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Which age group are you in, as which sex, in your earliest memory with masturbation?

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I'm curious when people first masturbated. A large number of my friends started long before puberty. 5 years old. They didn't understand the sexual nature, they were simply touching a spot that felt pleasant.

I was rather late. I started at 16, and I'm 17 now. In fact, it was only about 8 weeks ago. Or less.

I have friends who have never masturbated before.

There's evidence that people masturbate in the womb. It's an interesting spin on the Oedipus complex that little boys are stimulating their penises inside their mothers.

I have a memory of this girl who sat next to me in 2nd grade who would drill her eraser into various parts of her bodies. It was just a quirk, you know? We all fiddle with our pens and pencils. One day, the random spot she picked was her crotch, and she said "Woah, that feels weird." For the rest of the year, she would just stimulate that one area with her pencil. One time, she made me help. In hindsight, this is a weird memory, but I was simply being helpful, and indeed I was. She essentially masturbated in that class every day of the year from then on.

I also wonder if this has anything to do with being sexually liberal or conservative. I know I'm very open about how I feel about sexuality. I think that people who are in the Sex and Relationships forum would all be like this, but I suppose we'll see how my hypothesis goes.
 

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Well, I first started fapping around 7 or 8 years old, and I had puberty around 9 years old. What you shared is certainly interesting...

I'm between liberal and conservative; I am comfortable with talking about it, but I only sleep with someone whom I am in a relationship with and never wanted to sleep around. I think it has more to do with how sensitive our bodies are and how much we enjoy the feeling of stimulating ourselves.
 

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Well, I first started fapping around 7 or 8 years old, and I had puberty around 9 years old. What you shared is certainly interesting...

I'm between liberal and conservative; I am comfortable with talking about it, but I only sleep with someone whom I am in a relationship with and never wanted to sleep around. I think it has more to do with how sensitive our bodies are and how much we enjoy the feeling of stimulating ourselves.
Well, I don't like sleeping around either. It's near impossible for me to find strangers attractive, which is a HUGE problem I have with porn. I typically fantasize fucking my closest friends, and I usually tell them and they're flattered more than creeped. Despite being one to not be very promiscuous, I still consider myself very sexually liberal.
 

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Well, I don't like sleeping around either. It's near impossible for me to find strangers attractive, which is a HUGE problem I have with porn. I typically fantasize fucking my closest friends, and I usually tell them and they're flattered more than creeped. Despite being one to not be very promiscuous, I still consider myself very sexually liberal.
I usually have certain specific types of porn that makes me aroused, but I am hardly attracted to those people. I don't really think of sleeping with them; but more of being aroused by looking at them. So far, I've only fantasised about people whom I've liked very much or someone I'm in love with, as having deep feelings for the person subconsciously makes me want to have sex with them as well. Otherwise, I just find some people sexually attractive, though I don't have a desire to sleep with them at all.
 

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Me and my female friend played doctor when we were five. I remember commanding her to take off her clothes and then we took turns touching each other while we were naked. I felt bad about making her do that though even though she just sort of laughed nervously.

I didn't start masturbating until I was a bit older (maybe 7 or 8?) when I discovered what an orgasm felt like upon climbing a rope attached to our club house in the back yard. Also discovered bouncing on a big bouncy ball would also get me there and so and and so forth. I don't really do it any more these days.

Am I sexually open? I don't know. I don't really know anyone here in person so don't make a big deal out of it. I don't talk about it with just anybody. Some people act like sex is a dirty thing. I would say overall I am uncomfortable talking about it in person.
 

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God I was so retarded with my body when I was little (still, kinda sorta am).

I remember around eight I would get horny without knowing what horny was, so I'd lock myself in the bathroom, get naked, and climb up on the sink counter and press myself against the mirror as hard as I could without breaking it. No humping, no noises, just probably the most goddamn unintelligible act a human being has ever committed since the invention of hang gliding. It wasn't until a whole year of doing that that my intuitive prowess told me "Hey, try playing with those bits between your legs, they're the ones that are making you feel this way anyhow."

And bam, horniness just got 92% less potentially fatal for Zippy.
 

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God I was so retarded with my body when I was little (still, kinda sorta am).

I remember around eight I would get horny without knowing what horny was, so I'd lock myself in the bathroom, get naked, and climb up on the sink counter and press myself against the mirror as hard as I could without breaking it. No humping, no noises, just probably the most goddamn unintelligible act a human being has ever committed since the invention of hang gliding. It wasn't until a whole year of doing that that my intuitive prowess told me "Hey, try playing with those bits between your legs, they're the ones that are making you feel this way anyhow."

And bam, horniness just got 92% less potentially fatal for Zippy.
I showed this story to my friend and she's still laughing. This is funny.
 

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I started pretty young. Probably around seven or eight. Don't really remember.

What I do remember is having bdsm-esque fantasies loooooooooooooong before I even knew what bdsm was. They were pretty much there from the start.
 

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@TheOminousMuffin Yeah, similar story here, I hadn't done it until like, the week of my 16th birthday. Not that I was ever told not to do it or anything. I just wasn't interested in sex persay until about 15. I was already into girls, but in a puppy-dog way. I'm glad, though. If I had been masturbating since I was like 13, the experience would be lost on me. As it is, I've come to really appreciate it.
 

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Very, very young (definitely under 5). It was much later though that I realised/understood it was sexual in nature, mainly because my mother told me it was "inappropriate".

Despite my mum trying to guilt-trip me, it thankfully never really became an issue, as in connected to shame or anything. Pretty much did and enjoyed it all my life ;)
 

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Honestly I didn't knew about masturbation before I was almost 20 ,lol ,but its true because I never had much exposure to sexual material before that age,my family is very traditional and conservative kind so I had quite sheltered upbringing throughout my life .The only kind of sex education I had before that was that if a girl doesn't gets her periods on date and that she had slept with a man ,means she is pregnant ,those things used to terrify me a lot .
But later when I went to college and met with girls of my age group ,I got to learn a lot from them about sexual stuff .I became more curious about it so I searched numerous articles on woman and sexuality ,learned about masturbation and sex ,about how a girl or woman can pleasure herself through masturbation ,its benefits for example it helps in regulating hormones levels in females ,increases endorphin levels etc. Most importantly it prevented me from losing my virginity which I want to save for the love of my life .
 

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(...) I never had much exposure to sexual material before that age,my family is very traditional and conservative kind so I had quite sheltered upbringing throughout my life (...)
I am not so sure however if that has anything to do with the fact whether we masturbate or not, or at what age we start (early/late). It probably has more to do with the fact if there is any shame/guilt involved once you start doing it...

I would reckon that the drive as such must have a different explanation. I certainly had no idea of sexual acts, or previous exposure to sexual material, when I started playing with my bits (I was definitely under the age of 5) ;)

I'd call both my mum and dad extremely prude, and sex was never a subject unless it had to be. My mum just about managed to explain to me what a period was, and told me to get a prescription for the pill when I was 15 because she could tell I was sexually curious. That talk didn't happen because she was sexually open, but because she was terrified I might get pregnant...
 

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I am not so sure however if that has anything to do with the fact whether we masturbate or not, or at what age we start (early/late). It probably has more to do with the fact if there is any shame/guilt involved once you start doing it...
I would reckon that the drive as such must have a different explanation.
To be extremely honest I never felt shame or guilt towards my sexuality ,I have always been free-willed and open minded about it from the time I realized anything about it .Like I said I was brought up in a traditional way ,I have some personal beliefs ,morals and values regarding my life ,and I feel lucky that I realized about all these things at right age ,because I don't think otherwise I would have developed a healthy and positive sexuality for myself .
 

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I am not so sure however if that has anything to do with the fact whether we masturbate or not, or at what age we start (early/late). It probably has more to do with the fact if there is any shame/guilt involved once you start doing it...
It has a lot to do with nurture. I've seen cases of women who, after engaging in masturbation, feel an extreme amount of guilt, due to a sense of contradiction between their needs and their upbringing; they feel guitly for satisfying their sexual desires because a doctrine taught at them (a conservative upbringing). And, it's this dicotomy which, in their minds, prevents them from fully enjoying the act of masturbation and, later on, premarital sex. At least, that's what Ive seen.
 

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Totally agree. The keyword is after engaging in masturbation though. Since the question was about first masturbation experiences, I wonder how many children really feel guilt when they explore masturbation (or related activities) for the first time. It's after they get "caught" when the guilt cycle starts (or not, depends).

They just explore their bodies and find it enjoyable. Some are very young, some older. The ones who start very young are probably less likely to see any sexual connotations tbh, whilst the older ones are, IMO, much more likely to already have an idea that "touching yourself down there" has sexual connotations. I know 100% that my first explorations were totally "innocent" in that way, simply because I was so young. It's the adults who catch you doing it who give you the thoughts that you shouldn't. Thankfully, that never held me back, but like you, I know quite a few people who feel shame about it.

It's just normal behaviour. No badge of honour earned for starting earlier or later, no "healthier, more normal or positive sexuality" for starting later either in my opinion...
 
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Totally agree. The keyword is after engaging in masturbation though. Since the question was about first masturbation experiences, I wonder how many children really feel guilt when they explore masturbation (or related activities) for the first time. It's after they get "caught" when the guilt cycle starts (or not, depends).

They just explore their bodies and find it enjoyable. Some are very young, some older. The ones who start very young are probably less likely to see any sexual connotations tbh, whilst the older ones are, IMO, much more likely to already have an idea that "touching yourself down there" has sexual connotations. I know 100% that my first explorations were totally "innocent" in that way, simply because I was so young. It's the adults who catch you doing it who give you the thoughts that you shouldn't. Thankfully, that never held me back, but like you, I know quite a few people who feel shame about it.

It's just normal behaviour. No badge of honour earned for starting earlier or later, no "healthier, more normal or positive sexuality" for starting later either in my opinion...
Agreed 100%... And, my bad on the "after". If only that subject could be seen without any connotation or taboo attached to it. Well, dreaming is easy, right?
 

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On my goodness, :rolleyes:.........I don't understand why you guys are so hell bend on justifying your masturbation experiences so much ,that you need to pick up on other's post to prove your point right ,its ok you did whatever you did before you entered your elementary school ,I don't mind even if you did it before you learned how to call Mommy and Daddy ,that's just fine by me but stop creating unnecesary troll on this thread .
And about poistive sexuality thing ,it is about when you don't feel self conscious about your body ,sexuality or your sexual orientation ,you are confident expressing yourself sexually. When you are welcoming and accepting of others choices and beliefs when it comes to sex related issues ,such that when your partner voices his/her likes and dislikes you consider them and work them out for both of your mutual pleasure, instead of being selfish ,prude or uncaring about them .When you know the difference between safe sex and mindless rut and most importantly when you know that life is not all about having sex but sex is all about having a life .
And remember some people out there are demisexuals ,who are not against pre-marital sex ,they just want it with person they love .
 

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@FallingSlowly and @CaptSwan

On my goodness, :rolleyes:.........I don't understand why you guys are so hell bend on justifying your masturbation experiences so much ,that you need to pick up on other's post to prove your point right ,its ok you did whatever you did before you entered your elementary school ,I don't mind even if you did it before you learned how to call Mommy and Daddy ,that's just fine by me but stop creating unnecesary troll on this thread .
And about poistive sexuality thing ,it is about when you don't feel self conscious about your body ,sexuality or your sexual orientation ,you are confident expressing yourself sexually. When you are welcoming and accepting of others choices and beliefs when it comes to sex related issues ,such that when your partner voices his/her likes and dislikes you consider them and work them out for both of your mutual pleasure, instead of being selfish ,prude or uncaring about them .When you know the difference between safe sex and mindless rut and most importantly when you know that life is not all about having sex but sex is all about having a life .
And remember some people out there are demisexuals ,who are not against pre-marital sex ,they just want it with person they love .
That conversation was over with my last post. There was no intention of going forward with it; so, there's no need for the harshness. Although, it's good to see people putting order on threads. Good job!
 

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I remember stimulating myself with the water pressure from bathtub faucets and shower heads at age 6. I may have before then, but that's about as far as my memories go. When I was 8, a friend and I got naked and rubbed against each other. We didn't know what the hell we were doing, except it felt good.

I think some of my preoccupation with sex had to do with accidentally watching porn at that age. But I don't know, I've just always been a hedonist in that way.
 
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