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Generally I hate passive aggressive who run their mouth to me and are pussies and find myself either rediculing them to get their goat or punching them in the face. Once I socked a guy twice and put him to sleep. Another time I got in ones face during a group project and told him "if he wants to get his ass kicked, I'd keep talking to me like that." My ISTP buddy told me to calm down. I find that they are very basic people aka SJ personalities. Don't think I'll ever come down to sympathize with such weakness. Honestly I can't tell who's worse, me or them?
 

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You have anger issues, go to a therapist.
The INFJ who used to be my therapist causes me plenty. Stupidity in the absense of common sense agitates me.
 

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then find a different one before you seriously hurt someone and/or end up in jail
Yeah, had my car stolen and the suspect lives in my dads neighborhood.if I were him, I'd be very afraid because A. We're in Texas B. He's gonna lose everything because of it. Suing the fuck out of the guy and pressing charges. Also I've busted knoses, lips and jaws so no worries. Been jumped before.
 

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No there are others like you. (I do not relate). Although I have had anger issues at times they manifest in different ways. I can't logically out loud written or verbally, rationalize I am justified in actually being intentionally and deliberately consciously aggressive. I don't care for some passive aggressive delivery at times myself, but my reaction is not to get physically hostile deliberately.

I am going to be honest though because you asked. I think people who can't afford to lose jobs and property learn to mature and suck up the fact sometimes others get their upper hand and jabs in. Often when I have seen people who seem to react the way you describe with more ease I think it's because they have less to lose. I just think people with more to lose who are dependent on little means tend to be practical about at least maturing when it comes to handling their reaction. Because they literally can't afford the backlash of potential consequences, which creates more self regulation. If those with less means fuck up they face charges and they are fucked. While other people can afford to get out of some backlash and it will not be as detrimental to their conduct and outcome.

If something came to litigation and I had to sue, I would consider their restitution and time served and record, suitable justice and not be compelled to put justice in my own hands or waste any more energy on the person.

I do grasp however that your car was jacked and that would be frustrating and it's valid you're pissed. I just don't get the approach or reaction.
 

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You have anger issues and you also have major depression which reflects itself as arrogance. You are at a stage where you are causing danger to others and you sound proud of it. This is a sign of low self-esteem. This is nothing to be proud of. Being tough doesn’t make you look strong it makes you look weak. Look for help as you can. Like now!


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No there are others like you. (I do not relate). Although I have had anger issues at times they manifest in different ways. I can't logically out loud written or verbally, rationalize I am justified in actually being intentionally and deliberately consciously aggressive. I don't care for some passive aggressive delivery at times myself, but my reaction is not to get physically hostile deliberately.

I am going to be honest though because you asked. I think people who can't afford to lose jobs and property learn to mature and suck up the fact sometimes others get their upper hand and jabs in. Often when I have seen people who seem to react the way you describe with more ease I think it's because they have less to lose. I just think people with more to lose who are dependent on little means tend to be practical about at least maturing when it comes to handling their reaction. Because they literally can't afford the backlash of potential consequences, which creates more self regulation. If those with less means fuck up they face charges and they are fucked. While other people can afford to get out of some backlash and it will not be as detrimental to their conduct and outcome.

If something came to litigation and I had to sue, I would consider their restitution and time served and record, suitable justice and not be compelled to put justice in my own hands or waste any more energy on the person.

I do grasp however that your car was jacked and that would be frustrating and it's valid you're pissed. I just don't get the approach or reaction.
Not gonna lie, I own 3 guns and am worried that the police officer maybe hurt during the arrest and that's been weighing on my mind. Think the charges going down will be as easy as a subpoena for the store they came out of POS sale and warrant being issued. Due to the guy going to jail, his wife/his bank account eventually being depleted in 6 months to a year will force his house into foreclosure and being sold which allows me to recover the lein im gonna file. He goes to jail, I get a restraining order he violates that=back to jail for him or worse due to me Not having an option if my life's on the line. I don't want to hurt them unless I don't have an option to do so.
 

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You have anger issues and you also have major depression which reflects itself as arrogance. You are at a stage where you are causing danger to others and you sound proud of it. This is a sign of low self-esteem. This is nothing to be proud of. Being tough doesn’t make you look strong it makes you look weak. Look for help as you can. Like now!


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wouldnt necessarily state that, I just don't like insecure people projecting their weakness onto me, don't respect it or care to tolerate it thus I take action to dissuade the person from continuing. Never had depression, had ptsd. Dealt with aggressive people my whole life, don't see much reason to change.
 

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wouldnt necessarily state that, I just don't like insecure people projecting their weakness onto me, don't respect it or care to tolerate it thus I take action to dissuade the person from continuing. Never had depression, had ptsd. Dealt with aggressive people my whole life, don't see much reason to change.
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You are super arrogant. Who are you to not care to tolerate others? Who do you think you are to judge others for being stupid or insecure or to give them a lesson? Who are you to demand them to act a certain way? And they dont act according to your demands, you choose to be nasty and trashy towards them? You are not better than anyone else.
A person like you shouldn’t even own a cutting knife yet alone three guns.
You are judging people for being weak but you are the weakest link in this whole thing.
 

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You are super arrogant. Who are you to not care to tolerate others? Who do you think you are to judge others for being stupid or insecure or to give them a lesson? Who are you to demand them to act a certain way? And they dont act according to your demands, you choose to be nasty and trashy towards them? You are not better than anyone else.
A person like you shouldn’t even own a cutting knife yet alone three guns.
You are judging people for being weak but you are the weakest link in this whole thing.
nope, their behavior is uncalled for. It is not socially acceptable, nor is it merited. You know that and I know that. However I can see where your coming from. You assume I'm weak because I stoop to their level. I can't help it, some people are pussies. You wouldn't be making personal attacks, unless you mentally framed yourself as weak.Not better than anyone else, I've had my IQ checked and am a superior intelligent. It's not hard to pick the incongruity out in someone's flawed logic. I don't go outta my way to do that though. If there wasn't an improper action, then there wouldn't be an improper response. No?
 

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Not gonna lie, I own 3 guns and am worried that the police officer maybe hurt during the arrest and that's been weighing on my mind. Think the charges going down will be as easy as a subpoena for the store they came out of POS sale and warrant being issued. Due to the guy going to jail, his wife/his bank account eventually being depleted in 6 months to a year will force his house into foreclosure and being sold which allows me to recover the lein im gonna file. He goes to jail, I get a restraining order he violates that=back to jail for him or worse due to me Not having an option if my life's on the line. I don't want to hurt them unless I don't have an option to do so.

I don't agree with any of this mentality like at all.

There is a difference between being vindictive vs seeking justice & restitution. Even in a case which someone fucked you over.

Trying to figure out if you're a troll trying to portray and encourage the sociopath ESTP stereotype. Seriously this makes me think of that movie with what's his face Christian Bale, and at the beginning he got bent and pissed at others offending his ego and getting their jabs in and he becomes a serial killer. Not in anyway saying you are one, but WTF there is nothing healthy about casually discussing taking a life premeditated over a theft when it's not in self defense.

And yes I actually have lost all my possessions at the hands of one persons idiocy a few years back. I can't say trying to think out the fault laws and how I could wriggle a murder if I didn't get the outcome I wanted was at the top of my mind.
 

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I understand getting upset with people, but sometimes, you've gotta just let things go and be the bigger person.

Also, you never know what someone else is going through. Maybe they had a rough day. Maybe their spouse cheated on them. Maybe they lost their job. Maybe their parents hate them or used to abuse them. Maybe they never had parents.

Sympathy isn't weakness, and if you can learn to develop it, even for "basic" people, then you will end up victorious in that you will have peace of mind—you won't let them control your actions or emotions.

You sound like you've been through a lot, and that's made you tough no doubt. But it's probably taken it's toll on you, and it might help you to see a therapist. Nobody is perfect, and that's okay; no single human being in existence is "too good" to see a therapist.

Just be patient with people and remember that punching people in the face is rarely the best option (I hesitate to say never, because there always seems to be an exception to every rule). If your friend tells you to calm down, they are trying to help you, not hinder you, and it would be wise to listen to their counsel.

Also, don't think about "who is worse" so much—try to think more from the perspective of "What is the best/most helpful thing for me to do in this situation?" Focus on yourself and controlling your actions, and don't worry about other people so much. People are dumb sometimes, and like I said before, don't be too quick to judge, because you never know what someone might be going through.
 

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I don't agree with any of this mentality like at all.

There is a difference between being vindictive vs seeking justice & restitution. Even in a case which someone fucked you over.

Trying to figure out if you're a troll trying to portray and encourage the sociopath ESTP stereotype. Seriously this makes me think of that movie with what's his face Christian Bale, and at the beginning he got bent and pissed at others offending his ego and getting their jabs in and he becomes a serial killer. Not in anyway saying you are one, but WTF there is nothing healthy about casually discussing taking a life premeditated over a theft when it's not in self defense.

And yes I actually have lost all my possessions at the hands of one persons idiocy a few years back. I can't say trying to think out the fault laws and how I could wriggle a murder if I didn't get the outcome I wanted was at the top of my mind.
dont think you read the part where I said I don't want ANYONE getting HURT. This scenario is speculative at best. No telling which way things will play out till they do. If I was a sociopath, I wouldn't care either way.
 

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You definitely have unresolved anger issue and you create situations where you can lash out at people just to prove that you are an angry person....or trolling us :wink:
 

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dont think you read the part where I said I don't want ANYONE getting HURT. This scenario is speculative at best. No telling which way things will play out till they do. If I was a sociopath, I wouldn't care either way.
I would never call someone a sociopath. I am not qualified to do so and it's not my place. I have no idea. I was telling you what you're describing sounds like the first half of that movie before he kills. I would hope for your sake you're not one. My point was not to label you as one but to put into perspective how this is coming across to the general public.
 

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I understand getting upset with people, but sometimes, you've gotta just let things go and be the bigger person.

Also, you never know what someone else is going through. Maybe they had a rough day. Maybe their spouse cheated on them. Maybe they lost their job. Maybe their parents hate them or used to abuse them. Maybe they never had parents.

Sympathy isn't weakness, and if you can learn to develop it, even for "basic" people, then you will end up victorious in that you will have peace of mind—you won't let them control your actions or emotions.

You sound like you've been through a lot, and that's made you tough no doubt. But it's probably taken it's toll on you, and it might help you to see a therapist. Nobody is perfect, and that's okay; no single human being in existence is "too good" to see a therapist.

Just be patient with people and remember that punching people in the face is rarely the best option (I hesitate to say never, because there always seems to be an exception to every rule). If your friend tells you to calm down, they are trying to help you, not hinder you, and it would be wise to listen to their counsel.

Also, don't think about "who is worse" so much—try to think more from the perspective of "What is the best/most helpful thing for me to do in this situation?" Focus on yourself and controlling your actions, and don't worry about other people so much. People are dumb sometimes, and like I said before, don't be too quick to judge, because you never know what someone might be going through.
Thank you for the response. I keep telling myself every day, maybe I should listen more. But I find myself at crossroads of my decisions. You can't force someone to behave proper, but you can stand up for yourself when someone is being improper. If you have time I'd like to pm you if that's ok with you, if not I won't be offended.
 
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I would never call someone a sociopath. I am not qualified to do so and it's not my place. I have no idea. I was telling you what you're describing sounds like the first half of that movie before he kills. I would hope for your sake you're not one. My point was not to label you as one but to put into perspective how this is coming across to the general public.
I've known 3 people my whole life who had the title aspd next to their name. I spent a great deal of high school keeping 2 of them out of trouble, I don't particularly like them so to speak as one of them was a 2 time convicted rapist and con man. When I see them in public now a days, I keep my distance. I'd highly accuse myself of being narcisstic but don't care to be in the same boat as them because I know what/how they are.
 

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I've known 3 people my whole life who had the title aspd next to their name. I spent a great deal of high school keeping 2 of them out of trouble, I don't particularly like them so to speak as one of them was a 2 time convicted rapist and con man. When I see them in public now a days, I keep my distance. I'd highly accuse myself of being narcisstic but don't care to be in the same boat as them because I know what/how they are.
Good

But i think you need to go in and talk to someone and treat your PTSD before you end up unhinged and something happens there is no coming back from.
 
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