My husband is an ESTJ. His parents usually visit us two or three times a year, and have stayed as long as three weeks:shocked:, but usually stay anywhere from 8 days to two weeks. My husband has a job that requires long days and usually gets home at about 8:00pm, so he spends very little time with them when they're here. I work part time and have kids to cart around to lessons and appointments, and I cook dinner every night. I stay busy. And, of course, INFP that I am, I need substantial time alone. And I just can't relax knowing there are people in the house who think I'm "hiding" from them when I spend an hour in my room.
It drives me absolutely insane to come home from work to guests in my house. They totally take it over - they cook large meals, using all my cookware and tupperware, do my laundry while I'm at work (which is a disaster waiting to happen, as there are things I don't put in the drier and my MIL dries everything on HOT - not to mention that I don't care to have my MIL folding my underwear) and just generally live like they do in their own home. And chit-chat incessantly.
If I suggest outings, they don't want to go. ("Oh, that's okay, we'd rather just hang around here.") If I suggest going out to eat, my MIL cooks instead ("Oh, there's not need for that, I'll be happy to cook.").
We spend every Thanksgiving and Christmas with them (at their house) plus one visit in the summer, so it's not like we don't see them. (They live several hundred miles away.) A couple of years ago they were at our house for a total of two months out of the year, not including the time we spent at their house. (And, as for visiting them, I feel that situation is out of my hands and is between them and my husband - they love hosting houseguests, so what they do in their own home is, to me, unrelated to what I prefer in mine. )
My husband is mad at me for finally standing up for myself and telling him I can't do the long visits anymore. I'm willing to host them for four nights, and that's it. My husband doesn't lift a finger to help prepare the house for them, and doesn't spend more than an hour or two in the evenings with them, and a lot of the time they don't even talk, they just sit and read together.
Am I justified to feel taken advantage of, or am I "too emotional" and "wrong" to feel this way?

It's beginning to cause problems in our marriage.