If you were interested in someone and then felt differently would you let the other person know or stop corresponding all together?
I met an INTJ online while he was working overseas. The communication was a bit spotty and I could never tell if he liked me or not. After reading up on INTJ's I was prepared to still not know where I stood after the weekend but he was completely different in person. He was in town for a week and after meeting him spent the next 3 nights seeing each other. Things seemed great.
He was really affectionate, he told me he liked me, that he'd miss me and wanted me to fly out and see him. After he left I told him something important about me that could be a deal breaker. Since it seemed that things were progressing fast I did not want to get too involved if it would be a problem. I did hear from him a couple days later but his tone was different, no sweet endearments anymore. I then sent a email stating I felt in limbo and was taking cues from him as how to act. I did not want to pressure him and it was okay if he was undecided about continuing but I still felt strongly for him. That when he decided could he let me know. I also said that I hoped if he did feel different that we could still be friends because I would always like him but know the limitations.
Of course now I regret the email although I felt it best to be honest and see what happened. Especially since he picked up on my confusion that things were moving fast and I was not totally comfortable with how much I liked him when we met. He has not responded for 3 days. I wish I knew for sure if he was not interested or still trying to decide what to do. He did tell me if faced with something he has not experienced before he has to think about it before making a decision.
So I am giving him space. Any suggestions for what to do now? I wish I could just say it's over and move on but the days spent with him were awesome and I can't stop myself from hoping he still feels the same. Although I would think that if he was still interested I would have heard something if only a general email.
I met an INTJ online while he was working overseas. The communication was a bit spotty and I could never tell if he liked me or not. After reading up on INTJ's I was prepared to still not know where I stood after the weekend but he was completely different in person. He was in town for a week and after meeting him spent the next 3 nights seeing each other. Things seemed great.
He was really affectionate, he told me he liked me, that he'd miss me and wanted me to fly out and see him. After he left I told him something important about me that could be a deal breaker. Since it seemed that things were progressing fast I did not want to get too involved if it would be a problem. I did hear from him a couple days later but his tone was different, no sweet endearments anymore. I then sent a email stating I felt in limbo and was taking cues from him as how to act. I did not want to pressure him and it was okay if he was undecided about continuing but I still felt strongly for him. That when he decided could he let me know. I also said that I hoped if he did feel different that we could still be friends because I would always like him but know the limitations.
Of course now I regret the email although I felt it best to be honest and see what happened. Especially since he picked up on my confusion that things were moving fast and I was not totally comfortable with how much I liked him when we met. He has not responded for 3 days. I wish I knew for sure if he was not interested or still trying to decide what to do. He did tell me if faced with something he has not experienced before he has to think about it before making a decision.
So I am giving him space. Any suggestions for what to do now? I wish I could just say it's over and move on but the days spent with him were awesome and I can't stop myself from hoping he still feels the same. Although I would think that if he was still interested I would have heard something if only a general email.