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hey guys, this is actually going to be the first thread i start, so i'm not sure how well i am going to be able to explain what i need from you, but this is really a huge problem, and i am looking for a way to finally solve it.
my boyfriend, whom i believe to be an infp, is under the delusional idea that i might care more for an ex of mine than i do. i mean, sure, i am still friends with the ex, since i see no reason to break all contact just because we're not romantically interested in each other anymore, but, in my opinion, that's no reason to think there's "something there". i've tried convincing him with many methods, and every time after we've seemingly sorted it out he says that he's finally ok with it and understands, but in a while something little happens, like he finds an old photo of me and my ex on facebook or thinks that there's some hint about me being insincere to him in my poetry, and freaks out again. i don't think he actually understands how much this hurts me, because, what it basically means is - telling me he doesn't trust me.
so what should i do to convince him once and for all that i do not cherish any old memories or other people more than him?
i would really appreciate any insights on this, if this is an infp thing in any way - your experiences of jealousy and how did you overcome it, anything, actually, because i'm really lost here, since i am not a jealous person at all myself and therefore it's difficult for me to relate as much as needed to solve this, obviously.
my boyfriend, whom i believe to be an infp, is under the delusional idea that i might care more for an ex of mine than i do. i mean, sure, i am still friends with the ex, since i see no reason to break all contact just because we're not romantically interested in each other anymore, but, in my opinion, that's no reason to think there's "something there". i've tried convincing him with many methods, and every time after we've seemingly sorted it out he says that he's finally ok with it and understands, but in a while something little happens, like he finds an old photo of me and my ex on facebook or thinks that there's some hint about me being insincere to him in my poetry, and freaks out again. i don't think he actually understands how much this hurts me, because, what it basically means is - telling me he doesn't trust me.
so what should i do to convince him once and for all that i do not cherish any old memories or other people more than him?
i would really appreciate any insights on this, if this is an infp thing in any way - your experiences of jealousy and how did you overcome it, anything, actually, because i'm really lost here, since i am not a jealous person at all myself and therefore it's difficult for me to relate as much as needed to solve this, obviously.