But anyway... I know I should move on and stuff, and I am, little by little... I am realizing that I deserve nothing but the very best, that he's a bit too odd sometimes for me to understand, and he's a bit emotionally stunted and can be a bit harsh with his words... But, my heart still yearns for him for some stupid reason. He's such a loser, but he was my loser, and he was adorable if it wasn't for his major insecurity issue that was probably the sole reason he dumped me for. Sorry to hear. Definitely was his issues not yours, it probably had very little to do with you from his perspective.
I've been through a lot of relationships and even a 3 month marriage once and remember once hoping that at least it should get easier over time, as I become a bit jaded with age. But to be honest it never has, not for me anyway, I do have a habit of going all in, probably like most infp's, so the eventual drop feels that much harder, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
It's well worn and cliched but the only answer and eraser is time. I went out today on my first date, with another infp funny enough, after a bad break up just over a year ago, and yes it took that long to get over her and to move on. I used to chastise and condemn myself for not being able to get over people sooner, now I just honor my feelings and who I am and what it takes, there's no point in adding more pain to the equation, we are sensitive people.
I'll add one other quick thing, I'm not saying this pertains to the OP of this thread whatsoever, but for some people who go through a lot of pain, rumination, obsessive and possibly suicidal thoughts, its worth exploring attachment issues. If you feel you need someone to complete you or can't go on without them, it's sometimes a signal that you had some childhood issues that left you feeling incomplete, often important mother bonding or a distant father at a very early age, that later get projected in adult relationships. There are a lot of books and therapists available on this subject that can bring about change.
I've been through a lot of relationships and even a 3 month marriage once and remember once hoping that at least it should get easier over time, as I become a bit jaded with age. But to be honest it never has, not for me anyway, I do have a habit of going all in, probably like most infp's, so the eventual drop feels that much harder, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
It's well worn and cliched but the only answer and eraser is time. I went out today on my first date, with another infp funny enough, after a bad break up just over a year ago, and yes it took that long to get over her and to move on. I used to chastise and condemn myself for not being able to get over people sooner, now I just honor my feelings and who I am and what it takes, there's no point in adding more pain to the equation, we are sensitive people.
I'll add one other quick thing, I'm not saying this pertains to the OP of this thread whatsoever, but for some people who go through a lot of pain, rumination, obsessive and possibly suicidal thoughts, its worth exploring attachment issues. If you feel you need someone to complete you or can't go on without them, it's sometimes a signal that you had some childhood issues that left you feeling incomplete, often important mother bonding or a distant father at a very early age, that later get projected in adult relationships. There are a lot of books and therapists available on this subject that can bring about change.
