What kind of people are you usually attracted to and how do you deal with it?
Slight mix, similar to Molock's. For first attraction: quiet and private gals or those who exhibit an independent mind that is even better. For the quiet ones tho', would like them to exhibit subsequently the latter qualities.
I usually try to engage them by finding out more about them (asking questions), probing until I come across something that they're passionate about and get them to talk about it. It helps me to understand them better and satisfies my intellectual curiousity.
Is it the appearance or the personality that does it for an INTP?
As a guy, appearance does matter (pleasant looks). However, I prefer understated looks, 'cos it's a indication that this person is possibly much more on the inside.
Do first impressions count?
Yes. But if I like the person, i'll know better than to depend on that. In "establishing truth", I feel compulsed to go deeper. It's all about that analytical streak in us, whether be it person, theory or useless facts.
Are you the first to make a move or not and how do you act around the particular person? Do you withdraw even more or feel more open with him/her?
I will make the first move, and if I find that I can "connect", I will feel liberated to be open with him/her.
--> I am curious, have any other INTP's eventually come to hate the people they had a crush on. It takes a long time to develop but I've found that I have come to hate my past crushes. They become enemies in my mind because they caused me to feel emotions I am not used to (which ultimately led to nothing).
My personal analysis is that it requires a lot of myself to put out an "emotional investment". Once this "investment" provides paltry returns, I get incredibly upset because:
1) My Ne is compromised 'cos I'd made assumptions about the person, in particular expecting a reciprocation of interest from her. Notwithstanding that it is extremely naive to assume that people behave the way you expect them to.
2) My Fe investment, which to me costs much more than anyone thinks, has been wasted.
3) My Si will subsequently just keep "replaying" the episode in my mind.
4) My Ti will continue to analyse the "replays", usually in a negative fashion.
For me, this only happens after I've taken the step to be "open" with the person. If it's just a crush that was never acted upon, it would be dismissed as irrelevant.
Slight mix, similar to Molock's. For first attraction: quiet and private gals or those who exhibit an independent mind that is even better. For the quiet ones tho', would like them to exhibit subsequently the latter qualities.
I usually try to engage them by finding out more about them (asking questions), probing until I come across something that they're passionate about and get them to talk about it. It helps me to understand them better and satisfies my intellectual curiousity.
Is it the appearance or the personality that does it for an INTP?
As a guy, appearance does matter (pleasant looks). However, I prefer understated looks, 'cos it's a indication that this person is possibly much more on the inside.
Do first impressions count?
Yes. But if I like the person, i'll know better than to depend on that. In "establishing truth", I feel compulsed to go deeper. It's all about that analytical streak in us, whether be it person, theory or useless facts.
Are you the first to make a move or not and how do you act around the particular person? Do you withdraw even more or feel more open with him/her?
I will make the first move, and if I find that I can "connect", I will feel liberated to be open with him/her.
--> I am curious, have any other INTP's eventually come to hate the people they had a crush on. It takes a long time to develop but I've found that I have come to hate my past crushes. They become enemies in my mind because they caused me to feel emotions I am not used to (which ultimately led to nothing).
My personal analysis is that it requires a lot of myself to put out an "emotional investment". Once this "investment" provides paltry returns, I get incredibly upset because:
1) My Ne is compromised 'cos I'd made assumptions about the person, in particular expecting a reciprocation of interest from her. Notwithstanding that it is extremely naive to assume that people behave the way you expect them to.
2) My Fe investment, which to me costs much more than anyone thinks, has been wasted.
3) My Si will subsequently just keep "replaying" the episode in my mind.
4) My Ti will continue to analyse the "replays", usually in a negative fashion.
For me, this only happens after I've taken the step to be "open" with the person. If it's just a crush that was never acted upon, it would be dismissed as irrelevant.
