you think you come up with, you have to actually DO them, and sometimes you will run into messy details that you have to sort out. life isn't as sexy in the real world as it is in the theoretical paradise that is your mind.
mmhmm. I didn't have a lot of trouble being too social my first years of college, but I had quite a bit of trouble with the hard work part. still struggling with it :tongue:Learn from my mistake - when you get into college/uni, DON'T overdo the socialisation aspect like I did, I very nearly got kicked out and now I'm looking at resits in a couple weeks. Enjoy yourself, make great friends, but work hard too
agreed, though there is something to be said of working on being less socially awkwardAlso teenage ENFP's - you're not strange, you're awesome. For my first two years in highschool I was a complete socially helpless mess until Naruto(still a great show ) of all things gave me the confidence to be myself - and almost immediately got a large and still very supportive friendship group.
*resists temptation to say something perverted* roud:Stick on there, fuck the dicks.
do not mistake the need for navigating and working within reality for conforming to reality.You have to conform to normality to some point - don't live in your head, get out there and experience life personally I really want to travel, really looking forward to it.
truth!In regards to depression, though in sincerely hope none of you are unlucky enough to get it, also stick in there. Look to your imagination and creativity and try to find a way out using that, and stick close to your friends. Let them know you're struggling ^_^
^thisno, you are not smart enough to get around hard work, no one is. I don't care how many clever ideas you think you come up with, you have to actually DO them, and sometimes you will run into messy details that you have to sort out. life isn't as sexy in the real world as it is in the theoretical paradise that is your mind.
I will say, flat out, that agree.Personally for me it didn't matter what people told me. I learned the best way through events. All though if you want me to try, I'd tell him that life is unfair and that he'll have to learn to live with it.
Sounds depressive, I know. That's what I'd say though.
Well, first of all - I'd say to your ENFP friend - we ALL rub people the wrong way sometimes. My INFJ girlfriend (and neither of us are very young) is STILL trying to figure out why she rubs so many the wrong way. One reason the eight-level model is superior to the four-level model some are promoting here is that it explains much of this issue. Our need to be liked by groups in general comes largely from our mostly-unconscious 6th-level function, archetypically the Critical Parent, which is filled by Fe: Extraverted Feeling. We want harmony with the group to keep from feeling down on ourselves. Accordingly, when young we tend to "gush" in order to be accepted. INFJs need to be liked by specific individuals as Fi, Introverted Feeling, fills that archetype. It's hard for many individuals to be accepted or rejected by the light of the INFJ laser beam, and acceptance or rejection by individuals is equally potent for the INFJ.I have an ENFP friend who is very charismatic, but looks down on himself because he thinks he's influenced people the wrong way. Though he knows it's unintentional he still feels bad about it. I think he's trying to figure himself out, and is having a hard time with it. Does anyone have some advice that you wish was said to you when you were younger, and figuring yourself out? Any words of encouragement would be helpful too.
Like the american style of ''dating'''? I've never done something like it I think, but I suppose it all comes down to what we label as ''dating'' and all.alrighty guys i have an ethical question i've been stuck on for awhile now, as a single 24 year old enfp(or for any single adult for that matter), what are your thoughts and views of dating multiple people at the same time, specifically first dates, any thoughts and ideas and reasons to either type of response to this is highly encouraged.
I think its a bad idea. I tried talking to multiple people online for a while, and I felt bad because I was getting attached to one person and didn't want to talk to anyone else, because it felt like I was betraying them, and I felt really confused.alrighty guys i have an ethical question i've been stuck on for awhile now, as a single 24 year old enfp(or for any single adult for that matter), what are your thoughts and views of dating multiple people at the same time, specifically first dates, any thoughts and ideas and reasons to either type of response to this is highly encouraged.
I was mostly addressing myself. About 80% of the stuff I have posted on here is probably bullshit. I loved giving people advice, yet my own life was a huge mess- still single at mid 20s, did badly at school, terrible social skills, struggled with eating disorders, Bipolar, manic, sleep deprived, lonely, overweight, lazy, unemployed, still living with parents... to be honest, I didn't know much about anything, at best, my advice was just opinions of what could work, not necessarily things I had tested.Besides, unhealthy people often don't know they are, so those will assume you're not addressing them.
I know the feeling.I am more of a cautionary tale than anything. I can tell you what doesn't work, and what I have learnt from some of my mistakes, but I'm not really an expert on anything.