lol this is probably why my INTP crush keeps saying "damn you!" after he acknowledges something he likes about me. I said relationships are just friends with benefits and he suggested enemies with benefits xD At first this confused the crap out of me, I kept thinking he was fucking with me, doesn't really like me and is just stringing me along.. but perhaps it really makes him feel too vulnerable (or just frustrated)? I didn't think I could have that sort of effect on him, and when we had an argument he said he wouldn't care if I walked out of his life. He then said it was a defense, but it made me wonder whether perhaps it's just easier for INTPs to detach from others and have a lower threshold for what they can tolerate as "unnecessary emotional baggage"? How quickly can you get over a crush and what would it take for you to do so?
...That is bizarrely similar to how I generally deal with having affections for someone. Bitterly, coldly, playfully sarcastic about emotion, etc.
It is definitely easier to just be detached from others, but once you're caught in the malestrom of infatuation it's just like a loop of metacognition - does not stop unless there's an immediate, realistic, PRESENT factor indicating futility (such as distance, situational inconveniences that lead to improbabilities, deliberate non-reciprocation, etc). There's an alarm in my brain: MUST NOT ENTERTAIN ROMANTIC THOUGHTS
that is quieted by the forces of evil.