Idealists are definitely a needed force in the world because they help us move forward and evaluate the big picture.I'm not saying people shouldn't have ideals or shake things up, or advocate...but sometimes it is important to be careful how you go about it--because people can be affected. I don't know, I would just prefer to live my life without having to follow "something bigger". I would rather live my life in kindness and empathy, take care of my family and friends--and live out my values in a plain and simple way. Does that make sense? I feel like I was rambling...
Just wanted to add, in case I sounded too negative...I am thankful for the idealists of the world...they expose problems and instigate change in our world...but what I am concerned with is how the details affect us, and there are implications too to be considered whenever changes are made.
I think the main point is to achieve a relationship where mutual respect is given for the desired emotional connection. I don't like a partner to place expectations on me that I cannot meet, especially those that are emotional. It's not something I can change, because I am always somewhat emotionally modest to everyone around me. I don't want people to know or have 200% of me. This creates a feeling of overexposure and insecurity within myself. A healthy relationship to me is two independent individuals who enjoy each other ... which is what I have with my ISTJ husband of 15 years.
I really think placing these emotional expectations is setting up your relationships for failure. People open up at their own pace, and it's self centered to think that it has to be on your timetable. As much as I adore "NF"s, they tend to create problems that weren't there in the first place. I consider myself to be extremely "down to earth" and practical, and constantly lending my ears to NFs with problems. What I see is a milking of my encouragement to better themselves, and then I am left dry ... with no reciprocation in the exchange. I know I am allowing it, and it's in my helpful nature to do so. What I realize is that most "NFs" do not possess the ability to empower other people, which are words that I need to hear from time to time too.