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First of all, hello! I'm (obviously) new. :p

I'll post a formal introduction after this, but after reading the in depth responses to some of the threads here, I was too excited to not post this first!

1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
I've taken the test a few times over the years, but I get varying results because I over-analyze the questions and answers too much. I frequently find myself thinking, "None of the above!" or "Yes if it's in this context, but also no in this context." Reading the descriptions, I feel like I identify the most with that described of the INFJ type, but I'm too critical to be content with a self-diagnosis and would prefer to have more qualified people pass judgement.

2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
I yearn to feel important, needed, intelligent, and creative. I yearn to feel that way in everything I do- from random hobbies, to blogging, to internet forums, to my job, and to my potential career (which I'm still seeking). I get the most validation in perfecting a skill or creating something, and then seeing how helpful I was based on people's responses. I get depressed when I don't get this feeling, and so I'm constantly seeking opportunities in which I can feel important.

I also feel important when I'm sort of playing leader in a group or cause in which I fully, passionately support. I'm very diplomatic and good at organizing and understanding people's needs.

3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
Honestly, I've felt my finest at any time where I'm being recognized for doing a good job at something. Most recently, I entered a modeling competition that is intent on defying and redefining beauty standards. I'm really passionate and sincere about body acceptance and the self-esteem of women, and so I based my campaign on that instead of merely "I want to be a model" like the majority of the other entrants. I made videos, wrote blog entries, and connected with hundreds of women on this issue, and was recognized for my passion. This made me feel amazing because it's something I deeply care about, for one, and because so many people were reaching out to me saying that I positively affected them. To know that my words could inspire such a positive response in both friends and strangers alike was exhilarating.

4) What makes you feel inferior?
I feel inferior when people try to help or advise me on something I already know, or when they outright patronize or call me stupid. I don't know why, but I've always felt like I've had to prove something to everyone. If someone criticized something superficial like my body or the way I talked, I'd take considerably less offense than if someone questioned my intellectual capacity. Maybe it's my life's experiences that has shaped me this way, or maybe it's a clue to my personality type; who knows?

I also feel bad- not necessarily inferior- when there's tension or conflict, even if it does not concern myself. I am VERY, VERY sensitive to tension and can be good at easing it, but it upsets me greatly.

5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I am the worst decision-maker ever. I like to analyze every pro, con, how it'll affect me, etc, before deciding, and even then, I'm never sure until I see the results all played out. Even deciding between a pair of shoes is a process! I have to sit there and analyze it from every angle to make sure I'm making the best, educated decision based on the data available.

Let me try to come up with an example.
Okay. To first give a background to this, I'm a card dealer in a casino, which is a terrible job for me. It completely, emotionally sucks me dry, leaving me feeling in this zombie-like, weary state that has nothing to do with the physical aspect of it. I usually only work weekends and holidays, but even then, three days is almost too many. This past week, I had to work seven days in a row. Seven days of crazy, busy crowds, of groups of strangers on every table I went to, all feeling entitled to a cheerful, entertaining person.

Yesterday was almost too much for me, and today would've been worse, even though it was my last day. I had to sit there and try to rationalize calling in. This is how the thought process went:

I want to call in. I don't know if I can handle another day.
Okay, I know I can handle another day, technically; it'd be rough, but I could tough it out.
Right, but I have the points (we operate on a points system- you get 12, and if you reach it, you're fired) and the PTO to support it. Why not?
What if I need that point and PTO for something actually important? If I have to call in for some dire emergency on a high volume day where it's double the points, I lose my job.
Right, but I feel like shit. Don't give any shits today. I can't.

This dialogue played back and forth like this for a full 10 minutes before I finally was resolved to call in.

6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
It really, really depends. If it's a creative sort of project, or something having to do with the behavior of people, I want control because I know I will kick ass and be the best at it. If someone else is in control, I'll only feel impatient and irritated because I'll criticize everything they do, comparing it to my esteemed superior ideas.

However, if it's something outside of those areas, I'll typically prefer someone else to control it. I only want control if it's something I can handle very, very well.

7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
For my birthday this year, I invited a handful of my closest friends over. We played Telestrations (a guessing drawing game, much less Draw Something or Drawception) and Rock Band. It was great because I was surrounded by people, but people I know and feel great around. There was much laughing and many inside jokes to be had. It's the ideal social environment for me.

8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
I'm a visual and hands-on-learner. Many times, I need to see someone demonstrate something physically for me to get it. If it's something physical, I might need to broken down step-by-step as I mimic it. Once that happens, it clicks immediately and I'm good. I'm also exceptionally good at memorizing things and can retain the memory of it for ages.

I, however, cannot learn things well through textbook descriptions, especially things such as math. I went all through school thinking I was terrible at math until the casino business taught me I can actually handle numbers quite well. The difference is how I approach them. If a teacher would have taken just an extra minute to demonstrate something to me personally, I would've done much better. Sometimes, I need some sort of visual breakdown for number-related things to click. I'm not great at doing large sums in my head, but if I can find a way to picture it in my mind, I can do it just as quickly.

9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
It depends! With my own personal belonging, so not organized! I've got clothes scattered everywhere, shoes all over the room, and books on every flat surface. However, once I take time to organize it all, it has to be perfect, and nobody can do it better than I can. My books are organized by type (fantasy, science fiction, generic fiction, nonfiction, etc), then by alphabetical author, and then ordered by numbers in a series. I mean, look at this post as an example. I keep editing it to fix the formatting! It MUST be perfect. :p

Nonphysically, I'm very mentally organized. I'm always thinking, thinking, thinking; filing away every errant thought and idea in the appropriate spot for later. I like to try to mentally plan ahead for every possible circumstance so I'm not caught unaware. I don't do well when completely caught off guard.

10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
Both. I try to look at all the information and the principles, and then I try to relate to it. The quickest way for me to understand something and then explain things to people is to always find a way to relate with it. I don't necessarily mean how it makes me feel; emotions don't come into this. But for me to understand something better, finding an idea or an experience that is similar makes it easier for my mind to accept.

11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
Again, both. Here's a good example for you: I used to run a raiding guild in World of Warcraft. I went out of my way to make sure every new person felt comfortable and needed, because I know from experience, being the new guy/girl in any social context can be awkward- especially if you're not especially outgoing! Sometimes I'd specifically include them in activities with my close friends, just to make them feel included, and I would hand out compliments when warranted, because everyone wants to feel like they're contributing and needed.

With that said, my personal code of conduct is crucial for me. Being true to myself, and being sincere, are very important parts of who I am.

12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
If I feel comfortable in the social situation- say, with close friends- then I speak as I think. But in most cases, I think extensively before I speak. Sometimes, I'll even spend a while planning out what to say before I say it. I definitely, definitely prefer one-on-one communication, or smaller groups. Unless I'm very passionate about the subject, I tend to get lost in larger group discussions. But in smaller groups, I can take charge and even dominate the discussion.

13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I need to know how, where, and why before take a leap, and then a few extra minutes to make sure this leap is what I want. Then a few deep breaths to summon the nerve. :p

Action does not always speak more than words! I think it depends on the context and the person. People convey things differently through different means.

14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
Probably decline. I'm not one for spur-of-the-moment activities. I like to plan things well in advance and get irritated and frazzled when my "me time" is irrupted.

15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
Panic. I panic so hard. I might need a moment alone to sort of mentally clock out and think of something distracting- usually "creating" ideas for later, like a blog post- before I face reality. I don't take it out on others, though. I put a fairly good face on these and never lash out; not even around close friends or loved ones.

16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
I get really irritated around people who don't "get" me. Like when co-workers ask me to go drinking after work, and can't understand why that is the least appealing thing to me ever. Or when men flirt with me and get irritated that I don't want to flirt back, because I have no need for their attention or games. I sometimes feel like I'm just on a totally different level than everyone else, and I don't mean that to sound pretentious; I just feel like a totally different breed of a human being. It feels like I see the world, myself, and my experiences differently than others, and I get frustrated, because my key talent with people is relating to them. How can I relate to some people? If I can't relate, there's no way for me to interact well with them, and so I'm left silent and feeling awkward.

17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
Haha, I was just mentioning in the above question- I love being able to find things in people that are relatable. Common interests, feelings, experiences, opinions, etc. There's almost always something someone has to which I can relate, and once I find it, I seize it and build a relationship with it.

18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life?
Um, things that bore me. I'm very much an extremes sort of person. If I'm interested, you get my entire passion and drive, but if I'm bored, you get nothing. Zero. That applies to everything, from television, to sports, to hobbies, to even people. I know that's a broad answer, but I'm really a hit-or-miss sort of person. I either really love it, or I'm really apathetic toward it.

19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
My closest friends perceive me pretty accurately, I'd say. They understand my need for perfection, my social tendencies, my passion, and my depth. The only thing they may not get is just that overwhelming, controlling NEED to have something for which to wake up. I've been struggling for years to find a career worth returning to school for, and they're all boggled at my struggle because I have so many different interests and things I'm good at. They don't understand it's not about finding a job that I can do that pays well, but rather finding something that gives my life a sense of purpose and fills me with a sense of self-righteous drive and passion.

My friends would never say that I'm a risk-taker, one who acts out on emotions, or one who acts on impulse. Acquaintances (such as co-workers) might incorrectly think I'm extroverted, although I'm most certainly introverted.

20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
Reading, writing, drawing, photoshop. Maybe a bit of social networking like facebook or forums, but it's likely that's the only social stimulation I'll seek.
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