WOW, thank you so much for speaking up. I am a white man, and I have been in a relationship with a black woman for 3 years. She is the LOVE of my life, and she has experienced a backlash like you wouldn't believe from the "black community" (hate saying that word like you hate saying 'african american'). Where do I begin....there's almost too much to say. Here it goes...
My girlfriend was ostracized from her family growing up for "talking white", listening to rock music, and taking an interest in school. Friends and family would tease her and put her down and say she was trying to act white. She actually has nothing to do with her family now because they are so ignorant and hateful. She is an indivudual who thinks for herself, and it is so upsetting to hear and see how other Blacks treat her. We are both conservative republicans, and we both voted for Mccain. She gave a speech in her college class about being a conservative and how the welfare state has created a culture of dependance in the black community. In the middle of class, a black woman stood up and yelled at her. After class, as my girlfriend was walking to her next class, a group of black women made fun of her and said she was trying to be white.
We have been heckled walking down the street in nearby cities by black men who say "go back to black!". We can't go into certain neighborhoods now that have high population of low income blacks because we are so afraid of getting harassed for being in an interracial relationship.
Personally, I wish this country would get past race and achieve the colorblind society that MLK dreamed of. Race is such a primitive idea and the whole concept needs to be done away with. It seems as if the civil rights movement was highjacked by payback racists like Sharpton and Jackson. There is such a large groupthink mentality among black Americans found little where else in the world. There are black student unions, churches, clubs, congressional caucuses, BET, etc. all because of white guilt and individuals who are too afraid to stand up and call them what they are: racially seperatist. These clubs do not unite the races, they divide them. We are all of one race: the human race. Double standards in this country have created a culture where blacks can "bond together" and have their own culture, while their mentaity is inherently racist. The idea that people are the same because of skin color is the same argument used by slaveholders, and it is a twisted irony how so many black americans still hold on to that primitive idea. No one can change America's past of racism and slavery, but the solution is not to have blacks practice payback racism and racial seperatism. Back to my girlfriend:
Recently, my girlfriend and I were watching ABC's nightline. A panel of black americans and a black audience were talking about the epidemic of single women in the black community. One woman on stage said that "the whites are stealing our men away". The audience of hundreds rose up and cheered. It made my girlfriend and I sick. If this was a white crowd and a white group of people on stage, it would be denounced as a racially supremacist and seperatist orginization. There is no such thing as reverse racism. Racism IS racism. There is a large amount of it coming from Black Americans, and everyone else sits around and watches it.
HERES THE WORST EXAMPLE THOUGH: My girlfriend was coming home on the train, sitting by herself, and a young black man selling rap CD's asked if she wanted one. She politely said "no thank you". He then told her loudly for the whole train to hear "you have been hanging out with too many crackers!". A full train of people didn't say anything. In fact, a black woman called him over, not to tell him that what he said was racist and offensive, but to ask him if she could buy a CD. If this was reversed, and a white man was selling CDs of some stereotypical white music (if there is such a thing), and he went up to a black guy and he said "no thank you", and the white guy said "you have been hanging out with too many n-words" the train would have errupted, garunteed.
I completely agree with your original post. There is a groupthink, victomologist, separatist mentality among Black americans today. 96% of Blacks voted for Obama., and 90% vote democrat every election (the party of slavery, jim crow, anti-civil rights act, and policies that focus on race). I know race played a big role in the election for blacks, which is very sad. What's worse is how blacks treat other blacks who think on there own and don't kowtow to stereotypical black culture. This is in my opinon, one of America's biggest tragedies. MLK is spinning in his grave. I could go on and on and on, but I will stop, I think you get the picture. Again, thank you so much for being an individual and standing up for yourself. My girlfriend read your post and thought it was great, as did I. You are certainly not alone my friend.