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I seem to relate in every way except for one crucial part: I'm not quiet. I'm very loud and others perceive me as an outgoing person. I do, however, spend a lot of quality time alone in my thoughts.

Do you think my loudness and obnoxiousness is a disqualifier?
 

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Depends. Are you introverted? Just because you think to yourself from time to time doesn't automatically make you an introvert.

It pretty much only means you have a brain.

Introversion means you are drained by sustained interaction. Talking is not your "natural element".
 

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I only enjoy talking to people for short periods of time. Whenever I go to a social event, people get irritated cause I leave so early. I just get bored with social interaction and like to be on my own for a while. But I always try to at least go to events. And although I talk alot, I'm not "good" at talking. I usually stutter or get nervous, so I try to keep most conversations one-on-one to avoid embarassment.
 

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Just because you think to yourself from time to time doesn't automatically make you an introvert.

It pretty much only means you have a brain.
lol! I was so expecting to see :dry: after that. Oh, how that made my day.

Anyway, introverts are drained by people. Extroverts are energized by them. Generally when introverts crave to be around people, they have an energy surplus. When extroverts crave solitude, they too have an energy surplus.

Each person is like a gas tank in that s/he can only hold so much. IMHO, anyway.
 
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I have had some relatively long periods in life where I was much more extroverted. ("Long periods" as in 9 months or maybe a year or two.) But always, always, it reverts back to the need for lots of solitude.

I like people, and like being around them, and I'm friendly and kind and like to make people comfortable. I think this is common amongst INFJ. I'm a "people person", for sure. But... need lots of alone time to recharge. In my alone time I'm thinking about people, or watching movies or reading books that are all about relationships and intense characters, too. It's all people for me, even when I can't be around them for a while.

I think this makes it difficult to understand INFJs, unless you are really aware of what's happening.
 

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I have had some relatively long periods in life where I was much more extroverted. ("Long periods" as in 9 months or maybe a year or two.) But always, always, it reverts back to the need for lots of solitude.

I like people, and like being around them, and I'm friendly and kind and like to make people comfortable. I think this is common amongst INFJ. I'm a "people person", for sure. But... need lots of alone time to recharge. In my alone time I'm thinking about people, or watching movies or reading books that are all about relationships and intense characters, too. It's all people for me, even when I can't be around them for a while.

I think this makes it difficult to understand INFJs, unless you are really aware of what's happening.
Yeah that's definitely me:)
Thanks everyone, just needed a little reassurance. =)
 

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It should be noted that extroversion is also being focused on any other external stimuli besides people as well. Ideas, facts, values, concepts, etc. which may or may not align with sociability. The former aspect depends on the function and the latter context.

Just because the process is going on inside your head does not necessarily mean it was formed from an introverted standpoint alone. Nor when someone is speaking their line of thinking to you in real time does it mean it can't be a totally isolated, subjective point of view.
 

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So you are a loud and obnoxious nervous stutterer? Interesting.

Honestly, I think a lot of these things can be sorted out by delving more into your enneagram triad and instinct stackings. And then from there you can piece together how it all fits with being an INFJ or some other type. Just my two cents :)
 

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Introvert does not equal not talkative, and extroverts aren't necessarily talkative. I think that's a common misconception.

Where do you draw your energy? Do you draw it from spending time with other people? I am very social and talkative, and I LOVE people, but it drains me and I need my alone time to recharge and refocus.
 

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Just by relating to one another doesn't make everyone is rightly typed .. it just makes it possible that everyone is the same type, but just not the one they're thinking. So don't go by relational typing - and do heavy duty research into Cognitive Functions.

Look at the following:

1. Direction of energy --- Is it external, or internal? Think first, speak later? Speak first, think later?
2. What is the external environment like --- Is it forcing you into periods of isolation. The human mind is flexible, if the environment is not conducive to extroversion, then the mind will adapt to introversion, become used to it, believe it to be a preference even when it is not. It is possible.
3. Getting "bored" of extended interaction is not the same as getting "drained" by it - I've seen a lot of potentially extroverted people claim to be introverts because they don't want to socialize with specific types of people ... It's the next best thing to being alone right? It's so easy to just believe that "I like being alone because I can do a shitload of activities when I'm alone and I don't mind it because I'm entertained." >>> Big clue to a potential mistype .. just because someone can entertain/distract themselves when they're alone is also not an indication of introversion.

INFJ's = NiFe .... Everything is filtered through intuition.
ENFJs = FeNi .... Everything is filtered through feeling.

There's a lot of good resources in the Cognitive Functions forum now ... much better to research there, than try to relate within sub-forums, because if there are 20 people here and 10 of them are mistyped, then they are potentially causing others to mistype as well.
 

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First, your confusing Energy with lifestyle. The outgoing nature that you have is your lifestyle. This is how others see you. You are judging. Those who judge are individuals who send out information, either thinking or feeling information. You send out feeling information. As a result you expres your feelings when dealing with others. This may be taken different ways. Your social skills can adjust how you do this.
 

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I am loud and appear extroverted in some situations - its an act. i know its required of me, so i do it (sometimes). As I get older though, I get more tired of it and instead display the boredom on my face (i'm getting the INTJ-thing down pat - except my damn infj expressive eyes.. sigh).

Confidence is not the same as extroversion.
 
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