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I am certain I am an INFJ, but there is one common INFJ trait I keep hearing described that does not fit me... quiet. If you asked one of my friends whether I was a quiet person I'm quite sure they would laugh hysterically. But I have to qualify this... I am certainly quiet in social situations where I don't know anyone. But when I am involved with something, I am very outspoken and downright loud at times. The more comfortable I get with a group or with a situation, the more my mouth is in motion! I seem to have gotten less and less quiet as I have aged.

So, please tell me... are there other not so quiet INFJ's out there? Or am I an aberration?
 

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I am certain I am an INFJ, but there is one common INFJ trait I keep hearing described that does not fit me... quiet. If you asked one of my friends whether I was a quiet person I'm quite sure they would laugh hysterically. But I have to qualify this... I am certainly quiet in social situations where I don't know anyone. But when I am involved with something, I am very outspoken and downright loud at times. The more comfortable I get with a group or with a situation, the more my mouth is in motion! I seem to have gotten less and less quiet as I have aged.

So, please tell me... are there other not so quiet INFJ's out there? Or am I an aberration?
don't worry your the same as me when i get close to others i'm pretty much part of the group if it's more then five or six people including me then i start quiet down

....i don't know about other INFJs
 

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My voice is loud and carries far. It is a bad combination

I keep it down as best I can at work, but when someone makes me laugh the whole building will hear it
 

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I am certain I am an INFJ, but there is one common INFJ trait I keep hearing described that does not fit me... quiet. If you asked one of my friends whether I was a quiet person I'm quite sure they would laugh hysterically. But I have to qualify this... I am certainly quiet in social situations where I don't know anyone. But when I am involved with something, I am very outspoken and downright loud at times. The more comfortable I get with a group or with a situation, the more my mouth is in motion! I seem to have gotten less and less quiet as I have aged.

So, please tell me... are there other not so quiet INFJ's out there? Or am I an aberration?
I have an INFJ SIL and my mother is INFJ, neither one of them are quiet in their comfort zone. The are not social butterflies but certainly speak their minds and can be quite loud in their group of friends. I've actually asked my mom on several occasions to stop yelling while she's talking, sometimes it's painful. Both of them have very loud, distinctive laughs, you can recognize it anywhere.
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Don't feel bad, I'm very loud as well. I just need to be with the right company and I can become quite the megaphone.

Don't get me started on my laughter either lol
 

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Same for me - I can be very outspoken - I have actually learned to curb that in a business context.

I also enjoy giving presentations - sometimes I feel I can play a different role when I put a suit on
 

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You're not alone! I'm really loud sometimes (like really loud haha). It all depends on who I'm with, what situation, how many cans of pepsi...

Agree with njchick - when I'm talking about something I'm fervent/passionate about I turn into a motor mouth. Sometimes during whimsical debates, sometimes talking about things I love.. the likes.
 

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I'm exactly the same. When I am around people I am comfortable with I am frequently the dominant talker, but around people I don't know I am very reserved.
 

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I'm on the same page as you. I've had friends tell me to stop talking so they can speak LOL My ENFP friend is convinced I talk more than I listen.
 

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I'm pretty much the same. Whenever I dont know people around me, I'll just be shy and not really make any adventurous remarks. Once I get to know people better, I dont hesitate to make joke, speak loudly and make a fool of myself.

Also, I tend to quiet down when I'm group situation that involve too many people. Over 4 or 5 people, I start to disappear and spectate instead of participating.

That might be an introvert thing though.
 

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Not here. I am never loud. I speak with a very soft voice, when I speak at all, and I am often asked to speak up. In fact everything I do is quiet, ad I do not much care for loud noises (particularly obnoxiously loud trucks or motorcycles). Given enough wine and a topic I am sufficiently passionate about, I do tend to talk incessantly, though still in a very quiet voice.
 

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I am not loud, but i certainly enjoy socialising and meeting new people. The most invigorating thing is *connecting* with others. I am curious and interested in people, and i ask lots of questions and discuss/fish for similiar experiences with others.

My friends tell me i am a good socialiser and i appear confident with strangers! i have definitley developed my extroverted feeling side over the years. It is a useful interpersonal skill :happy:
 

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They really need to change the description to: INFJ's are often quiet in unfamiliar situations but when they are in their comfort zone a muzzle may be needed because they don't shut up!

I can be quite loud when I'm comfortable.
 

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I am loud and outspoken. If it's someplace I am familiar with, I am pretty uninhibited.

But I am not extroverted at all. At the end of the day, I am pretty drained.

And also, very, very shy in emotional encounters and quiet/diplomatic in situations where everyone is arguing. (just in case youre curious)
 
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