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I am an XNTJ

As I understand it, you are an

an introvert if you are energized by spending time alone
an extrovert if you are energized by spending time with others

I concluded I was an extrovert because the two days a month I would hang out with people, I would get energized. However, recently I have been urged to be more social, and I end up going out 4 days a week. I no longer feel energized by people as of now. I'll describe how I do feel now, and if someone could tell me if this sounds like introversion or something else...

First and foremost I feel physically and mentally tired. At the same time, I feel immense relief and excitement (could that be called a type of energy?) at doing my alone things; TV, posting, reading, thinking. I'm now no longer in the mood to go out. And when I'm strong armed into it, I'm cranky, bored, impatient, and I start seriously disliking people--loudly in my head. Normally I try hard to consider the others feelings, but not now. Yesterday I was made to go out when I didn't want to. When the girl left because things were going so badly, I felt very pleased. When she texted to say she was coming back to work things out, I felt very depressed.

Is this how introverts react to large amounts of socializing? My alternate theory is that I simply don't like anyone I see, and thus being rid of their company is like being freed from prison, and the contrary for the contrary.

however I do enjoy texting with people on occasion, just infrequently and for short amounts of time.

Any thoughts on an explanation for these reactions?
 

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An introvert doesn't hate socialising. An extrovert doesn't hate time alone. It's all about balance. Introversion and extroversion is on the same spectrum.

You seem more like an introvert than an extrovert. People are naturally social creatures; we need social interaction. So even an introvert would enjoy spending time with people doing so-called extroverted activities. Introverts just need less of that kind of stimulus, and grow tired before an extrovert does. It's all about how much you can handle, I imagine.

I have an INTJ friend that reacts very much like you when she is forced into social stimulus that she doesn't want. She loves going out on occasion and seeing people and doing all kinds of social things, but she's told me she loves going back home to be alone and delve into books and TV without anyone else around.
 

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Good post ^^
I read at first that most INFPs typically avoid all social interaction, but I really like meeting strangers and spending time with new people. I find it quite energizing because of the novelty and adventure of connecting with new people. An FP thing maybe? I also like big parties with friends quite a lot. I always feel and urge to "just get out and do something" but I've realized that's because the majority of my time is spent alone being energized (unbeknown to me) then, when I was pushed to have constant interactions, I didn't realize how much much it actually drained me. I just can't keep up like an extrovert. And when drained, it would also make me harsh and insensitive to any person pressuring me to do or say anything, often feeling very violent in my head too.
Sounds to me like normal introversion :wink:
 

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I'm actually in the process of confirming my MBTI because I'm not sure if I'm INTP or ENTP. :p But for me, I don't like prolonged social interaction. I burn off a lot of energy in a short amount of time because in social situations I'm comfortable with, I can be a bit loud and certainly very Ne-strong. Say in a work week where I already have to interact with people almost everyday, but not for leisure, then I'd say going out once a fortnight or once a week at the very most is enough for me. I don't mind lunches every second day with people given that they're short and involve, say, max 3 people. Idk what my ratio would be though... go figure. :p

I do have an ESFP friend who is practically 95% social, 5% quiet. He is always out, always interacting with people. He plans lots of outings and always has someone to see most everyday. Back when we lived in the same residential college, he would sleep with his door open. He said he didn't like closing the door because he wanted to feel like he was with people all the time. His room connected to the common area where other people would walk through to get to their rooms. So yeah, he's very extroverted. ^^
 

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I don't interact outside a certain sphere a whole lot at all. Because I have an entrepreneurial business with my sister who is also my best friend :p

Week days, I spend the morning alone usually online writing my bf or photo editing with a few mellow interactions with my family. After a couple hours of that, I'm ready a for a cur-rousing breakfast conversation with my hysterical family :D I'll talk to some strangers around my neighborhood, on the town square, in my shop and in other stores and quite enjoy myself. Then at the end of the day I have more fun with my family and at the end shut myself in my room and wind down. Saturdays I'll go out and usually talk to strangers all day. So I'd say I'm about 50/50. But it takes that alone time to be able to do that.

I had an extroverted brother and sister though, ENFP and ESFP who pretty much needed constant interaction. I'd only see them maybe half and hour a day sitting still. My ESTP dad and ESTJ brother however, don't interact as much as the feelers. I'll find my brother for hours reading alone or my dad walking around silent because he's thinking or working a problem out in his head. I'd say they interact less than I do.. maybe 40/60?
 
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