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Hey ESTJs, I need your advice. 
roud: There is someone i recently became interested in, and the more I get to know him, the harder it is for me to decide if he is ESTJ or ENTJ. I posted on the ENTJ forum too but i wanted to post here, too, if he ends up being ESTJ.
our departments our working together on a project and he is directing this one. Department protocol asks us to keep our personal and professional life separated, office dating is fine as long as it is after we are done working on a project. there is a professional boundary. for now. So until we finish this project, we can develop a "professional rapport" but no personal friendship or relationship.
He showed interest in me first - randomly engaged in a friendly conversation with me, and we talked about all sorts of stuff within the first 10-15 minutes. It was a very efficient conversation haha.... i learned a lot about him, and i was surprised to see how much he could draw out from me within that given time. Second time he showed interest, was at a conference when I saw him intently studying/observing me. When he says my name, he speaks with a softer, gentle voice, even though he is usually very commanding and directing.
We had another conference/symposium today.... it was huge... maybe about 600 people? i came in late, so i was looking for a seat in the back. while i was sitting, i did a quick scan, and my eyes sort of fell on him about to sit with someone in the front. they were talking/chatting. i was pretty sure he didn't see me, so i was just getting my laptop out and working on some notes, getting my intake of caffeine! and around that time the conference was starting... and someone started speaking, people were starting to get quiet/conversations started dying out... i saw him from the corner of my eye, walking up the aisle with his stuff!, and he found a seat in the back, diagonal to me. =) and for the entire conference, i could feel that he was observing me. his seat was in a position where he could observe me, but he was sort of obvious about it (he wasn't trying to hide his observing from me, by sitting right behind me ). and one time, he left the conference for a few minutes (to check the phone?), but instead of using the back entrance, he used the side entrance, where he would be visible to me. and i think he did this on purpose. because when people come in from either of the side entrances, my head sort of jerks in that direction for a few seconds, and i know he was observing me doing this. he seems to have this weird ability to scan the room and find me in a crowd of huge people.
i've established (on the infj and entj forum) that he's interested in me, and that for the next few months , were keeping a professional relationship. I just want to know... what is going on in your mind when you guys observe someone from afar? i dont mind him observing... i almost feel like theres someone sort of overseeing/guarding me the way he watches... but i wonder what he is thinking about?
roud: There is someone i recently became interested in, and the more I get to know him, the harder it is for me to decide if he is ESTJ or ENTJ. I posted on the ENTJ forum too but i wanted to post here, too, if he ends up being ESTJ. our departments our working together on a project and he is directing this one. Department protocol asks us to keep our personal and professional life separated, office dating is fine as long as it is after we are done working on a project. there is a professional boundary. for now. So until we finish this project, we can develop a "professional rapport" but no personal friendship or relationship.
He showed interest in me first - randomly engaged in a friendly conversation with me, and we talked about all sorts of stuff within the first 10-15 minutes. It was a very efficient conversation haha.... i learned a lot about him, and i was surprised to see how much he could draw out from me within that given time. Second time he showed interest, was at a conference when I saw him intently studying/observing me. When he says my name, he speaks with a softer, gentle voice, even though he is usually very commanding and directing.
We had another conference/symposium today.... it was huge... maybe about 600 people? i came in late, so i was looking for a seat in the back. while i was sitting, i did a quick scan, and my eyes sort of fell on him about to sit with someone in the front. they were talking/chatting. i was pretty sure he didn't see me, so i was just getting my laptop out and working on some notes, getting my intake of caffeine! and around that time the conference was starting... and someone started speaking, people were starting to get quiet/conversations started dying out... i saw him from the corner of my eye, walking up the aisle with his stuff!, and he found a seat in the back, diagonal to me. =) and for the entire conference, i could feel that he was observing me. his seat was in a position where he could observe me, but he was sort of obvious about it (he wasn't trying to hide his observing from me, by sitting right behind me ). and one time, he left the conference for a few minutes (to check the phone?), but instead of using the back entrance, he used the side entrance, where he would be visible to me. and i think he did this on purpose. because when people come in from either of the side entrances, my head sort of jerks in that direction for a few seconds, and i know he was observing me doing this. he seems to have this weird ability to scan the room and find me in a crowd of huge people.
i've established (on the infj and entj forum) that he's interested in me, and that for the next few months , were keeping a professional relationship. I just want to know... what is going on in your mind when you guys observe someone from afar? i dont mind him observing... i almost feel like theres someone sort of overseeing/guarding me the way he watches... but i wonder what he is thinking about?
